For wanting some help from DH

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For the 2nd time in as many months I have managed to get a nail in my tyre on my car. The first time it was a repair job, this time its likely to be a new tyre. These things happen.

It happened a few days ago, I then went away with work, managed to pump it up with some air and drive for a bit on it, buts now not salvageable and everywhere is closed until Tuesday obviously. Which is fine as no plans to go anywhere.

I am on a course Tuesday morning until 11am so asked DH if he could ring the mobile repair people to get them out Tuesday. He has just gone off on a massive rant about how its my fault, I knew about it before I went away and should have dealt with it so to expect no help from him etc

Is it too much to ask him to make a call. Didn't ask him to pay, or deal with them while they were here just simply ring.

For reference we had to use my car yesterday for something for his family and because he wanted a drink. He won't let me drive his car.

Can you not call?

I will call but I am on a course that i have to be on camera for between 8 - 11 so I was asking DH to call when they open at 830 to get them out early

I will either try snd call if there is a break or when it finishes

If your DH is free at that time, I think he is being very unreasonable to not make the call. It's a pretty simple task to do for your OH.

He is off next week. We split the Easter holidays so I was off the week gone and he is off next week. So he'll be in bed playing his game on his phone/tablet probably

Remember this the next time he wants you to do something for him.
Does the mobile place have an email contact you could message? They would then get the request when they open.

It's mean of him not to help in such a small way, yet expects you to ferry him around in said car when he wants a drink. Selfish git.

And as for not letting you drive his car, WTF. If my husband told me I was never allowed to drive his car he wouldn't be allowed in mine ever, as a driver or a passenger.

I really don't understand how some people are so unpleasant to their partner.

He is supposed to be your life partner but he obviously resents doing a small act of kindness to help you out when something has gone wrong.

He sounds as though he doesn't care about you OP and I don't blame you for feeling hurt about his nasty attitude towards you

Why can’t you drive his car? Ok ie several women with husbands like this and I don’t get it at all.

Theres no way id take my car so he could drink if he won’t let you use his.

If he’s not busy himself then yes he sounds like an arse.

And why won’t he let you drive his car?

Is this normal behaviour, being unhelpful and ranty, or is he always like this?

The mobile technicians work round the clock. You’ll easily get someone out over the weekend.

And why are you agreeing to ferry him around in a dodgy car just because he wants a drink? If someone treated me like this and didn’t let me drive their car/ refused to help me, I’d tell them to get lost.

He is always like this. Seems to resent if he had to do anything. Or if he gets me a drink and I forget to say thank you he'll make a massive deal about it. But I don't get a thank you for all the washing, or unloading/loading of the dishwasher i do etc or being the default parent.

He sounds like a dickhead, but I’m
guessing you like him if you married him?

If my DH had refused to let me drive his car, but told me I had to be the driver in my car so he could have a drink, I would say no.

'He won't let me drive his car' well that on its own tells exactly what kind of husband he is!! You're busy and he could help but has chosen not too, you are married to a prick. My car needed some work done recently, I arranged it but my husband has organised the delivery and collection of the car without me asking, he's also insisted that I take his new car (he got it three weeks ago) while mine is being repaired and he'll drive the old car (15 years old and looks its age) that we haven't got rid of yet. When my car was the newer more comfortable one we had I always encouraged him to use it for longer journeys and days away at his hobby because it had more space. It doesn't sound like a particularly pleasant relationship that you are in.

What a selfish git. We help each other all the time.

I live in fear that one day my adult daughter might end up with one of the hideous kinds of men I read about on MN.

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I love this so much 😂😂

Of course it’s not unreasonable to expect the person who loves you to make a 5 minute phone call when theyre available to do so on your behalf.
it is also deeply weird, unless there’s a back story, to not let your spouse drive your car.
i expect if you told us more, we’d discover a deeply unpleasant man.

Why do you stay with him op?
and I don’t mean that to be goady, but you e painted a picture of a deeply unpleasant selfish person who doesn’t even seem to like too.
are there reasons you can’t leave?

*you

Never mind a new tyre, I'd be looking for a new dh. What an arsehole.
I could understand if you were both due in work and were both mega busy but he has a week off!
I sometimes use Tyres on the Drive (it's run by Halfords), you can book a slot online, if that's available near you?

He is a right dick.

however isn't tomorrow a normal day? Mobile places should be open? And/or you can message them online any time you want?

As I said earlier the mobile technicians will be working all weekend and in particular tomorrow as it is a normal working day. Call them today and arrange it.

Me too. ‘Only if I can drive your car. Ok then no I can’t sorry.’ (Not sorry)

i think you should consider losing your shit and shouting at him he’s the one who asked you to drive your car knowing there was a nail in it and that’s the last time you do that kind of favour for a man who never does anything for you. He can drive his own precious car and quit drinking from now on or pay for cabs. You’re not an uber.

What do you mean he won’t let you drive his car ??!!!

For reference we had to use my car yesterday for something for his family and because he wanted a drink. He won't let me drive his car.

You used your car with a nail in the tire? To chauffeur his family? He put you at risk.

Stop doing him favours. He's not a team player.

If he wants to drink, he can Uber.

He sounds like an asshole.