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How do clairvoyants know things??

383 replies

Homer2 · 14/04/2026 13:45

I have never believed in this, I saw one once just for fun at my aunties house and she wasn’t great. She did say a few things that were accurate, but I put this down to being guesses or general vague things that would be relevant to the majority of people.

However, recently my friend went to one. She recently lost her dad and her partner. Without telling the clairvoyant anything, she knew how her partner died and what his name was. She mentioned my friends dad blowing kisses in a weird way, with the palm of his hand instead of his fingers, which is something he did used to do. How would she know these things??? I don’t honestly believe in it, but can’t understand how she’d know such specific things

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Pugglywuggly · 14/04/2026 13:46

Googling the person who makes a booking probably and Facebook stalking them. It's creepy and exploitative.

Lomonald · 14/04/2026 13:48

Guess work and listening to people talk, my dhs "auntie" used to do houses and she clearly was an absolute charlatan and would only do localish people and she would also read the local news papers,

LughLongArm · 14/04/2026 13:49

They don’t, OP. You weren’t there. You can have no idea what information she had about your friend in advance and about what your friend let drop inadvertently. It’s a disgusting way of preying on someone bereaved.

catipuss · 14/04/2026 13:49

Your friend was probably led into giving information. They say something vague and you feed back a bit more and they home in on a good answer. If they are good at it you don't realise that you actually fed them the answer. If you have an appointment in advance they may look you up on social media or on ancestry for family information.

UnaOfStormhold · 14/04/2026 13:51

Cold reading can be very powerful with a skilled person - watch some Darren Brown as he is scarily good at it but doesn't pretend it's anything other than trickery.

Lomonald · 14/04/2026 13:52

Derren Brown did a programme about it, I think it was on ch4 it was really interesting, was a few years ago now so might not be available on the catch up.

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 14/04/2026 13:52

Cold reading, the Barnum effect, Internet searches. Don't be fooled.

Lomonald · 14/04/2026 13:52

UnaOfStormhold · 14/04/2026 13:51

Cold reading can be very powerful with a skilled person - watch some Darren Brown as he is scarily good at it but doesn't pretend it's anything other than trickery.

Oh yes this 😀

AgentPidge · 14/04/2026 13:52

Some people can tune in to your thoughts and subconscious knowledge, like tuning into a radio station. Similar to Morphic Resonance. I knew someone who had this ability, and she said it was a curse. But note, they can only tell you something you already know - they can make predictions based on their experience or observations, but I don't see how they can know the future. This woman correctly told me (after I pushed her to tune in) that I was carrying twins and what their sexes would be. This was before I knew, but of course my body knew!

These are the people with that ability. There are also lots of charlatans around, who are clever in getting people to reveal stuff without them realising.

Lomonald · 14/04/2026 13:54

The woman i am on about was involved in the spiritualist church, I am sure they all went there to swap stories pick up tips and go through client lists to see who knew who.

TheMillionthBeautyAddict · 14/04/2026 13:54

I’m more shocked at how much a random stranger can learn about your mate from an online search tbh. Tell her to lock her info down better! Clairvoyants are all fake.

AStonedRose · 14/04/2026 13:55

AgentPidge · 14/04/2026 13:52

Some people can tune in to your thoughts and subconscious knowledge, like tuning into a radio station. Similar to Morphic Resonance. I knew someone who had this ability, and she said it was a curse. But note, they can only tell you something you already know - they can make predictions based on their experience or observations, but I don't see how they can know the future. This woman correctly told me (after I pushed her to tune in) that I was carrying twins and what their sexes would be. This was before I knew, but of course my body knew!

These are the people with that ability. There are also lots of charlatans around, who are clever in getting people to reveal stuff without them realising.

This isn't always true. I've been working on my ability to tap into 'morphic resonance' since my 20s and have some, limited, foresight ability in this vein. Not what's going to happen as such, but people's future utterances and statements.

MrsOni · 14/04/2026 13:56

AgentPidge · 14/04/2026 13:52

Some people can tune in to your thoughts and subconscious knowledge, like tuning into a radio station. Similar to Morphic Resonance. I knew someone who had this ability, and she said it was a curse. But note, they can only tell you something you already know - they can make predictions based on their experience or observations, but I don't see how they can know the future. This woman correctly told me (after I pushed her to tune in) that I was carrying twins and what their sexes would be. This was before I knew, but of course my body knew!

These are the people with that ability. There are also lots of charlatans around, who are clever in getting people to reveal stuff without them realising.

No, nobody can tune into your thoughts and subconscious knowledge. Nobody can read your mind and tell you something like you are carrying twins before you even have a scan.

It's a combination of cold reading, research into people from the information they put up about themselves on the internet, playing the %'s on demographics etc and confirmation bias.

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 14/04/2026 13:56

Cold reading. We’ve been to see Derren Brown a few times and one of the shows, he did a section where he got a good few people from the audience and set it up like he was clairvoyant. This was to prove that clairvoyance isn’t real or magic, and that everything he knew about the people he interacted with was purely from cold reading them. He told people so much about their lives! It was absolutely fascinating.

My SIL went to see a clairvoyant after FIL died and she was amazed by it. We all joked that if FIL (who was by no means tight, but very careful with money and made sure he didn’t waste it - and pressed upon us to be careful too) had wanted to contact her after he had gone, he certainly wouldn’t have done it via a medium who charged an arm and a leg!!😁

LughLongArm · 14/04/2026 13:58

AgentPidge · 14/04/2026 13:52

Some people can tune in to your thoughts and subconscious knowledge, like tuning into a radio station. Similar to Morphic Resonance. I knew someone who had this ability, and she said it was a curse. But note, they can only tell you something you already know - they can make predictions based on their experience or observations, but I don't see how they can know the future. This woman correctly told me (after I pushed her to tune in) that I was carrying twins and what their sexes would be. This was before I knew, but of course my body knew!

These are the people with that ability. There are also lots of charlatans around, who are clever in getting people to reveal stuff without them realising.

What utter nonsense.

’Morphic resonance’.🙄

youalright · 14/04/2026 14:00

Definitely checking socials before appointment

shhblackbag · 14/04/2026 14:02

Some people are skilled at research and cold reading. And once they have people talking, they pick up on clues.

Nothing mysterious about it.

Blondiebeachbabe · 14/04/2026 14:03

I believe in it. Didn't used to, but have had far too many weird things happen now.

Many years ago, I decided to leave my first H, due to his continued cheating. I had not told a living soul about this. One night my H was out, and I was sat browsing the internet looking at houses, to see what I could afford on my own. My phone then rang and it was my Mum. She explained that they'd been to the village hall that had a Medium night on. She went on to tell me, that a Medium had told her that she could hear someone calling out my name, and to tell me that a move of house was indicated, a good man, and happiness. My Mum obviously thought it was nonsense, as in her mind I was happy. I should add here, that I have a VERY unusual name. I did indeed leave, get a new house, and met my now DH.

This same Medium told my Mum that she would come into possession of a guitar in unusual circumstances, and that she would win the lottery. About a year after the reading, my parents were sitting in the garden at midnight, and a guitar came flying over the fence, and landed on the lawn. Then, a few weeks later, they did indeed win the lottery (£20k).

Mum is no longer with us, and I was watching a Medium on Tiktok, who told me that if you want contact from loved ones who have passed, you have to ask out loud for it and ask for a sign. I asked out loud for my Mum to show me a butterfly. I didn't tell anyone about this. A few weeks later, on Mother's Day, my DH gave me a card from the dogs. It was a plain card, with a pin badge in the centre of a beautiful butterfly. I wear it on my coat now.

Shortly after that, I asked my Mum to show me a bumblebee. The next day, I see a FB advert posted by a lady with the same name as my Mum, who happens to make woollen bumblebees. The name of her company was my Mum's favourite flower.

I asked about 2 weeks ago for Mum to show me a feather in an unusual place. The next day, my dog was sitting in the garden with a white feather stuck to his lips! This has never happened before!

DH and I were talking about MIL one day, she has also passed away. One of us said something a bit negative and a huge canvas flew off the wall.

I saw a Medium a few months ago - the first and only time I have ever done so. My friend booked it, and gave the Medium no details about us whatsoever, not even our names. This Medium knew my Mum's name. Not the initial or anything vague, she said the right name, first time. She also knew lots of things she had no way of knowing. She knew that the adoption my son was talking about, was no longer going to happen. She said my son was about to meet a new woman - this has now happened. She said that my Mum mentioned that someone had been taking naked selfies! Bear in mind, I'm mid 50's! I denied this of course, but actually I had sent DH a saucy selfie a few days before - the only time I have ever done so in our 17 years together. She knew what my husband's job is. She knew that I had a sibling that passed and what their name started with. She knew that the day after the reading was a special day for my Mum (it was their wedding anniversary).

My Mum went to see a Medium many years ago. She had just lost her sister. She (my aunt) was called Pauline, but close friends called her Polly for short. The Medium was rubbish. Went they all got up to leave, a woman who had been sat next to my Mum in the audience said "That guy was rubbish. He didn't give anyone any real detail. I mean, you'd want someone to say" :

"Hey, I have your sister here, her name was Pauline, but everyone called her Polly for short".....

My Mum was convinced that her sister used someone else to get the message through.

I have a few more like this. Very strange! I now believe! Just because you can't see something doesn't mean it isn't there. You can't see radio waves or your broadband signal, but they are very much there regardless!

EftlidtNZ · 14/04/2026 14:06

Cold reading. Internet. That's it.

Lomonald · 14/04/2026 14:07

EftlidtNZ · 14/04/2026 14:06

Cold reading. Internet. That's it.

Before the Internet it was just asking around or listening in to conversations.

Lomonald · 14/04/2026 14:08

Do people who believe in clairvoyance also believe in magic ? The mentalist magicians are using the same methods as clairvoyants

Spaghettea · 14/04/2026 14:09

When Derren Brown came to our town the two people I know who he picked, both had open facebook pages. Numpties.

Blondiebeachbabe · 14/04/2026 14:09

My Mum's readings were pre-internet, and therefore pre socials. My own reading was booked totally anonymously.

ThatWriterInTheCorner · 14/04/2026 14:10

They feed the person invitations (names, colours, dates...a whole stream of bits and pieces). Then they listen and watch for small clues thet show which invitations are recognised. Sometimes they will use pre-evwnt questionnaires to harvest information (or even just google names of attendees).

Some people are great at this to the point that it looks like communication with the dead. It is never, ever communication with the dead. Derren Brown is unbelievably good at this skill set. He also reminds his audiences,

continuously and explicitly, that it's an illusion.

Thechaseison71 · 14/04/2026 14:10

TheMillionthBeautyAddict · 14/04/2026 13:54

I’m more shocked at how much a random stranger can learn about your mate from an online search tbh. Tell her to lock her info down better! Clairvoyants are all fake.

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So if you want to see if these clairvoyant are genuine make the booking under a false name lol

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