Does everyone’s partner get up with them in the morning when your baby/child wakes for the day? Or is it only you? For context, we have a 18 month old, and I have done every bedtime, night wake, and morning and pretty much everything else since she was born to be honest and he lies in every single day until about 11.30/12, he won’t wake regardless if I try and wake him or ask him for a bit of help. Today has just broken me as I was up all night with an unwell toddler and in the morning I got up and said can you get up with us as I’ve been up all night to help out, and he didn’t, proceeded to lay in till 12, and I got told to shut up. I’ve spoken to him about this so many times, given him chances and the space to change, alongside breaking down in front of him so many times because it’s draining me so much and I’m trying to be the best mum I can but this is wearing me down.
I’m a sahm which we both decided, I never ask him to wake on his days he works, he works 3-12, 5 days on and 6 off, and I know these are late shifts but he just lies in bed until late everyday he’s off and I am burning out doing it all. We don’t have any other support so he’s my only relief if you have it and I’m not getting any. I feel like he chimes in and plays the “ fun dad “ when it suits him and isn’t overly present in other ways.
Am I expecting too much, or is this common?