To tell my family I hate my life?

[AnonMam]

I think I'm depressed.
I work my ass off for my family. I have 2 kids 9 and 14. They're ungrateful and disrespectful. My husband is like another child but worse.
None of this is what I thought life would be.
I've not stopped all weekend doing things for other people.
Not one person cares about what I want to do (or don't want to do, like all the f-ing housework).
I'm back to work tomorrow after a bank holiday where I've not done a single thing that I wanted to do. Everything is for other people.
I just screamed at them all that I hate my life and have gone to bed.
Now I'm upset and overwhelmed and feeling like a shit parent and shit person.

I have 2 kids 9 and 14. They're ungrateful and disrespectful. My husband is like another child but worse.

Your kids are quite old, why have you allowed this for so long. Likewise your relationship.

So many unhappy women on mumsnet, usually because family life turns into a kind of hell. And there are rarely any solutions because the situation is so trapping.
Then people who reply to an OP ignore the suffering woman and ask about how her children are coping and imply she shouldn't want much for herself as she is a 'mum.' And it will naturally get better after many more years of it have passed. Oh, and you mustn't tell anyone, especially your children if you are unhappy, exhausted and done in as it will hurt their feelings.Urg!! What a trap.

The only person who can change this is you, OP. Martyrdom gets you no prizes, nor does suppressing your own wishes until you start screaming. You’re doing this to yourself. Stop.