Husband messaging pics to female colleague

[Ajb888]

Is this weird? On a family day out to the cinema and catch my husband texting pics of my kids to a woman in his team at work? I know he is friendly with her as well as being I his team but is that a bit weird? Plenty of male colleagues I’m friends with but would never send pics of the kids while we’re on family day out

It's a bit odd, unless she knows you and your kids? I have a male colleague that occasionally texts me family pictures of what they are up to - but I've known him and his wife for about 15 years and watched his kids grow up.

Is he sending pics of his kids to any male colleagues and friends? If not, why this woman. What's the story?

I’ve never met her she has kids similar age so I’m sure they talk about the kids etc just found it a bit odd he’d be sending her pics of our day out

Yes if it's a family day out why is he thinking of his colleague?
Did he also send her a photo of you as well, or just the children?
Does he spend a lot of time messaging this woman?

Yes it’s odd.

He sounds like he’s just keeping in touch with a friend. If he wanted anything more from her, he certainly wouldn’t be reminding her of his responsibilities in life.

Nothing to worry about OP.

hes a workaholic so conceivably could’ve been messaging about work stuff and sent her a pic of my kids mid conversation. No idea how much they chat and I highly doubt he sent any pics of me

Totally depends on the context doesn't it? Like I'm friendly with men I work with and they'll text photos of their days out and stuff. Their kids will come on Teams and say hello when we're in calls etc. To me that isn't weird.

if They were messaging about work and he mentioned he was somewhere sending a photo might make sense or if it was a place they had been discussing at work.
just randomly sending it would be a bit weird.

Unless they discussed the day out, and she said she’d be interesting to knjw what the place was like, it’s a bit odd. Also, if this was the case, he Coukd have waited until they next met up to show her the photos.

Just re-read and saw you were at the cinema. What’s special about that ? Maybe do a bit of snooping, or see if there’s any other unusual behaviour. You say a workaholic - a lot of overtime recently…? (Sorry, been on mn too long).

Colleagues can be family friends but I bet it's not that.

I also bet its never ever texts and photos to Barry from Finance.

Are they also his children?

I work with mainly men. About a third of them send me the occassional picture of their kids the odd time.

Just checked phone - last 3 are:

Asked a colleague how was holiday? Sent me pics of kids excited in Disney.
Got a message a Christmas - saying enjoy your break, it's all excitement here - photo with kids watching Christmas movie.
Another where child won a medal for dancing - saying proud dad today, the talent obviously comes from her mum.

I have received loads of newborn babies too.

It's probaby innocent.

If he is a workaholic I would be even more annoyed about this: he must spend more time with this woman and communicating with this woman than he ever does with you and his DC. So to take the time to send photos of your DC to her during what is supposed to be a family outing shows how much he was prioritising her over his personal life

Yeah I wouldn't be happy with this. Bit different if they were his kids too, but sending her pictures of your kids is a bit off.

My work chat send pics of our kids on birthdays etc. It's not exactly an invitation to cheat, where he'd be wanting to make himself look free and easy. I'd think it was sweet.

Weird to send pics of your children on a family day out to any colleague.

I suspect you have existing (reasonable) trust issues around your husband anyway?

So a group chat, so different to this

One pic or multiple?

The oddest thing here is going to the cinema on a lovely day weather wise like today!

Depends really. I might send something to my male boss (only male colleague I’m close to) if we’d done something he’d recommended or we’d discussed. Just a run of the mill outing? Probably not.

I couldn’t get worked up about this. I am close to all of my colleagues, we work in a small place and we are together all day- I get photos of their kids/dogs/boats/nights out. Sometimes on a group chat, sometimes on a private chat.

Probably not because the majority of of men wouldn’t have the slightest interest in family pictures
women are generally more interested in in kids and family things

Very true. O.p avoid the people telling you to ruin your relationship just because they want some entertainment

I immediately discount anyone that uses that trite and untrue line about Barry. Many men do have a human contextual with other men you kmow