For wanting some help from DH

[Twinkletwinklelittlestar22]

For the 2nd time in as many months I have managed to get a nail in my tyre on my car. The first time it was a repair job, this time its likely to be a new tyre. These things happen.

It happened a few days ago, I then went away with work, managed to pump it up with some air and drive for a bit on it, buts now not salvageable and everywhere is closed until Tuesday obviously. Which is fine as no plans to go anywhere.

I am on a course Tuesday morning until 11am so asked DH if he could ring the mobile repair people to get them out Tuesday. He has just gone off on a massive rant about how its my fault, I knew about it before I went away and should have dealt with it so to expect no help from him etc

Is it too much to ask him to make a call. Didn't ask him to pay, or deal with them while they were here just simply ring.

For reference we had to use my car yesterday for something for his family and because he wanted a drink. He won't let me drive his car.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. It sounds like this is not an isolated incident. Have a think about how you have got to a place where he thinks this response is acceptable and what you can do about it.

You might be better posting a thread in the divorce topic, as people replying will probably just keep giving tyre recommendations.

Marriage is for enhancing your life and making it easier and fun. That's the entire point of a relationship. This man doesn't seem to like you.

These are things us parents would absolutely say to our children (who have zero other responsibilities but themselves):

Don’t forget your Ps & Qs!
You absolutely are NOT driving my car!
You caused the puncture and haven’t bothered to sort it out, but now you expect me too!

@Twinkletwinklelittlestar22 sorry OP that you have to put up with this. He treats you as a child rather than him being in partnership with you.

Tosser!

This is so sad

Well the argument continues, just been called the C* word and that i'm lazy as I didn't deal with it before I went away (I didn't need my car when I went away as I used public transport. Apparently could have rung up while I was away, even though DH was working nights so would have been less than impressed dealing with it then and he was then away on a course the day I came home so wouldn't have been here anyway

Because I didn't ring up and book it in for yesterday that makes me lazy

He sounds a peach. Lazy and now calls you a c... He sounds horrible.

Can you put air in and drive it to the garage? They'll be open tomorrow.

As for DH he's an arse. I hope you limit what you do for him going forward

Go to Halfords tomorrow

Just ignore him and STOP doing anything for him. He sounds awful.

My dh is not perfect but a nail in my tyre would be something he would deal with. I mean I “can” call the garage myself but it wouldn’t occur to me that it was something he wouldn’t pick up!

I realise it’s 2026 but in a mixed sex relationship it’s a “blue” job!

Christ, just stop doing things for him. Dinner this evening? Just sort yourself out! He sounds awful.

No, he treats her like a servant. Sorry OP

Does he treat you like shit on his shoe about everything or just about the cars?
You must be wondering why on earth you are even with him and thinking about making plans to separate

Nasty little man. How old is he? He's behaving like a brat. I suggest you quietly cease any activity that is for his benefit and see how he likes it. You're supposed to be a team.

Ew, he's a nasty selfish fucker isn't he.

I'd start planning the divorce and in the meantime, work to rule, only do the necessary for you and anyone else you are responsible for, he can go fuck himself, no help for him, no favours, no consideration whatsoever.

A marriage or partnership is meant to be a team effort, not 'you grovel to me for anything you want whilst I expect you to wait on me hand and foot without a single thankyou'. As he's made it clear he is not a team play, you need to stop the teamwork. Drop the rope as they say.

I couldn’t get over that he won’t let you drive his car yet expects you to use yours for his parent’s stuff.
Well you can stop driving him now.

He sounds like he doesn’t even like you. 💐

I'm confused.

You were off but also away with work?

He is off but will be in bed gaming? Did you not split Easter due to childcare?

Well he is a dickhead.

He is unreasonable for acting the way he is. Are they not open tomorrow?

The local one i use (who I know won't rip me off if they can just repair the tyre etc) is closed until Tuesday

I will have a look around for some others tomorrow and see if anyone else is open.

To clarify, it was meant to read i was away while off work and took the children with me while DH worked a combination of nights abd a course. He is now off the next week of the holidays while I work (mainly from home until later in the week so am sure I will still end up picking up some childcare while he is in bed etc)

What do you want from this thread op?

your husband is clearly a horrible man and there doesn’t seem to be any love or even liking in your relationship.

so is this thread just to rant about how horrible he is? Or do you want help to better your life? Are you able to?

A mobile place will work tomorrow. Call them in the morning .
Then condsider the bigger issues

Omg he sounds awful
Really truly awful
Why are you with him? Honestly he sounds like he brings no joy whatsoever to your life

He sounds dreadful. But you have no plans to leave from the sounds of it. He will just continue to be dreadful.