Constant competitive undereating is giving me the rage

[Bettercallsalli]

Family Easter meal and once again ruined by my mother!
After 6 mouthfuls...o im so full. Cutting peas in half...just makes us all that eat nornally on edge.

No, I'm not giving all the women extra meat just to throw it in the bin to make a point. It really is as simple as if they wanted more they would ask for it. No one is shy about food in our family.

Women eat less meat than men in all cultures, with the gap being more pronounced in more equal cultures which suggests it's more choice and not because they're just not allowed as much as the men. Women prefer carbs and vegetables. It's literally an observable trend in the population to the point where if lots of women in an area go to hospital with food poisoning salad and vegetables are pulled from the local shelves and inspected for contamination first. If more men are sick with food poisoning in an area meat will be investigated first. I've worked in food safety and am a biologist. None of us wang on about penis portions we just know what actually happens at dinner tables and why.

Oh, I thought we were going all in with the OTT emotional language with breastfeeding mothers and eye rolling emojis only stopping just short of WON'T SOMEONE THINK OF THE BABIES!? My mistake.

I think the point is that someone cooking for a breastfeeding woman will normally know she's bf, rather than having to take a guess. But there are stories on MN of women who were given much smaller portions than the men despite the person serving knowing they were bf.

The needs based attitude never seems to extend to situations where the women require more of something, which is why we don't see such individuals serving women more iron rich food as part of their smaller portions.

(Edited due to a cross post)

I missed this post when I typed the last one.

It's gold though. Show us the stats, and explain how you've controlled for attitudes about who's more entitled to meat and protein.

Absolutely! But how does a male portion of food identify?! Do we check? Not to go off on tangent but maybe that’s a good sociological study? “Did your appetite suddenly increase/decrease when you identified as the opposite sex?” Or “was it that you had a penis portion/teeny tiny appetite that made you realise?”

someone please explain, what’s a penis portion? 🤣

No, just you fantasising that any woman who eats the same amount of meat as her husband in a meal must be using gardening tools to do it, and also telling women what they do and don't like eating. Thanks for the valuable information. Fabulous hosting, too.

When men get served bigger portions than women by terrible hosts who think it's their job to police calorie intake, but only for women; not for sedentary or shorter people.

Brilliant 🤣 And an Easter themed receptacle too

I feel sorry for women who feel they have to do this TBH. With some it’s so ingrained they can’t help it.

I'd love to be like that! How does one tap into that mindset?

I'm constantly hungry and spend all day snacking. Food is never far from my mind. Luckily, I walk everywhere so I manage to maintain my weight but if I didn't I'd be as large as a house. I feel as though I have no restraint. I think it stems from money anxiety, worrying how I am going to pay bills after I am retired.

Jesus. This is bullying. I’m sorry you were subjected to such twattery.

I’ve been wondering the same thing 🤣 I thought it was a typo at first.

penis portions are bigger servings for the males, because you know….
have penis=hungrier!

@Bettercallsalli Are you sure she's not on wli? I know a slim, now emaciated woman who is on them and she has no appetite obviously because of the wli. But if your mum has been like this your whole life then I suppose it's not that
My mum (slim) always ate healthily but big portions and my Mil is always telling me I used to have a bigger appetite (she's comparing to when I was pregnant and constantly hungry- + 25 kg for each pregnancy 😅) . So I'm lucky not to have that performative undereating thing around me.

YANBU when you have someone like that at table they make you feel greedy for eating normally which takes the joy out of the meal.

A jury would never find you guilty if you murdered her, bloody insufferable and clearly mental.

How rude of you to say this.

my mum does the food and appetite commentary. It’s boring, rude, and spoils what should be happy occasions.
She’s in her 80s and is still on an eternal diet. She announced proudly to me recently how much weight she’s lost.
I find it so sad that at the age she’s at, her priority is still to chase the number on the scales.

Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry for your loss. Three weeks is no time at all. Thank you for raising awareness 🤍

I will be 70 this year and looking forward to the day when one potato, A spoon of peas and a small portion of salmon sounds like a meal. Sounds like a starter to be honest😁

My mother was in her 20s i n the 70s and absolutely has absorbed all the pressures about being slim equals value as a person. She's fucking obsessed with weight- hers and other peoples. Last time i was 'home' (I live in the UK and she doesn't) a neighbour was hobbling from car to home. My mother exclaimed approvingly' OH!!! You have lost so much weight! You look fantastic!!'. The neighbour snapped back' Well, terminal cancer will do that to you'.

Didn't put her off though. For the remainder of my visit mother bleated sadly how it was 'so sad' she was such a lovely weight now and wasn't it such a waste. Like, considering she was GOING TO DIE.

My DPs & ILs eat much less now than they used to. They are in their 70s. None make a fuss about it or comment on others appetites though!

What bollocks! History has proved that there was been fat & thin women since since time immemorial - probably due to genetics. It must be tedious to spend all your time thinking of ways to blame everything and hate men!

'undignified for women to take up too much room'.

Please spend some time looking at pictures of crinolines... which incidentally were first introduced to England by France’s Empress Eugénie, before you come out with more nonsense.

It's so rude to comment on other people's food. My mum and mil both love pointing out how little they eat and it's tedious and annoying. But they were so conditioned to believe that women should be slim, shouldn't have appetites, etc.

Try to find the pity for her, because it is a sad way to live, always restricting, always hoping people will notice and approve. And I was anorexic, now have a BMI of 19, and have never been overweight in my life, including at 9months pregnant. I'm not saying this out of veiled jealousy! More out of knowing how these women likely feel.

She sounds bloody rude!