AIBU to ask DS16 to wear lighter clothes in spring

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It's spring and it's getting warmer, yet DS16 is still dressing in a black puffer jacket and black tracksuits. I've been telling him to stop wearing dark clothing at this time of year like a gangster but he is refusing to listen. AIBU to tell him to wear different clothing?

Pick your battles girl!

It won’t work so you might as well save your breath.

Yes, YABU, he's 16. He gets to wear what he likes.

I can't imagine he's gonna listen, might as well save your breath 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would offer to pay for some new lighter (in terms of warmth) clothes but just about it. Teenage clothes don’t come in variety of rainbow colors - black is actually the most popular. So be realistic and pick your battles.

Having same battles with my teen for the last 2 years. Worries me so much because they look boiling!! But it's a waste of breath.

Done worrying now and leave them to it (once I established they're actually fine, and aren't trying to hide self harm, eating disorders etc (I do tend to overthink!!)

I'm sure the next phase of wearing not enough clothes will arrive before long and will have that to worry about!!

I gave 16 yo dd some money to buy some summer clothes this week and she came home and said that she avoided buying black and just bought some bright colours for a change. This girl wears her black puffer and dark tracksuits all the time. She came home with colourful little vest tops and tshirts, denim skirts and shorts and some white trousers. There is some colourful light at the end of the tunnel but you have to let them get there themselves.

This reminds me so much of my mother...
OP, I'm a 42 year old woman and wear black all the time. Yes, this includes workout clothes. It's also way too cold for me just yet to change from my big black puffer coat. I would like to think that I do not look like a gangster.
My mother still hates black but, luckily, she long stopped telling me what to wear.

Leave him alone. My 16 yo DS wears black 24/7, I don’t think I’ve seen him in another colour for years. I don’t mind because I’m similar!

One of mine was emo.at 16 lighter clothes was maybe taking the black hoody off , honestly just leave him to wear what he wants.

Seriously?
My DC are a bit younger but it's been years since I could last "tell" either of them what to wear! I can suggest they might be a bit hot/cold in their chosen outfit but there's no "telling"

I’d leave him be: he’s 16 it’s up to him what he wears and if he’s hot that’s his fault

Aside from ensuring that he has access to some suitable clothing for warmer weather, it’s really up to him what he wants to wear day to day.

He's 16. Would you allow him to dictate your outfit choices?

I had a friend whose teenage son would only wear white. Their washing machine was forever on the go.

I let my kids choose their own clothes as soon as they had their own opinions. Pick your battles!

Forget it OP, he's a teenager and therefore needs to wear a black puffer jacket at all times.

It's the fashion init! My 14 year old dgs lives in black,mind you,he hardly wears a coat, I spend all my time asking "aren't you cold". His 16 year old sister has actually bought a couple of white items of clothing recently

I’ve put YABU because wearing unsuitable clothes is part of being a teenager, don’t waste your time fighting it. There’s nothing you can do apart from making sure he has money to buy different clothes if he wants to.

Back in the day it was wearing sparkly vest tops/football shirts even in the negative temperatures, now it’s puffa jackets in spring. Just wait a few years and he’ll be wearing the t shirts and things!

A couple of years ago I was out one evening with a group of my vintage Goth friends - black is our standard - suitably tailored for mutton, not lamb. We started getting heckled by a group of young scallywags outside McDonalds, with the usual funeral / Halloween epithets. On turning round, the group were themselves clad entirely in the black uniform described. Obviously the irony was lost on them, but it gave us a chuckle.

You've got to be kidding right? I wear black all year round, I look good in black. It's really got nothing to do with you what he wears. Leave him be.

You’re expecting a 16 year old boy to listen to you about what he wears?? That’s made my morning 🤣. All the lads round here are always dressed in black, as others have said, pick your battles.

Firstly, he’s 16, not 5. Let him wear what he wants. He’s almost an adult FFS.

Secondly, it’s not the 1950s and there are no rules for seasonal colours any more.

Nah, won't work until they realise ! My 17 year old has just realised shorts are alot more comfortable in the summer as are white t shirts but he had to get there himself!

Why are you telling him what he should wear?!? Beyond making sure small children and vulnerable people are dressed appropriately for the weather you shouldn’t be telling anyone what to wear.

I would let him wear whatever he likes. He is 16.
Does he have lighter clothes in his preferred colour. If not, I would offer to buy some if he doesn’t have his own funds.