AIBU to wonder whether that kind of romantic love really exists?

[Sheliatakeabow]

I’ve been watching “The Other Bennett Sister” on iPlayer (I throughly recommend it) I’ve always been a big fan of Jane Austen anyway.
However without giving any spoilers away, I found myself uncontrollably sobbing at the end of the final episode (and during others too).

I have realised I don’t think I’ve ever had ‘real’ romantic love, does this actually exist? Men yearning, being vulnerable in expressing their deepest feelings, looking lovingly with tears in their eyes?
I’ve had one relationship in the past that might have been slightly close to this, I thought he was ‘the one’ he was romantic in a way I hadn’t experienced before, but something was lacking in the bedroom department. He then eventually told me after many years that he had an addiction to pornography.

My current DP isn’t at all romantic to be honest.

I just want yearning, unwavering devotion, can’t live without each other, two souls entwined but also quiet affections in love.
I sometimes think it must just be fantasy…

😂 🤣 yes, I would be interested to know what face cream you use....

I’d assume anyone behaving as this man is described (and I haven’t watched) is, being Irish as I am, is desperate for a ride!
He’s not going to be doing that every day.
Otherwise you’d have to murder him to live peacefully.

My vag would clamp shut if my DP was ‘romantic’ in the way that you describe. Instant ick. Surely if someone was constantly like that it would become a) meaningless and b) very irritating?

My DP is:

Honest (most important thing for me)
Dependable
Funny
Kind
Very generous
Extremely practical and can fix anything.

I’d take all that over being gazed at and having poems written for me any day of the week. We never argue (really!), and after 6 years I love him more and more every day, and weirdly also fancy him more and more - when it feels like I could actually implode with love for him, it turns out there’s always more to give. I guess we all have different ideas of romance.

As do I

Ew. I'm with the 'No wet lettuces thanks!' crowd.

I think Mr Hayward has it all though. Yes he is romantic at the beginning when he meets Mary and at other times when he recites poetry etc but he is also practical and fun when he plays Graces with her and there is a clear meeting of the minds as well as an emotional connection. So it is possible to be romantic as well as being emotionally and intellectually connected as well. I also think the yearning is often at the beginning of the relationship which is natural as you just want to spend all your time with the object of your desires!