To think this is lazy and bad parenting?

[Carlie97]

A woman got on the bus with her two young boys. She was playing something loud on the phone and one or both of the boys were. There was very little conversation between.

Aibu to think this is lazy parenting and setting a bad example to the kids that it's ok to be antisocial?

Did you offer some parenting wisdom?
do you know what else is going on for them? Maybe she’s broken by stress and just wanted a short break from everything lost in her phone?

You don’t know if that’s her only chance to relax from the children and switch off for 10 mins. Stop looking down your nose at people.

Edited to add the volume shouldn’t have been loud as that not fair to others around.

Oh great, another goady thread for MN to criticise everyone elses parenting.

Go eat some chocolate.

They can’t, too much sugar, bad parenting 🙄

Deliberate goady post!!

we all need a break sometimes!

She should have worn headphones/had the sound down but who cares if she didn't have a conversation with her kids?
She could have been up until midnight with them yabbering away and then they got up at 5am and carried straight on.
Or she really didn't fancy a Sunday morning conversation about Pokémon/football/Minecraft etc that young boys seem to love to whittle on about.

It’s entitled behaviour and she’s showing her kids they can do what they like and fuck everyone else

Horrendous behaviour.

I hope you found your inner Ms Trunchball and threw her from the bus by her pigtails using your mighty powers.

Are buses even running today?

I would say it’s annoying to play loud music on public transport but I would also keep open minded.

I let my 5 year old watch his tablet on a 25 min train journey this week. That might look lazy but prior to this, he had been on a train, 2
tubes and queued for 30 mins for a London attraction and been really good, i thought it was fine to have some chill time on the way back.

So what if her kids are driving her mad? That doesn’t mean she gets to check out of parenting them in public and acting like an inconsiderate mare. I’m so sick of this victim complex so many parents have now. You chose to have kids, to be a parent, so bloody well do it and stop inflicting your shite onto innocent strangers. If you need a break from your kids get a bloody babysitter!

You sound so lovely.

Are you unhappy in your life OP? What's brought this on?

Yes. I agree, OP.

I don’t care if she was having a bad day. If I’m having a horrific day with awful pain, and I want a bit of music to help distract myself, I’ve no right to disturb others.

Playing something loud on her phone… rude

not engaging with her son on the bus… totally fine. I used to do the same when lived in London and we got on a bus, sat down and got my phone out and left my two to talk amongst themselves or gaze out the window… and I rejuvenated!

If the mum is switching on a device/TV and putting her children in front of it until they go to bed every single day . Then perhaps it is lazy.

But you have watched and judged this mum for a tiny portion of her day. For all you know this could have been the first bit if screen time her kids have had in days while she has spent the rest of the time talking, playing and engaging with them.

No one should be playing anything out loud on public transport.
I always ask if they could put on some headphones.

She is…. Very very unhappy according to all her other threads

Playing shit out loud in public is antisocial yes. But being on devices - I think parents are allowed to be lazy sometimes. The bus is just getting from A to B, it doesn’t have to be an opportunity every single time for some top quality parenting or conversation. If the DC were happy to watch some videos and occupy themselves, that’s fine.

Yabur- you are being utterly ridiculous

You should carry a scorecard around with you at all times and hold it up to rate everyone's parenting out of 10.

So much better than silently judging and inviting a pile on later.

I hate sitting on public transport having to listen to the garbage churning out loudly on other peoples phones.
I also hate being in places where parents are sat there on their phones completely ignoring their children who are running riot and sometimes running into dangerous situations. I dont care if they have "things going on in their lives" just control your fucking brats!!

I think it's lazy to judge someone's parenting based on a tiny snapshot.

They feel very, very sorry for themselves don't they.

Wow…. Rough day?

Do tell us how you’d do it OP?

What’s your secret to perfect parenting?

Yes it's lazy. And it's incredibly antisocial. I've no tolerance for people who impose on everyone around them and I'd make it law that headphones have to be used in public, and ban video calls from all public spaces.