To love the way people argue and bicker on here

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It’s become my guilty pleasure 😂 Especially when someone gives in …fxk this I’m out ✌️I’ve noticed how things can turn so drastically from friendly advice and opinions which were asked for to then people taking offence and arguing over who’s opinion is right. All the husbands that are completely unaware their wives are being advised to leave 🦆🦆 I’m here for all the drama and I love it 😒😙

To be fair, that's why most people are here 🍿

Do you get pleasure out of reading how unhappy and difficult a lot of peoples lives are OP? They are just there for your entertainment?

@ClassiclinesNo, do you?

I'm hugely frustrated when posters eg offer totally incorrect legal advice, goad folk on to make drastic decisions, recommend "witty comebacks" that are doomed to fail

But I like reading about other people's lives, as I'm fundamentally a nosy person

I'm not here for the arguments and hate when they become personal.

But honestly, I am fascinated by how many people tolerate nonsense in their daily lives. Useless husbands, rude in-laws and mean friends. I cannot fathom being willing to put up with some of the situations I see and accepting a life of misery/stress.
I found MN via the beauty threads and have drifted to AIBU like getting sucked into a soap opera.

I was thinking similar to this the other day when I was reading a thread from 2005 (I sought it out for a specific topic).

People, even when they disagreed were so respectful to each other and would actually listen when someone else said “sorry, I didn’t mean it like that” and allowed them to clarify what they actually meant.

Nowadays, nobody seems able to have a respectful debate or disagreement. It all immediately turns into attacking and name calling. I don’t know what’s changed, but it’s not nice.

This should probably be a separate thread, because it’s not really what you’re talking about, but it just reminded me of that 😂.

I’m here for all the drama and I love it 😒

Certainly makes it sound as though you don't take posters problems seriously.

No. You are completely wrong! Why don’t you fuck off? 🤣🤣🤣

Or when they reply to the initial post without reading any of the OP's updates.

So much is made up now that I treat a lot of it like a TV drama. I can’t believe how gullible so many people are and how involved people try to make themselves.

I find it fascinating the way people will argue and argue about small insignificant things. Eg on a thread about someone feeling happy and hopeful that spring is here, there is always someone banging on about how much they love winter and how they miss grey skies and "bracing rain". They can never just allow someone to express an opinion that they dont hold. Its really bizarre. Even after telling us how much they despise spring they can never just let it go, they have to argue and bitch at anyone who also dares to enjoy spring and come up with more and more outlandish and preposterous reasons why winter is "superior".

I often wonder what those people could achieve in life if they didnt spend all their time arguing about pointless shit online.

Argue and debate yes, not some of the insults that are posted. Fortunately the moderators seem more active than on most sites.

I don't like arguing for arguing's sake, but I like it when someone is BVVU and they get their arse handed to them on a plate.

I hate the nastiness and petty bickering on here. Pet hates are:

• reading betn the lines in the OP and making assumptions and deductions which are irrelevant and rude (eg It sounds as though you hate her! )rather than focusing on the question raised.
• nitpicking the OP about a phrase or terminology which might be slightly sub-optimal and deducing racism, sexism, misogyny, etc etc from it, especially when it's completely beside the point under discussion.
• accusations of pearl-clutching towards anyone who has different standards and boundaries: so tedious and patronising.
• Pile-ons: OK, OK, - the point has been made. Stop kicking the OP. It's just like the school playground.

I try to be polite at the very least. You can disagree firmly with someone and still remain polite and civilised.

I was on a thread the other day(about the Orange Monster) where I think it's fair to say that everyone agreed about his appalling-ness. But even so, there were a couple of pps absolutely determined to start fights by picking on others and accusing them of being apologists for Trump, when anyone with any comprehension at all could see they weren't. But pps like that don't engage with the discussion - they just drop in a semi-literate text accusing others of all kinds of things, and refuse to answer any questions.

I have given advice- sometimes personal and my opinion to people when asked and I have done it in a respectful and thoughtful manner. I don’t take pleasures reading about anyone’s hardship in life. My life is awful currently. I just find the bitching and like others have said the petty back and forth an entertaining. It is like a soap opera 😌

Some slightly hostile interactions can be entertaining, if both sides are matched and the subject matter is fairly benign.
However there can be some nastiness and really awful behaviour, e.g. I’ve seen, several times, a mother with poor SPAG asking for help as she’s in an abusive situation with her children but instead of advising, some twats will correct her spelling.

Another stupid thing is a poster comes on to a clearly titled thread to say they dislike or disapprove of its subject.
OP: “What tattoo design should I get?”
Annoying poster: “I think tattoos are horrible”
Maybe a thread about tattoos is not for you then?

Im still quite surprised at the huge push to break up relationships on here; there’s nothing some MNers like more than ending marriages. There’s never advice for couples therapy or talking things through, just “DH didn’t take the bins out” “LTB!”

However there can be some nastiness and really awful behaviour, e.g. I’ve seen, several times, a mother with poor SPAG asking for help as she’s in an abusive situation with her children but instead of advising, some twats will correct her spelling.

Yes, I've seen some horrible, insensitive posts which ignore the serious nature of the OP and pick on them for trivial reasons.

I've been on and off MN for about a decade and I do get upset at the nastiness you see on here. I was brought up to understand that a discussion/argument is not the same as a blazing row but some people go straight into insult mode if they don't agree with a poster. This always annoys me: argue your point, don't insult someone you don't even know.

Maybe it's a lack of ability to comprehend, or to construct an argument...or maybe it's because they are miserable and resentful in their own lives and just live to be able to lash out at other people.

Can't get enough of it 😂
Love a derail, response after response of petty bickering between two people who have already decided the other is an idiot to be mocked. Especially when it's over nothing, or something inconsequential, or has been left ambiguous by the OP.

Pure joy

I like it up to a point, but that point is often crossed.
I don't like it when it is used to get at an OP with a genuine problem but it does amuse me when a thread about parking suddenly ends in horror that someone has a yew tree in their garden and has not called the non-emergency police line about it. I also like the wit and humour used by posters in these occasions (once it's not too nasty).

I do love an "I'm out" only to see about 64 more posts by the same poster.

I think people tolerate more in their own lives than they advise others to, because they don’t necessarily see it. Also, people have peculiar ways of explaining things to themselves.

Gosh! A few months ago I got absolutely piled on a
thread about immigration. I said x (a least I meant x and it looked to me like I had written x). Anyway , a
poster came along and claimed I had said y, which was nothing like x. I explained further about how and why I meant x. I then I had about half a dozen people telling me I had definitely meant y and so therefore al was a liar. I was baffled.

In the same thread, I posted an article on BBC News containing a lot of factual info and again, I had an absolute pile on of people telling me I was naive to believe anything put out by the BBC.

I actually love a decent debate witb people of opposing views because it does help broaden everyone’s understanding and I find it genuinely interesting. However, I don’t think it’s great to be told I am a liar or naive. It’s rude and, frankly, just lazy to say that.

What do you put it down to? People copying Trump and Farage?

I’m assuming it’s come from social media platforms where anyone can spout any old shit and have the like-minded agreeing with them, thus reinforcing their ridiculous assumptions. People are getting more and more unnecessarily aggressive in general.

I sometimes find it incredibly amusing when people argue with me. I was on a thread about autism. I can’t remember what I said but somebody replied to my post saying that I knew nothing about autism and that everthything had said was incorrect (i hadn’t said anything controversial). I had great pleasure in telling them that I am autistic! 🤣 I’ve mo idea why they were so upset with what I’d said. I didn’t get an apology, obviously. That is my top favourite moment on MN ever (apart from the penis washing beaker thread).

Some of the posts on the feminism boards are quite entertaining due to the very hard line views on not treating transwomen as women in women’s only spaces. I think there are some grey areas and inclusivity should be considered where possible.

No it’s annoying when two people derail a thread for hours on end talking about something that’s nothing to do with the original thread. It’s childish.

Some of the replies (not this thread!) are just soooooo awful that I am surprised that the posters aren't being dissolved from the inside by their own bile and vitriol.

It must be absolutely exhausting to live with such bitter feelings.