AIBU to plan a big party for a 69th?

[Mementodishwasher]

I would love to throw my mum a big party at some point because she loves socialising and dancing. I am painfully aware that she won't be around forever and I worry about the prospect of waiting for a big birthday and then her not making it. She is only 68 but we've had a few deaths in the family so maybe I'm overly worried about this.

This year she turns 69 and I'm in the position where I have the time and money to plan a party.

AIBU is: is it weird to throw a big, e.g surprise party with DJ etc, for not a "big" birthday? People would probably assume it was her 70th - would you be embarrassed/offended if you were in her position? Or bemused/ unenthusiastic about travelling a long way to attend a 69th (not that i would advertise her age as she doesn't openly discuss it)?

YABU - too weird, wait til 70
YANBU - throw a 69th

Thanks!

Well nobody else here can tell you if your mum will like it 😵‍💫😵‍💫

My mother would have been mortified if people knew her age, god forbid they thought she was even older (yes even by a year)!
If you think she’d be happy with a birthday party (my mother would not), then wait a year.

Do a Bill and Ted theme and get everyone to come as historical figures so you can all go "69 Dude!"

Presumably OP isn't planning to put up a banner saying 'just in case you don't see another one '. People have parties for insignificant birthdays all the time.

Do they though?

Maybe if that has always been the norm and there has always been a gathering for a particular person then they might be seen as a party person.
If it comes out of the blue, knowing a significant birthday is only a year away, then this likely to make people wonder why.

If we hosted a big party for my mum (which we wouldn't as she would hate it) there would be some guests who would want to stay over (travel distance, wanting to drink). There is also the issue over a gift. Usually when going to a big party then a larger gift than normal is given (we don't generally give to adults anyway apart from significant birthdays, so this would also confuse the situation).

It also then undermines what is done for the actual 70th birthday assuming mum doesn't die like the OP is concerned about.
So do they sell the early birthday as early due to other plans next year (big holiday instead)?

then you have another party the following year? Or do something else you enjoy?

I wasn’t aware that once you hit a certain age that parties are only allowed for “big birthdays”