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MIL playing victim

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Mamibaba · 13/04/2026 12:39

I didn’t see my MIL whilst pregnant and only saw her twice in the previous 3 yrs (at events) and partner isn’t close to her. Now we have a baby she is playing victim saying that I do not let her see the baby even though I am the one who takes the baby to her house every few weeks for a visit as my partner refuses to see her. How am I the bad guy in this?

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Bridesmaidorexfriend · 14/04/2026 06:48

toomuchfaff · 13/04/2026 15:20

is it just this area that you absolutely roughshod over DP?

He said all through pregnancy he wanted nothing to do with his mother - you maintained contact.

He has nothing to do with his mother - you're facilitating visits and contact

DP seems like he has an issue; and its you.

Have you read her updates? He’s making it her responsibility to take DC to see them by pretending he’s to busy and telling them OP will bring baby.

OP you need to remove yourself from the situation and tell DP that if he either needs to block them or be honest that he isn’t interested in seeing them. If they are so bad he doesn’t want a relationship with them then he should be protecting his DC from them

S0j0urn4r · 14/04/2026 07:00

DP is the bigger problem.

OldHattie · 14/04/2026 07:22

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 14/04/2026 06:48

Have you read her updates? He’s making it her responsibility to take DC to see them by pretending he’s to busy and telling them OP will bring baby.

OP you need to remove yourself from the situation and tell DP that if he either needs to block them or be honest that he isn’t interested in seeing them. If they are so bad he doesn’t want a relationship with them then he should be protecting his DC from them

Yes, I agree with this^^

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