To love the way people argue and bicker on here

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It’s become my guilty pleasure 😂 Especially when someone gives in …fxk this I’m out ✌️I’ve noticed how things can turn so drastically from friendly advice and opinions which were asked for to then people taking offence and arguing over who’s opinion is right. All the husbands that are completely unaware their wives are being advised to leave 🦆🦆 I’m here for all the drama and I love it 😒😙

That is majorly annoying and it happens all the time. I was reading a thread last week that was really active and the OP was getting really good advice. Two posters just kept arguing back and forth among themselves about something that really had nothing to do with the OP’s question.

It was like neither could stand to let the other have the last word no matter how ridiculous they sounded. I felt like telling them to fuck off and PM each other if it was that much of a big deal. Some people are genuinely just overgrown toddlers.

I read a random thread from around that time recently just to see what the tone was like. It was really mean. The OP had had an electrical shock and was asking for advice. Most of the responses were mocking her telling her she was probably going to die etc and at least one was correcting her grammar. It was actually worse than it is now.

Surely thats part of the chaos

I asked DH about this and he says you should log it with 111.

But isnt that just an example of trying to police how others interact?

The OP is about arguing and bickering. Not about reading the posts of unhappy and desperate people. But as this is an example of the former, it’s a “Yes, I do “?

Ooh, derail incoming! Prepare to be amused and argued with! That last sentence...😮

MN is bonkers, I love it.

As an academic, I particularly enjoy wandering into the Higher Education board and just absorbing the ignorance about universities. Its genuinely hilarious.

The reading boards tend to be actually very nice and supportive and conversational though.

Kindly, your DH sounds abusive. You should start getting your ducks in a row.

I don’t mind small disagreements but I hate when it goes on and on. Quite often it has nothing to do with the original post and I find myself thinking “just give it a rest mate”.

That’s a good point, and I do think it’s board-dependent. AIBU obviously requires a bit of a thick skin, and Relationships is generally kind and helpful, although can be direct (in a good way).

I spend a lot of time reading the food boards as I get a lot of great recipe ideas from there, and in general it’s really helpful and without nastiness. That being said, I remember reading a thread about soup makers last year sometime, and let’s just say I had no idea that people were quite so passionate about these or that it’s such a divisive gadget 😂.

It was the highlight of my easter holidays! Wrapped in a blanket on the sofa with some chocolate reading the MN boards!!

Potentially, yes, and while I agree that’s not a great thing to do, I also find it disrespectful to the OP, who in the case of the thread I was on really needed support.

I just don’t understand think tit for tat arguing for the sake of arguing or clogging up the thread is a nice thing to do, and it does make grown adults look a bit ridiculous - they could easily start their own thread if they just want to argue.

I actually hate the pettiness, argumentative and low IQ comments and it's given me a dim view of women that I didn't hold before...but I have to give my head a wobble and remember I don't act this way so these comments and attitudes are not representative of us all.

Oh, really? That’s awful. Maybe I was just lucky to land on a thread of well-mannered folks and it’s always been this way 😂.

I do agree with a PP, that some boards on MN are better than others, so I suppose it depends on that, but there’s never any excuse for the things in your example. That’s just nasty for the sake of nasty.

For balance you should read some comments on articles on the Daily Mail website. That will lower your opinion of the menfolk as well.

lol

I have to go against the grain and think the quality of the arguing is shit most of the time.

I read a thread recently where someone had said an untrue fact, another poster asked them for evidence & their response was “it’s not my job to research for you”. Someone else posted the actual facts with evidence and then said poster had a rant about “it’s what I see with my eyes”, “I don’t care what the ONS says”, etc.

How do you argue with that?

Another thread, a poster shared a Times article asking what “we” thought & I replied saying “you need a share token” which prompted a rude response and then when I explained no one can read the OP without it there was no apology or acknowledgment just huffiness. Bizarre 😆

Too many posters don’t read the threads properly.
Too many lack comprehension to understand what they have read.
Too many are thick to realise the above.

Throw in the posters who are bored, contrary, looking for a fight etc & I think why bother. But occasionally there is a gem of a comment or retort that cracks me up

Well fair enough but her post is pretty ambiguous and it certainly reads to me that she doesnt have much sympathy with the OP''s and their problems.

I actually don’t understand the point of bickering on here. I don’t mind being wrong and I think it’s good to hear different perspectives.

I get it OP, YANBU
There’s one topic on this site which is my guilty pleasure, of course I can never admit to it in real life as people have delicate feelings but I love the negativity and the pure heartbreak.
Can’t even explain why, perhaps I’m a little bit sadistic.

@CoffeeCantata Ive not see that thread but I did say before the last election Trump may win as he was still popular with many. Well that set off a poster who accused me of loving Trump, hating poor people, etc etc

Why don’t people understand acknowledging something doesn’t equal your personal opinion?

You see it a lot on the politics/labour threads too. If you say anything along the lines of we want European services but American taxes or lower earners here pay less tax vs other similar European countries etc someone will reply accusing you of loving Starmer, wanting to destroy business, etc 🤷🏻‍♀️

@EARCphilip im intrigued!

I am guilty of this, jump in with my wisdom only to discover the situation has evolved swiftly

Lol! Yeah I did think that too. I genuinely find the feminism boards equally entertaining and baffling. In real life there are almost always some grey areas and exceptions to the rules but not on those boards.