To be nervous

[LetTheSunshine001]

I’m going out the beginning of next month. I’m going to a concert at the o2 with a friend. On the way back for the last leg of the journey, we will separate and get on different trains. She’s okay about this but I’m nervous, I’m literally on my own train for about 10 minutes before I get off and get into my taxi. It will be about 12ish at night and I’m a bit nervous.
has anyone done this before and have they been ok? I’ve watched too many crime programmes to know the possibilities of what could happen 🫣 Aibu to worry?

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I thought this too 🫠

Some people on this thread are a bloody disgrace. If you've never had a fear in your life, crack on, but maybe try and learn some empathy while you're at it. Just because the post is in AIBU doesn't mean it's a free-for-all to sneer, belittle the OP, and post crying-with-laughter emojis. Or it shouldn't mean that to a decent human being anyway.

OP, I think you'll be fine but just so you know, some of us haven't had an empathy bypass and do get it. Enjoy the concert!

It’s not normal for a 33 year old adult to be scared of a 10 minute train journey alone.

Not normal at all.

I didn't say it was. It's the mocking and sneering from other pps I've got a problem with.

Me too and now I haunt people who video call people on trains.

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OP is in her 30s. Not teens.

I would watch the hell out of this if someone remade Ghost without Patrick Swayze worrying about Demi Moore and whether she will be murdered before she can make another wonky ceramic in her cute dungarees, but with a vigilante ghost who runs a campaign of supernatural intimidation against video-callers on trains, or people who don't use headphones when watching dopey Youtube videos on buses.

I haven't had an empathy bypass. I don't think my empathy is needed in a situation where a woman well into adulthood appears to have led so cloistered an existence that she regards ten minutes by herself on a train followed by getting into a taxi as unusual and frightening enough for her to start an internet post, apparently genuinely, asking if any other women have ever spent ten minutes by themselves on a train at night.

Well then maybe you should ask yourself what might have led OP to feel this way. No one ever knows what other people go through.

Bloody hell, I've flown to Australia solo and done various similar things, but I'm still capable of understanding that OP isn't me and has a different set of life experiences. It's not really that hard.

Well if something has caused this, why doesn’t OP deal with that? She must recognise that this is not by any means reasonable behaviour!

I've used Shenfield loads, I used to commute through there, it now has the Lizzy line, it's busy , staffed , lit and has CCTV it's a common changing point onto greater Anglia

Nice bit of everyday racism thrown in there! Mind you with this crazy mad attitude you’re not likely to be taken much notice off.

🤣🤣🤣 FFS. I’ve just looked at exactly what you must have read to come to come up with that figure and your comprehension skills are a joke!

We don’t actually know she isn’t taking steps to ‘deal with that’.

No I do t go out! I’m purely a mum and I have social anxiety! This is the first time I’ve been out out for over 10 years! I’m getting therapy for that amongst other things. I had an accident 15 years ago which left me disabled so I seem to feel more vulnerable for some reason!

Good you’re getting help, because as you can see this is not reasonable behaviour.

But purely a mum does not mean not going out, mums go out.

Yes of course. I’ve been in a wheelchair for 9 years, so I’ve found it hard to go out by myself as always need someone with me. I’ve gained some mobility back now, I still walk with a frame sometimes but I’m definitely more able to get around now unlike before.
before anyone says , I’m in the less mobile section of the concert fyi 🙂

So for all of you saying it isn’t normal. Maybe not for a normal able bodied 33 year old. I’ve not long learned to walk again let one defend myself if needed. Yes I am capable of going by myself.
This is for all of you grown women mocking me.
Mumsnet at its finest

Respectfully, that’s one hell of a drip feed. As you didn’t put all the information in your OP, you won’t get responses that take an disability into account.

Kindly OP, why didn’t you include this info in your original post? This changes things completely! Given your update, it’s totally understandable you’d be nervous.

Please don’t video call anyone on the train! It’s rude and inconsiderate.

You’re on a train, it’s not Beruit!

Because I didn’t feel I’d have to justify myself

Oh OP it makes sense now why this feels really big. Of course you feel vulnerable, and also there's the worries about gettin on and off the train when you're disabled.

I'm really glad you're going out to the gig, that's a really positive step in challenging your anxiety, well done!

I'd just focus on what a PP said about that station being busy and well lit, and then having somthing to distract you on your ten minute train journey. Would it help you to feel sexure by sharing your location on your phone with someone? I did this when I had to make several train changes in quiet rural stations, and ended up having to book a taxi number I saw written on a board in one. Knowing someone was keeping an eye on me felt reassuring. And it's only for this first one, the more you go out and become familiar with it, the less anxious you will start to feel.

Shenfield is OK OP. I’ve been there with DD late at night and there were lots of people out and about. Enjoy the concert.

Hiya OP, due to your disability you can call in advance and request assistance from the guard of your particular train. Could you get your husband to come to the platform and get you, instead of getting a taxi? Otherwise if you call in advance, I'm sure the train guard will be happy to escort you off the train and I'm sure the taxi meeting place isn't too far off the platform. If there's stairs and a bridge to cross you could ask for assistance with that under your mobility issues and that will help you feel more secure getting to your taxi. Hope you have a great night.