AIBU to feel annoyed about discounted attractions for benefit claimants?

[Sheldonsheher]

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15721199/Benefit-claiming-families-UK-attractions-working-Brits.html

I know I’ll get slated as the origin is the daily fail but, but this kind of annoys me too! I mean as a single parent I don’t want to pay £60 to go to the zoo either.

I don’t think it’s the amount that OP has a problem with, but the recipients. “I don’t want anybody to get a discount except for me”.

I was at tribunal with a client this month who's little girl has a life limiting condition, finally ending a 2.5 year fight for the correct level of DLA mobility. We won but at a huge emotional cost to the parents and an unnecessary battle through the HMCTS system. Just one example of why a lot of these threads make me so incredibly angry, when comments are added with no true concept of what many parents go through, or the distasteful assumption that parents carers are living some kind of charmed 'high life'. I'm flabbergasted about the school too in your case, 14 years ago that should never have been passed. And like many parent carers I meet you have one of the hardest jobs in the world which is also of course full of love and emotion.

I’m so sorry, that was such a horrible thing to say about your poor DD. People can be really vile.

I suspect OP’s nose is out of joint because they didn’t meet with wholehearted agreement from all and sundry.

The really ridiculous thing with the school is that two years before DD was due to start there was discussions about adding a lift or moving things around somehow to create a ground floor classroom for another child with mobility needs, but it was deemed not cost effective for one child.

Which was ridiculously short sighted as the changes would actually have either made all of the first floor rooms accessible (5 classes) or created two classrooms on the GF by moving things around.

The child was taxied to the same school DD attends. Dd is taxied. Since DD started I know of two other children who are taxied to another school who would have been likely to attend the school here if it was accessible. I am 100% sure that the cost of taxiing those four children - and that’s just the children I know of - for their whole primary education is considerably more than the lift installation quote.

so short sighted.

IIRC the exact same happened on the Chester discount thread and the Op of that was outraged (especially when people started posting links to other places with similar discounts).

Jesus wept. Yes, everyone has their own problems. But someone on 250k will not have comparable financial problems to a single parent on 25k.

LOL my nose is not out of joint. I’m not that invested in the whole issue.

I just thought it was a bit devisive, as I said because everything seems to be only for people on benefits now, but many people working not on benefits can’t afford it. And the zoo is too expensive for many working families or single parents like me it seems
unfair a certain people can literally get in for £4 and others £110. Which is not the same as a small discount on blue light etc.

I don’t think there is any need for people to come and list in detail how hard your life is
to justify your point. I still think my point is a valid one.

You can't be surprised that people share how hard their life on benefits is when someone whinges about a discounted ticket.

Most people on benefits would give up their bloody discounted tickets if it meant not having to rely on benefits in the first place.

Exactly.

So you want to be able to complain that people are getting something you can’t get, but not have to hear about the realities of their lives? That’s quite the head-in-the-sand attitude if you ask me.

Well if the odd freebie means that much they could reduce their hours to go below the threshold. No point seething about it.

There's stuff that's free for everyone that they can go to.

Well I do hope all the naysayers will take it out on the Royal Palaces, too. Just booked tickets for the Queen's Dress Exhibition and people on benefits can get a ticket for a £1, which I think is brilliant!

All these cries of “it’s not fair” remind me of the parent who complained to school (in front of me!) that it wasn’t fair DS got “his own teacher” and her daughter didn’t.

me and school had fought for his 1-1 funding which he got in year 2. This was when he was in year 3 and the 1-1 has made it possible for him to just about access mainstream education and hopefully get some GCSEs this year. The mum who complained has a daughter who to my knowledge has no issues and who from her social media posts is on track for all 9s at gcse

This is not really relevant to the post

Of course it is, it’s the bemoaning of other people having access to something they aren’t eligible for but want in the interest of “fairness”

It’s very relevant. It’s people wanting the benefit of something without the struggles that come with it.

I find the “what about me” people generally have very little consideration of what others are going through and why they may need the extra support

Invested enough to start a thread on it though 🤷🏻‍♀️

Everything isn’t for people on benefits at all, we’re talking about a limited number of discounted attractions. Plenty of discount schemes mentioned countless times on this thread aren’t aimed at benefit claimants.

If the zoo opened discounted tickets up to say anyone on £100k or less a year, would you be taking up for those on £100k or more. I imagine not.

And how are you STILL making a divide between working people and benefit claimants after 26 pages of being told that they aren’t mutually exclusive.

Oh I think it is. It’s exactly the same thing - people with relatively privileged lives whining because they’re not getting help that others get because they’re worse off. The level of entitlement is mind blowing.

It is relevant though because even when it comes to a child’s education and the hoops that parents have to jump through to get them the very basic things that they need there will always be that one parent who thinks it’s not fair because little Jonny doesn’t get the same could that be because they don’t need it. In every walk of life on this planet there has always been people who don’t have very much and get some extra help and people who do have a lot and don’t need the extra help but begrudge those who do need it getting anything. Same thing happened to me in primary school I was allowed to use tools that would help me to at least scrape by on my SAT’s and some parents where up in arms over it because their child didn’t get the same thing even though they didn’t need it. Life isn’t fair that’s just the way the cookie crumbles. It’s like saying that people who live in mansions shouldn’t because it’s not fair to those of us who can only afford a rented flat or people who drive Jaguars shouldn’t be allowed to because it’s not fair on the people who have to get a bus or walk everywhere. Your trying to take away from kids who’s parents can’t afford to take them on a day out because it’s not fair on your child but your not struggling for money and that trip to the zoo might have been the only thing they did over the Easter holidays at least they have something to talk about when they go back to school. Should the £9 sun holidays be banned as well because that’s the only way some families can afford to have a holiday. Stop trying to shit on kids who can’t help it if their parents can’t afford to take them on an expensive day out. You have a crazy level of entitlement.

Your also missing my point.

Im saying it feels annoying that some people
are allowed in for say £1 but other people who don’t qualify for this massive discount can’t afford to go at all because the cost of the tickets, say it costs the family over £100 !

This being just yet another item that people on benefits qualify for that others don’t.

What are some of the other things you think I qualify for as someone on UC

Apparently these plus only 11% of Uc claimants in work actually work full time and those are mostly men. According to government figures.

What’s that got to do with the price of fish? Who’s said otherwise?

Is it a revelation to you that in the majority of households the bulk of the childcare falls to the woman and so they’re less likely to work full time?