AIBU to expect my partner up early for a planned day out?

[Alwaysonone25]

AIBU to expect DP to get up early for a planned day out?
We haven’t had a proper day out together in ages, so we planned one today with DD. She woke at 7am, I got up with her, did breakfast and we played downstairs for a bit. I asked DP to get up so we could all start getting ready.
For context, we do usually share mornings so it’s not like I’m always the one up and he never is.
It’s now 8:45, I’ve come upstairs to get myself and DD sorted, and DP is still in bed snoring.
At this rate we won’t be out of the house until after 10, then it’s an hour to get where we’re going, so it feels like half the day is wasted as we wanted to be back for teatime.
AIBU to be annoyed that just for today, when we had plans, he couldn’t get up when asked so we could make the most of the day?

Why don’t you wake him up?

It’s sounds as though maybe your definitions of early are different to his? And in future need a specific I’d like to leave by x conversation. For example we had my parents surprise anniversary afternoon tea a week ago. The night before hubs and I had a conversation about what time we needed to leave and the alarm was set for an hour before. Yesterday we had a day trip to a plant nursery in Hampshire, hubs wanted to leave by 9 so the alarm was set for 8.

Assuming he is normally a helpful, a nice member of the family (which it sounds like), why would you jump to being angry about this? I'd assume he'd fallen back asleep by accident, and would hope I would be given the benefit of the doubt in the same way. There's still plenty of day left, give him a shake and crack on. Coffee in thermomugs while he showers.

Just wake him up, surely?

It's Spring break in some parts of the UK where the kids are off school for two weeks.

The husband won't be though, he will be back at work

Fair enough, that's probably why he's having a long lie this morning then.

In future be specific about an agreed time for waking and getting out the front door OP. That way there's no room for misinterpretation.

‘Early’ for me would be up at 10 and leave about 11. I definitely need more sleep than DH. We have been to places so early hardly anywhere is open, so I don’t see the point. Although, in fairness to OP, DS would unlikely be up super early unless we woke him up as he is 10.

Just wake him up OP.

That's just what I was going to say !

Because she's not his mother.

A grown man should be able to set an alarm clock !

Oh good grief! 🙄🙄

That's not early though by anyone's definition, which you've acknowledged by using quote marks. Arriving somewhere at lunchtime isn't early.

So this wasn't a mutually agreed plan, just you telling him what you wanted.

Did he agree though? As asked, is the activity time dependant, or can you go later than you would have liked? Hopefully he is now up, 10am is a decent lie in, even if he had a drink yesterday.

As so often it sounds like poor communication. Unless you both know exactly what ‘early’ means. That or he’s simply over-slept, so wake him up.

I don't agree with it as I am actually an early riser every day. Up at 6am most days. I meant it from his perspective.

When we plan a day we plan when we all need to get up and go with that, it seems normal to me

Isn't that a statement rather than an agreed plan?

I agree but I start work at 7am during the week so, unless we are found somewhere relatively far away, I am not getting up before 8 at the weekend

We are both back at work

I overslept for my own plans this morning (nothing exciting).

We share wake ups here too, but if I want to be up and out bushy eyed and bright tailed etc, I do so on MY lie in morning.

It's a bit unfair to unilaterally suggest an early start on his turn to sleep in.

You are missing your opportunity to train DD to get up later on Bank Holidays. Out around 11 is completely ok. Up at 7 on holiday unless a travelling day on long hols is not so much

Is he up yet?