Were you a shithed of a teenager ?

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My current 13 year old is pushing every button she can get her hands on. I caught her sneaking out the window last week at 12 am. The dogs dobbed her in.. so now she has my old Nokia 3510 with it original Winnie the poo case. And she comes home from school immediately,She has the ability to text me and her friends obviously not on WhatsApp and her texts come out of the credit she has to put on herself.

I’m angry that she chose to disobey mine and her dads strict orders of no meeting friends late near her friends house (her next door neighbour is a drug dealer and the whole area is dodgy). Anyway when we’ve stopped shouted at each other and cried and hugged it out then cried some more when she realised she would have to use a brick for about 3 months.

I keep thinking -A. My poor mum and her nerves B I’m so grateful DD isn’t as bad as I was as a young teenager

My worst argument with my mum was when I was 14 . My dad died when I was 12 and mum had decided I categorically would not be allowed to go to the cinema with a friend rather than a family meal out. We were screaming at each other and I screamed at my mum ‘well just so you know, the wrong parent died, at least Dad loved me’ she slapped me across the face and I deserved every second of that. We both cried and then made up. We didn’t go to the family meal, we watched ET instead at home talking about Dad.

Was anyone else an absolute shit head as a teen?

I was a terrible cunt. I’m absolutely in awe of how well behaved my 17 year old is, but I think his 12 year old brother is gearing up for some wild antics. I will try to remember that I did, eventually, stop being a cunt.

Least it wasn’t just me 🤣 her younger sister is 11 going on 25. She already trying out her hormones

I was a terrible cunt as well 😂. I had several parties the second my poor parents went on holiday.

🤣 was the house clean when they got home… 😂

I was absolutely awful. The universe laughed and gave me twin daughters.

I was awful. All night clubbing at aged 16 which was the beginning of the Acid House scene. Missing curfews and getting night busses home to South London. Vanishing off to all night raves in fields, trying all sorts of drugs and getting lifts back with randoms who were probably off their faces. An absolute fearless idiot.

Worst was probably the night I went clubbing and ended up getting on a coach at 7am to go to Amsterdam with a couple of people I vaguely knew, just because we'd spent the evening chatting shit in the loos and decided it would be fun. Called my mum and dad from a phone box at a hostel in Leidesplein and told them I'd be back in a couple of days.

I HONESTLY don't know how they didn't kill me. My parents were good parents - open minded but strong sensible boundaries, good communicators, loving, present - everything - but I was a little shit.

I am now beyond square and look back on those years (15-25) and thank my lucky stars that I didn't come to harm.

I was an absolute dickhead from ages 13-20 yrs - disobedient, fucked about at school, chaotic, disorganised, insufferably arrogant and lots of drug and boy-related drama.

My poor mother was incredibly patient (and resilient…I don’t know how she coped!).

I sorted myself out eventually and managed to be a productive and (I hope!) fairly pleasant adult in the end (and love my mum and am very grateful to her!).

My DD is 17 and an angel compared to how I was.

I'm just glad there were no tracking devices when I was out raving while my mum thought I was at a sleepover

I was a terrible teen. Unfortunately my mum never really paid much attention and I pretty much did what I wanted.

I really wasn’t. I studied super hard and was generally very good.
My own teenage daughters were karma for no apparent reason 🤣

I was terrible as a teenager. I felt lost and misunderstood so acted out. Alcohol, weed, shoplifting, smoking. I'm thankful that my teen DDs are much better behaved, however I do understand them much better than my parents did with me.

Let's say that I was less than ideal. But I was always in a good mood and not shouty at all. But I stole money, brought dodgy people home, took drugs, skipped class on a professional capacity, escaped home, dropped out of school etc...

But I was always good fun to be around and we never really screamed at each other with my mum.

I was just a lost teenager and my mum got it, bless her ♥️

No, and I didn’t know anyone who was. I am from an Asian culture and this kind of thing just didn’t happen in our group at that point. Teens were expected to behave and did so. Odd perhaps.

I never got the chance I don't think. My dad died when I was 11 and my mum turned to drink. I also had a much younger sibling. I studied hard, was the responsible "adult" for my sibling in terms of cooking, laundry, school drop off/pick up etc. How no one noticed what was going on I don't know, but I guess safeguarding wasn't what it is now 30 years ago.

I guess I could have, and probably had every reason to be a shit, but never was. My mum was an alcoholic until it killed her in her 50s. I went straight from child to adult and skipped the teenage part I think.

I was awful in many ways but mostly behaved myself at school and kept my room in order. My mum in particular found it hard to accept I was growing up and we clashed so badly.

I wasn’t a terrible teen, I wasn’t rude to my parents (apart from a few serious arguments) but I was always getting drunk with my friends, started smoking age 12, and was pregnant at 16. The pregnancy was a turning point, I went to Uni, moved to London from Wales for a job when my son was 7, and now have a great career, good pay and a good relationship with my parents (dad sadly gone now). Most of my friends were doing the same, growing up in the sticks with little to do and my old school friends kids do similar in same town, though they don’t drink half as much.

My own 3 kids? All were so well behaved. My eldest did start smoking at 16, and had a poor relationship with alcohol until he was 26, but not drank a sip in 6yrs now. My younger two who are 21 and 18 have been angels. Seriously never caused me a days trouble. Never went out drinking or hanging around the streets, never smoked, rarely drink at all (youngest doesn’t at all) and both got top grades at school, with zero pushing from me. I’m sure my mum is thinking where is her pay back?!

I always said i’d never ground my kids as I found it so isolating and detrimental to mental health. Of course there needs to be consequences but I always wanted my kids to be able to confide in me, and know I wouldn’t over react (like their dad, my ex).

I was an absolute dickhead buuuuuut I grew up in the shadow of siblings and they were worse. Much much worse. I didn't really reign it in till I had kids and then it was like a light switch.

I argue with my eldest because they he (age can be a pain in the arse!!) See things the way I do. So young and nieve bless. I have said to him, "wait till you have kids and you'll get it". He is actually pretty good most of the time, just frustrating and a bit manky (the daily reminders about personal hygiene are unreal! - that was never me! 🤣)

I also didn’t get the chance I think. I went to boarding school at 12 on the other side of the world from my parents. I went home every 3-4 months with a long flight. Early 90s so comms not great either, a once a week phone call over satellite phone. When I did see my parents it didn’t cross my mind to be rude to them or awful, I was so grateful to be home for a bit . Plus home was a Muslim country so if caught drinking publicly etc you’d risk being deported! I did the usual clubbing etc and drinking at uni but was always with mates so nothing really unsafe I think.

I was definitely in shithead territory! Although at the time I would have said I was behaving fine and everyone else was a shithead - clearly I was also not very clever 😅I'm grateful my children haven't been as bad a I was (that I know) but they've been enough 😱

From about 15 I was out raving (this was the mid-late 90s in London) - and would often be out most of the weekend - on drugs/ meeting new people/going back to their houses for after parties.

I actually wouldn't call it being a dickhead or a cunt/!? not sure at that description?

I feel sorry for young people now they are lacking a lot of the joy we had as teens.

I don't think 13 year olds should be out at night but I don't think they are bad kids for wanting to have a bit of fun....

Teens are driven by evolution to take risks - risk taking behaviour is part of developing autonomy - we in our culture don't have healthy risk taking opportunities (ie. climbing big trees, sitting away from the adult group or chasing sibre tooth tigers as we would have back in the stone age or whenever!)

I was very studious well behaved. All of us were except to an extent one sister. Culturally as Chinese it’s all about respecting elders.

No, I was fairly well behaved. Possibly typically moody etc, but nothing on the bad behaviour front. Sometimes wished I was more rebellious.

Although did date someone a lot older than me, in his twenties , which would have been frowned upon today, and would have accepted a date from a friend who was twelve years older (went to uni and always wondered if it would have happened if I stayed at home).

I was horrendous. I had a wild best friend called Alice who would smoke and drink and party all night. My poor mother. I was like that from around 16 to early 20s.

No... that shit wouldn't fly in our homes.