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AIBU to question pronouns and gender options on a job application?

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Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 12:43

I have just attempted to fill out an online job application which asked for my pronouns (5 options) and gave me six options for my gender. These questions were optional but the application did not ask me for my sex.
It’s made think how none of these questions even make sense.

I am a woman because of my biology, nothing more nothing less. What does it mean living as a woman and using female pronouns if you are not female. I can’t think of any other question an employer would ask that has no definition.

AIBU to think that the phrase living as a woman should actually read living as a stereotype of a woman through a male lens. And visa versa. And these questions have no place on job applications.

If employers are looking for diversity they should also ask applicants their biological sex because women are still underpaid and under represented in many/most well paid industries. They should be using this accurate data to ensure fairness.

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catspyjamas1 · 06/04/2026 17:25

TinyRebel · 06/04/2026 16:21

For the gender identity questions I always tick ‘other’ and write “I do not have a ‘gender identity’ but for data gathering purposes, my sex is female.”

I’d probably put “I/Me/Mine” for pronouns if I could free text it, otherwise leave blank!

This is when I am completing questionnaires though. Although I’d probably do the same for job application forms these days too.

Edited

Coping this briliant response for my current job applications - thank you!

catspyjamas1 · 06/04/2026 17:26

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 17:06

That’s not very inclusive

Exactly.

Evaka · 06/04/2026 17:32

Argh, it's optional. Don't answer if you prefer not to engage. I've never in my 20-odd year career completed one of those twatting surveys as they make fuck all difference to the overwhelming dominance of white, privileged, privately educated people within my field.

CornishPorsche · 06/04/2026 17:40

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 17:04

Ve/Ver/Vis
Zie/Hir/Hirs
He/Him/His
She/Her/hers
They/Them/Their

Unless absolutely desperate, I wouldn't apply for that job. It's not a workplace I'd want to be part of.

Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 17:54

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 15:48

regarding my gender, ‘prefer not to say' would be a lie. I don’t have a gender, i have a sex

The world doesn’t revolve around you and how you see yourself. The application form is inclusive and for everyone

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 18:14

Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 17:54

The world doesn’t revolve around you and how you see yourself. The application form is inclusive and for everyone

😂

Pot kettle comes to mind

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Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 18:27

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 18:14

😂

Pot kettle comes to mind

I don’t understand your point, sorry.

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 18:33

Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 18:27

I don’t understand your point, sorry.

Totally indoctrinated.

🙄

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Katypp · 06/04/2026 18:37

For the love of God, how does anyone have the headspace to get worked up about things like this?
It must be utterly exhausting.

Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 18:42

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 18:33

Totally indoctrinated.

🙄

Oh! 😂 Well good luck with your complaint. I’m sure you’ll be taken very seriously

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 19:04

Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 18:42

Oh! 😂 Well good luck with your complaint. I’m sure you’ll be taken very seriously

you just said the quiet bit out loud!

well done

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Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 19:16

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 19:04

you just said the quiet bit out loud!

well done

Well it wasn’t meant to be quiet but thank you anyway. I’m glad you understand

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 19:20

Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 19:16

Well it wasn’t meant to be quiet but thank you anyway. I’m glad you understand

We all understand that our concerns will not be heard.

we are getting there though and I’m delighted that the IOC have finally seen sense.

Im sure you will be feeling very kind though.
well done.

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Chaibiscuits · 06/04/2026 19:36

Felinefoster · 06/04/2026 19:20

We all understand that our concerns will not be heard.

we are getting there though and I’m delighted that the IOC have finally seen sense.

Im sure you will be feeling very kind though.
well done.

Well you keep up the good fight!

UniquePinkSwan · 06/04/2026 19:40

I really don’t care about stuff like this.

LlynTegid · 06/04/2026 19:42

Accurate data on the pay and other gaps between women and men was one reason given by the Tories for exercising the veto on the Scottish Parliament Gender Recognition Bill. Which whilst not the real reason for the Tories action is a valid one. (The real reason was because the bill was an SNP idea).

Depending who the employer is, consider a complaint on the grounds that the law is not being followed. Asking sex and then gender perhaps, but not as you experienced.

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