AIBU for blowing out my nephew’s birthday candles as a joke

[AliceNotInChains]

My nephews 6th birthday party yesterday. He was struggling to blow all the candles out so I jokingly blew the remaining ones out for him. My sister went on a full on strop over it saying I ruined his moment. AIBU to think she’s completely over reacting?? She ended up relighting the candles for him to “have another go” making it a much bigger deal than it needed to be.

“Jokingly” implies you pretended to do it but you actually did it. For a 6 year old, blowing their candles out is a big deal.

We had 80 candles on my grandmothers cake in 1975, when 80 was really old. She got most of them and and laughed and said 'help me!' Woe betide anyone who would have stepped in of their own accord when it wasn't their place and weren't asked.

You overstepped. From other posts about previous threads, I'd say take a very large step back in interactions with your sister's family.

When my DD did this I was mortified, and apologized to both child and mother, who was actually very nice about it. DD was 3 at he time and mostly well behaved, and I'd been so focussed trying to make sure autistic DS didn't do anything too wild I didn't occur to me DD might do that.

You're obviously feeling guilty and yes you were a knob!

Yeah it’s a shit thing to do, do you always make everything about you?

I would be annoyed for a about half an hour, then remember you're my sister and it was a silly thing to do. Then I'd make us both a cup of tea and laugh about it while remembering there are far worse things that happen life.

You obviously don't have children yourself?

Otherwise I don't understand why you don't understand it's a dick move

I,m all for a joke but that was baaaaaaad….

yeah dick move.

one of mine remembers some other kid blowing out his candles when he was 4. big big deal

How embarrassing for you. Party attendees must think you are a total knob.

In the real world I’d probably say what you doing? Idiot! Then I’d move on.

Think the majority of posters on here are vile.
Imagine a group of bullies picking on one person and you’ve got this thread.

It’s a bit off but it doesn’t deserve the pages of mean girls.

It was a horrible thing to do to a child.

Thank you. I’m used to this behaviour with my sister so it’s like water off a duck’s back ☺️

Well you've also had your say right here, so what on earth is your point? You've added to it all.

Also, she asked for opinions. Victims of bullying don't ask to be bullied.

Oh no, you had to celebrate your 6yr old nephews birthday! How terrible for you. Please never reproduce.

The op is horrible! They aren't being bullied, they are being called out on their horrible behavior.

I can imagine it was a fleeting moment thing and given you’ve messaged here, you do probably feel a bit bad. I think, though it wasn’t ideal, your sister is acting worse by making my a massive deal out of it.

This is a wind up?Right?

Im babysitting for her tonight, all is good now ☺️

Wow. She never learns, apparently

Victims of bullying don’t ask to be bullied 🤣🤣

My point is a few comments fair enough. The same comment, put differently page after page. Every poster has seen it’s been posted but still post their exact same comment.

Complete dick move.

Whether he laughed or not, you didn't know how he would react. Birthday candles mean a lot to a child.

You’re being called out on yours to. I think you and the other 100 plus comments are horrible.

Not sure what's so funny about what I said. Op literally asked a question and asked for opinions. No one is bullying her. Victims of bullying on the other hand do not ask for it. What's so hard to understand?