Were you a shithed of a teenager ?

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My current 13 year old is pushing every button she can get her hands on. I caught her sneaking out the window last week at 12 am. The dogs dobbed her in.. so now she has my old Nokia 3510 with it original Winnie the poo case. And she comes home from school immediately,She has the ability to text me and her friends obviously not on WhatsApp and her texts come out of the credit she has to put on herself.

I’m angry that she chose to disobey mine and her dads strict orders of no meeting friends late near her friends house (her next door neighbour is a drug dealer and the whole area is dodgy). Anyway when we’ve stopped shouted at each other and cried and hugged it out then cried some more when she realised she would have to use a brick for about 3 months.

I keep thinking -A. My poor mum and her nerves B I’m so grateful DD isn’t as bad as I was as a young teenager

My worst argument with my mum was when I was 14 . My dad died when I was 12 and mum had decided I categorically would not be allowed to go to the cinema with a friend rather than a family meal out. We were screaming at each other and I screamed at my mum ‘well just so you know, the wrong parent died, at least Dad loved me’ she slapped me across the face and I deserved every second of that. We both cried and then made up. We didn’t go to the family meal, we watched ET instead at home talking about Dad.

Was anyone else an absolute shit head as a teen?

No, I was incredibly square. Still am really. Maybe I’ll go wild in my 50s.

Oh my god.....same!!!!!

ETA: actually I was really well behaved at school and didn't do drugs or smoke or sneak out, I was just a bit of a shit. Constantly shouting about everything and getting into arguments with my Mum and testing her boundaries and blaming my parents for everything!

So yeah, twin daughters is my penance!

Nope, I was a pretty easy teen. Not moody or difficult. Got horribly drunk a few times, but nothing worse than that. No boy trouble, never took drugs, no sneaking out or doing stuff behind my parents' back. Mine are now 18 and 20 and have been much the same.

I was v naughty and took loads of risks as a teen. My Mum had an awful time and admitted she was relieved the day she dropped me off at Uni. My lovely DD has SEN now though and is barely brave enough to go to a shop on her own at 17. I wish she would push boundaries more to be honest. Hopefully she’ll get there (to some extent) in time.

No I wasn't and I resent the narrative my sister (and mum before she died) gives that I was. I was outright scared of misbehaving didnt feel safe in my hone so the worst you got from me was a bit of moodiness. Sister however went off the rails acted out so badly she had to move school. My mother got pregnant as a 17 year old. Yet the story is "I" was the worst teenager.

Having taken 4 of my own children through teenager stage I can also say none of mine were horrid teenagers just people working the world out.

I’m so glad it wasn’t just me! Even now my family talk about how I was Kevin from Kevin and Perry pretty much from 13 onwards. However that stopped when I pointed out dad had died the year before so I was going through puberty and the traumatic loss of a parent at home that was unexpected when I was present for it. Of course I was a horrible bitch for a few years!! They stopped after that 🤣

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Oh I was pretty good at 13. 15 was when it all started to go down hill......good luck OP!

No, I was pretty well behaved. My brother was horrendous though! He's a perfectly lovely, normal, productive member of society now 😊

I was out of control.. but I look back, as a mother now, and understand that I was screaming out for boundaries, and love and attention. I feel very sorry for younger me.

Single parent family and wasn't getting my needs met, unfortunately. I was "allowed" to have a 25 year old "boyfriend" stay over in my room whenever I wanted from age 14-15 (school nights too😨) Nowadays that would be viewed as something very serious...this was early 2000s. No one protected me. All of it has affected my relationship with both my parents.

Looking back, I was lovely. I was quiet, didn't drink or do drugs or sneak out or any of it. I walked into town on a Saturday for guitar lessons and walked back. Sometimes I met a friend in town and we'd browse books in a book shop. I went to a youth group on a Friday night but was rarely out past 9pm. I struggled with insomnia and found school really hard - not the academic side, but the social aspect and the routine. I kept this to myself but had constant stomach aches.

I don't know why my mum acted like I was Satan incarnate as a teen because I was literally so good. I hope my kids are as "bad" as I was.

No. My father would have done me a serious injury.

Yes , i was a shit !!!! To the point my mum refused to take me too my 2nd ,3rd and 4th children's panel after they essentially blamed her for my bad behaviour at the 1st one ( it wasn't her fault I was just an awful teenager ).

An absolutely massive terrible cunt. I was going out clubbing at 13 and not coming home for 2 days. Drinking, chasing boys, etc.

My son (now in 20s) was an absolute angel as a teenager. He’s never been drunk, worked hard at school and has always been nice to be around and respectful.

I strongly suspect there was a mix up on the maternity ward.

I was a complete cunt, started smoking weed and bunking off of school at around 14 and got pregnant with my son at 15.

That turned me around thankfully, he's 34 now and living in Australia having a great life 😀

Exactly the same here.

No. I was undiagnosed ND so I was very quiet and well behaved because I was terrified of 'getting it wrong,' and also my mother would have boxed my ears and left me in no doubt how much she despised me if I put a foot wrong.

So I spent much of my teenagehood desperately, desperately trying to fit in, do the right thing, not be weird and obey my mother's sometimes rather arbitrary rules.

I tried really hard to be good. I just seemed to get it wrong at every turn, not deliberately. It all worked out in the end though and my DC are (mainly) lovely young adults.

I was a very easy (if sometimes glum) teenager. But I was WILD from the age of about 19 to 23. I was not at home so at least my parents didn't have to deal with me, but I am honestly amazed I lived to tell the tale sometimes. Praying my dcs turn out to be different!

Oh, these little cunts come good stories are giving me life right now. My almost 15 year old is driving me demented and I can't shake the worry that's he's going to come to no good!

I was an absolute shit teenager.

As I'm now 75, my poor Mum didn't have the option to remove my electronics 😁. I seemed to discover the word "no" when I was about 14. My Mum would tell me I could/couldn't do something, my response would be "make/stop me."

I ended up just fine. In fact it helped me when my child was a teenager. I never tried the line that they must or must not do something. I always tried the line of well, what could happen if you did X? How would you handle That? What would make it safer for you?

it sounds terribly trite now, but I remember how I felt when I was told what to do, and it wasn't pretty.

I wish I could tell you I've grown out of that now, and I'm now a compliant little old lady.

I havent. My family and friends all cringed when I told them that a hospital nurse recently told me i d be leaving the hospital when she said so, not at lunch time as the consultant had told me.
that nurse soon realised that yes I'm old and I'm small, but that rebellious teenager is still inside me, doing her thing.

I'm sorry I know it's a serious subject and I too, suffered when my (now lovely) 27 year old DD was a teen.. but I am very amused and thus chuckling at your oh-so-apt wording @AlphabetBird

This thread has done me the world of good. Reminded me of some of the bad decisions and risky behaviours I undertook from about 14 onwards -early 20s. Underage & illegal everything 🫣

I’m on my DCs case a lot about actually really minor things, like revision and keeping their rooms tidy.

I think I would be having a nervous breakdown if I’d had to parent myself. I should cut my DC some slack, they could be so, so much worse!

I’m such an ‘upstanding’ member of society now it’s hard to reconcile how off the rails I was!

I was awful! Looking back I both cringe, and also see that it was almost inevitable though. Undiagnosed (then) ADHD and autism, and when I couldn’t figure out ‘the rules’ of secondary school, and violently disagreed with the ‘do as I say not as I do’ mentality of most of the teachers, I started to cause trouble. Constant threats of suspension and expulsions, especially after making several teachers cry! I was bored rigid as found it all too easy (if I enjoyed it) or impossible (if I didn’t enjoy it), which was a toxic combination. Was being neglected at home - only saw my parents a couple of times a week and was on my own the rest of the time, plus my dad was very open about disliking me (he’d never wanted children). When my parents were home they had often had friends over getting drunk, or high, and when I turned 16 they announced they’d done their job, and kicked me out. My 12 year old is gearing up to be an absolute nightmare of a teenager, and I’m like, wait, what’s her excuse?! I just tell her it’s ok, home is a safe space, and I love her even when she drives me up the bloody walls 😂

Jus to add - once I’d been been kicked out I did spend several years working dead end jobs, taking drugs, and drinking far too much, but got bored of that after a while, got a place at Uni as a mature student in my 20s, worked like a dog whilst also working paid jobs to afford rent etc, got a good degree and eventually a bloody good career!