AIBU to feel annoyed by fit people refusing to work?

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I get really annoyed when I see perfectly fit people not working and then complaining that they are forced to go back to work.

I know if a woman that has lost custody of her 3 children. One was put into care with her parents because the father didn’t want to take care. The other 2 are living with their father.

She pays no maintenance for them because she isn’t working. Her benefits are being cut and all she does is complain to the fathers that she has no money and wants them to pay her living costs and her petrol to collect the children.

I’m not free to do the same because I have a mortgage. Different if you are renting and have young children. But if you are working for 1000€ a month and state give you €3000 not to work and you have maintenance for 2 children what would you choose?

I would probably choose not to work. Having young children is a job in itself and it's madness to hand them over for a nursery to raise if I'm better off being at home with them

Totally agree. But different countries have different rules. I worked my ass off as a single parent and sometimes regret it but my DC is now an adult and doing well in life.
i didn’t even look if there were benefits available and just worked and paid my bills even though it was tight.

The thing is, that she is could in that position because her ability is below average to begin with, either physically or mentally. Very few mothers would let their child be taken away from them without doing something to try and prevent it. Especially if she allowed her allowances to be cut. Id say she felt unable to work for some reason. She has to be struggling. There are council houses near me, most of them are new build houses. From what I see, most of the people in them seem to have valid reasons for their position. And truth be told, a lot of long term unemployed don't look too healthy for it. Life has challenges for everyone I think

Unfortunately the lousy pay and shitty conditions of many jobs in this country have a habit of crushing one’s dreams. As far as I’m concerned it’s bad employers who the finger of blame should be pointed at, if it’s actually easier for some people to live on the paltry amounts benefits pay than to work.

No, you’re not, but that’s the way of things now. 🤷‍♀️

You can't tell if someone is fit or not just by looking at them. There are invisible disabilities. Even visible disabilities are not always immediately obvious and I speak as one who is disabled. I am currently struggling to walk (osteoarthritis in both hips) and have fibromyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis in my knees elbows and shoulders. If you looked at me whilst I'm sitting down,you wouldn't know there was anything wrong with me.

Same with my DS. He uses a wheelchair for anything more than the smallest of distances, because he risks dislocating or subluxing any limb or part thereof at any time.

But if you saw him sitting in a park, you'd think he was fine. He works, but the principle of invisible disabilities is the same.