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Aibu - using AI?

149 replies

finsberry · 16/04/2026 12:02

Im using AI for a lot of things and have become very dependent on it. Here are some examples

  • putting ingredients in and asking for recipes
  • translation
  • filtering potentially triggering news stories like the r* academy that I don’t want to google
  • Frequently for work
  • for general quick questions
  • occasionally to rewrite emails/ messages when the situation is sensitive

Aibu to think everyone is using it to this extent? I am using multiple times daily and pay.
yabu - not using it
yanbu - using it

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lemmein · 16/04/2026 13:15

Holesinmesocks · 16/04/2026 13:04

Not worried about AL nor do I fear it. I want to keep my brain sharp by using it and not relying on someone / something to do my thinking for me. I'm not a child who needs to be told how to think.

I guess people thought the same way about automatic cars/washing machines/calculators/online libraries.

You can keep your brain sharp doing things you want to do and get ai to do the shit you don’t.

bowchicawowwow · 16/04/2026 13:16

I’m not very good at writing softly worded emails and I can be a bit blunt and clunky. I use it to help soften the tone of the message I’ve composed and I find it helpful. I’ve also found it good for analysing a lot of qualitative user entered data and its spotted trends which I would have missed. I’ve always gone back to the original data and double checked it though.

finsberry · 16/04/2026 13:16

YorksMa · 16/04/2026 13:03

The work one is potentially unreasonable, depending on what you're actually doing.

Coding. Work pay.

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AgnesMcDoo · 16/04/2026 13:33

MistressoftheDarkSide · 16/04/2026 12:51

Do you not think that fear and defensiveness is a normal and rational response to something that is being flaunted as a replacement for human intelligence and purpose, and that is likely to destabilise every aspect of our lives faster than we can mitigate for on practical levels, and has the ability to exacerbate mental instability which is a growing by product of modern life? And that apparently we will have no choice but to accept if we want to survive?

yes it’s a normal and predictable response

there is certainly a rational for caution - it can be wrong, it has bias, it can be overused, data privacy, where it’s going

but much of the fear displayed on this thread and everyday fear comes from a lack of knowledge and prejudice

CerealNameSwapper · 16/04/2026 13:34

I use it for lesson plans (I coach DC in a sport), discount codes (that all work and have saved me loads of money), itineraries, and recipes.

It enhances my life, and has not turned me into an amoeba.

AgnesMcDoo · 16/04/2026 13:35

Holesinmesocks · 16/04/2026 13:04

Not worried about AL nor do I fear it. I want to keep my brain sharp by using it and not relying on someone / something to do my thinking for me. I'm not a child who needs to be told how to think.

The assumption that people who use AI don’t use their brains or rely on it to be told how to think is a clear example of a lack of understanding and prejudice

SirAlbusRumbledore · 16/04/2026 13:35

randomchap · 16/04/2026 12:05

So we're outsourcing thinking now. Getting computers to do it for us.

Can't see this being a good thing

Computers have been doing this for years. It’s a development

SirAlbusRumbledore · 16/04/2026 13:35

I think google will become defunct very quickly (as a search engine anyway - I know they have their own AI functionality)

clearlyy · 16/04/2026 13:42

I refuse to use it at all.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 16/04/2026 13:42

I don't use it for frivolous purposes, because burning up energy to help you menu plan is the height of stupidity.

I had a colleague have the sheer audacity to fact check my work using AI, and when he didn't get a positive response, told my manager I was doing my job wrongly. My manager asked me about it casually before explaining the source of it - and he was pretty sure the guy used AI slop before talking to me.

AgnesMcDoo · 16/04/2026 13:42

For those who say they never use it

I think you will find you do - every day

its built into all your streaming services, online shopping, work tools, uber, google maps, most of your apps, everyone you use a chat function on a website, your bank uses it to detect fraud

its everywhere

OtherTemporaryUsername · 16/04/2026 13:43

Need to divide AI (work tools, specific software for specific purposes) and LLMs.

Loads of interesting psych research coming out about use of LLMs at the moment. I recommend this podcast interview with two such researchers, and the risk of 'cognitive surrender'. Spoiler: they are not very optimistic. https://youarenotsosmart.com/2026/04/13/yanss-337-how-to-maintain-your-critical-thinking-and-avoid-cognitive-surrender-when-using-ai-to-solve-problems-make-decisions-and-learn-new-things/

LLMs are not search engines - they are prediction engines so being right is not their point; they may or may not be, depending on the training data they have been given, and you may or may not realise depending on your expertise. They are also designed to suck you in (cf the persuasive sycophantic language) and keep you there for your lovely juicy data. They can be tweaked to preference one or other viewpoint depending on the owner (cf Grok and Elon Musk), or funder (anyone remember Cambridge Analytica?). Never forget that they are BUSINESSES, at the whim of the money, not necessarily designed for the progression of humanity.

So yes, YABU to outsource your thinking to LLMs, and no, not everyone is doing so. Which will drive another polarising inequity wedge into society. And the environmental stuff, but sadly that argument is never enough to persuade people to step away and look critically at the shiny new toys.

YANSS 337 – How to preserve your critical thinking and avoid cognitive surrender when using AI to solve problems, make decisions, and learn new things

How is AI reshaping human reasoning? What is cognitive surrender, and how do we avoid its negative impact? What is system three thinking, and how can we get the most out of it? Artificial intellige…

https://youarenotsosmart.com/2026/04/13/yanss-337-how-to-maintain-your-critical-thinking-and-avoid-cognitive-surrender-when-using-ai-to-solve-problems-make-decisions-and-learn-new-things/

Empis · 16/04/2026 13:46

lemmein · 16/04/2026 13:15

I guess people thought the same way about automatic cars/washing machines/calculators/online libraries.

You can keep your brain sharp doing things you want to do and get ai to do the shit you don’t.

But they would have a point in some of those cases, wouldn't they. We did lose abilities because of them.

AI can keep its convenience and I will keep my skills. If you never do the shit you don't want to do, you will become incompetent at it, and I am not interested in that.

k92 · 16/04/2026 14:06

I use it to see how to fix things around my house.
I repaired my dryer the other day using it .

DramaAlpaca · 16/04/2026 14:38

I've never used AI at home.

At work we are encouraged to use it. I don't much; I can write a perfectly coherent email or report. However, yesterday I had to complete a risk assessment form, something I've never done before and wasn't sure about as it's not usually in my remit. I put it through Copilot which told me exactly what to do.

I thought it was great, actually, really helpful.

usedtobeaylis · 16/04/2026 14:54

MrsOni · 16/04/2026 13:13

I don't think for a lot of people it's just that you get crap out of it. For some people it's far more fundamental than that.

AI is environmentally horrible. It's taken over so many parts of the internet so as to render them unusable. It's removing the need for people to think for themselves, to research or critically evaluate things. It's already costing people their jobs and their livihoods and there is nothing the ordinary person on the street can do to stop that.

We're basically sleepwalking into an AI wilderness because a few big companies stand to make a mint out of it.

Don't get me wrong, I know that there are benefits from AI too, but we need to (or rather needed to, because it's probably too late now) pause and think about what kind of world we want, and legislate to control AI accordingly.

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It's not even removing the need for people to think for themselves, it's reinforcing how much people can't be fucked to think for themselves but how much they really should.

purpleme12 · 16/04/2026 14:55

I never use AI to be honest

usedtobeaylis · 16/04/2026 14:56

The fact that people seriously posit that AI is on a par with general technological progress like washing machines proves the fucking point more than anything.

ColdAsAWitches · 16/04/2026 15:07

CRbear · 16/04/2026 12:54

The newest models aren’t hallucinating anymore. The rate at which they’re improving is exponential. You can choose to use a newer model but the default will be the older ones which are quicker.

Nonsense. Copilot got something completely wrong to do with a soccer match last week and insisted a particular game in the calendar wasn't being played. When I told it that it was, it asked for proof. Even when I provided it with links, it told me " I can see why you think this game is happening, but it isn't." 50,000 people that attended would beg to differ.

So, not just hallucinating, it won't even accept accurate data provided

SassyButClassy · 16/04/2026 15:09

I refuse to use it for any reason. Gen Z refuses to use it, too.

They don't want to be replaced by AI.

I believe the news suggested that this is why Sam Altman's house was firebombed by a Molotov cocktail, twice, in recent days.

FreddysFingers · 16/04/2026 15:12

I use AI similarly to you OP, especially emails at work. I do think for and write content myself, but it's nice to get a second perspective on something.

YANBU

m00rfarm · 16/04/2026 15:14

I use it for reconfiguring sitting rooms/bedrooms - moving furniture around so I can see what it will look like before I put my back out and then not actually liking it.

TonTonMacoute · 16/04/2026 15:14

I use it most weeks, it is a useful tool which can save a lot of time. I do not feel in anyway that it is preventing me from using my brain 🙄

Apps like ChatGPT are only a tiny fraction of what AI can and is doing in industry, science and tech, you can see talks by the CEO of Nvidia on YouTube which will blow your mind. As PPs have said, you are already using it vicariously anyway, and you deciding not to use it will make no difference at all. The only thing that might put a spanner in the works is Miliband's net zero policy, in which case I suspect he will get punted.

MrsOni · 16/04/2026 15:17

The one use case for AI which can seriously, seriously get in the fucking bin is AI art of all kinds. It's literally weaponised plagerism on an industrial scale.

randomchap · 16/04/2026 15:19

SirAlbusRumbledore · 16/04/2026 13:35

I think google will become defunct very quickly (as a search engine anyway - I know they have their own AI functionality)

Edited

The Google AI results you get on a search are from the AI scraping the data from websites. They've bundled the search engine tool that determines where your site will be in the search results with their AI scraper. You won't be on Google results unless you allow it to scrape your site

This means that instead of Google taking you to where the info comes from, it'll show you an AI overview instead. Driving down web traffic. If sites get fewer and fewer views they become financially pointless and will shut down

What will happen is the AI will be training on other AI created content. Enshittification will happen

AI becoming ourboros, a snake eating itself