To ask to do some washing?

[flowersandfuckinghearts]

Some perspective needed please - a close family member lives in a different country so we’ve come to visit for a week.

We asked today if we could pop a wash on as we’re running out of clothes, only to be told we’re taking advantage and no we can’t pop a wash on.

No problem at all - I’ll go to the launderette down the street then. They then get arsey as we’ve made them feel bad AIBU?

"Taking advantage" is a really strange way to phrase this. You didn't use the washer, drier, detergent, etc. without checking, or even assume you could use it. You asked permission and they said no. You respected that and cheerfully found another solution. That should have been the end of it.

(Obviously don't break their washer; you get loads of teenage edgelords in the middle of the night! 👺😡😈)

Your parents or your in-laws? Either way it’s really grumpy and ridiculous.

Omg they’re batshit, we regularly stay with a family member (not either of our mums) who gets our washing out of the bin bag I always put it in in our suitcase “to make up a load I was putting on anyway” and then we say no need no need and she says pffffft shush you don’t want to be doing a stack of washing when you get home don’t be silly.
This happens every time we go and we just roll with it and try not to have anything too horrid in the bin bag 😆😆😆

Really crazy. For me it’s the fact they invited you, not the other way around, yet they think you’re taking advantage somehow? It also isn’t as though you dumped a basket full and expected them to do it. I can see why that attitude has soured things, I wouldn’t stay with them again.

If I had anyone staying for a week, I'd be expecting them to do some washing and be asking them myself if they wanted it done! Such a bizarre reaction!

Just seen it's your parents which is weirder! My mum just lives two streets away and is forever offering to take my washing to her house to do to help me out despite the fact I'm at home with a perfectly functioning machine! I can't imagine being told by your own parent your taking advantage!

Or hide a used tissue somewhere in the washing machine so that their next wash covers their clothes in tissue bits!

FFS people.

@JustGiveMeReason not many take a full wardrobe worth of clothes, bear in mind a lot of airlines charge £90 for a check in case, travelling as a family that adds up plus you’d expect to be able to do a wash at your parents.

What a strange reaction from parents.
FWIW I’m currently doing all my mums washing. She has a washing machine but due to illness doesn’t feel up to doing it herself. I can’t imagine being that tight that you would begrudge doing your child’s washing when they are at your house.

I dont think OP said they were her parents, just that they are parents. Which is why I asked who they are to her. It’s mean either way but I think it would make a big difference for me in how I handled it.

I read it as they are her dhs parents. I may be wrong but they are refusing to let their son wash his clothes and his children’s clothes. Either way, very mean behaviour.

What a weird reply from I assume dh parents an not yours

glad you got it done in peace but shame had to pay for it

Weirdos. Tight weirdos.