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Who is going to pay for your state pension/ care in old age?

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itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 15:38

Apparently birth rates are falling, and this is putting future pensions (and I would imagine general tax income) in jeopardy as the population will proportionally age.

What's the solution? Should we just write off our paid for "right" to a state pension and state support for care in older age?

Does this change your view on public investment in supporting people to have children if you otherwise thought this was a personal choice and you should support/ pay for your own children?

AIBU to think that NI contributions for "pension" is essentially government mandated mis-selling and state pension will go out the window in the next few decades?

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catspyjamas1 · 01/04/2026 20:24

5MinuteArgument · 01/04/2026 20:18

It is a worry. But an aging population need not be a disaster. Japan provides a good model for managing this while maintaining good health and a fairly equal and stable society.

I don't think anyone should hold Japan up as a model of how to deal with an aging population.

Dfdd · 01/04/2026 20:27

Why don't we have people save for their own pensions? You privately save up with your nest egg?

mycatwearsahat · 01/04/2026 20:28

One of the biggest reasons I haven’t had children is because I want to be able to retire one day. Household income would be too much for benefits, but not enough to live comfortably if there’s a child in the scenario. The biggest cost would be childcare or the loss of income by reducing hours - or both.

I also know having a child would mean I’d probably never be able to retire as I wouldn’t be able to put much in my pension for the future. If it’s a choice between having a child and working until 70+, or not having one but being able to stop working earlier, I’ll choose the latter.

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:28

It only works in Japan because the population is trained to do the right thing, clean, tidy. Have you looked at the UK standard of behaviour?

Catza · 01/04/2026 20:29

LindtCurves · 01/04/2026 19:45

No, they don't need children. They need immigrants who come here after having done their education/ qualifications elsewhere, costing the tax payer nothing as another country's taxpayer has covered the costs, paying tax for 40-45 years, and retiring abroad.

Children cost the tax payer a huge amount of money and are a gamble in terms of return on investment. Working adults coming in at no cost are a much more definite bet.

And yes of course there are exceptions but as a whole, cultivating a future tax payer at great cost vs getting one with no 20-year lead-up investment makes better fiscal sense, right?

If someone offered you 30K in tax a year starting tomorrow, or 30K in tax a year starting in 2047, but first you have to pay 10K a year for 20 years, which is the financially sound choice?

And yes, this post is deliberately provocative.

Retiring abroad doesn't exactly solve the issue because, having worked in the UK since the age of 21, I will still be drawing my UK pension even when living abroad. I won't use the NHS so that's the only saving to the public purse.
Also, I struggle to imagine why would I retire abroad to a country that hasn't been my home for over 45 years at that point...

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/04/2026 20:30

FKAT · 01/04/2026 16:09

State pension, like all benefits, is designed so the elderly don't die homeless or of starvation. Not to give a certain standard of living. I think it will continue and be means tested but it won't be there as an top up to spend on golf club membership and cruises.

I'm in my early 50s. I grew up with the expectation that the state pension qualification date would increase as life expectancy increased and as birth rates fell. It was drummed into my peers that a private pension was essential if you wanted any level of reasonable retirement. Was that not the case for everyone?

My quality of life is immeasurably better than my grandmother (a farm worker married to an abuser who was forced to bear 8 children) and my mother (minimum wage and socially housed).

Interesting that you see the state pension as the top up for a better lifestyle, rather than the other way round, with workers' private pensions being the top up. The state pension should be there to stop people being destitute. Private and workplace pensions are for workers who want better in retirement than just the basics. That's why they work their socks off and do salary sacrifice and AVCs, and go with fewer luxuries during their working life.

If the government were to suddenly tell people that all that sacrifice during their working life was for nothing, and that actually they were working so hard just to give themselves exactly the same as someone who HADN'T sacrificed the same, there would be a revolt. People would go back to hoarding cash under their beds.

Ihatetomatoes · 01/04/2026 20:31

Boogery · 01/04/2026 16:07

Everyone you know retired late 50's??????

What are these privileged circles that you move in?

Quite a lot of public sector workers retire earlier. I know 2 headteachers and 3 teachers, a senior police officer all left after 30 years service. Its not as unusual as you think.

mycatwearsahat · 01/04/2026 20:31

franklymydearscarlett · 01/04/2026 19:32

i haven’t read the whole thread but what worries me is all of us having to stay in work until age 70. Where will these jobs come from, in the age of AI? And if we don’t move on, where will young people work?

I work in the city and i can’t think of a single person I’ve worked with who was over 60 apart from some CEOs and board chairs etc. I’m late 40s, high earner, and I can’t see myself doing my job past the next 5 years. The only option for me is to move onto something even more senior and better paid and max out pensions and try to earn as much as possible before I’m on my way down.

I don’t know, it worries me too, maybe they will bring workhouses back and put us all in there.

Dfdd · 01/04/2026 20:32

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:28

It only works in Japan because the population is trained to do the right thing, clean, tidy. Have you looked at the UK standard of behaviour?

Honestly I'm glad Japan isn't opening their doors to mass immigration at least as a cheap fix.

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 20:32

Ihatetomatoes · 01/04/2026 20:31

Quite a lot of public sector workers retire earlier. I know 2 headteachers and 3 teachers, a senior police officer all left after 30 years service. Its not as unusual as you think.

That’s because public sector pensions are so generous surely.

and police pension kicks in early.

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Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:37

Sometimes, I think hoarding cash under the bed is not the worst idea. Workhouses are suddenly looking like a possibility. Hopefully we have enough put by to dodge being sent there.

JHound · 01/04/2026 20:39

catspyjamas1 · 01/04/2026 19:25

"We need to encourage people to make provision for their own retirement. Everybody should have a base level state pension and then people can top that up with private pension."

Many millions do just that and I'd hazard a guess many don't expect to even get a state pension and are paying into private and relying on that instead. So why should we pay into a base level state pension when the guardrails are constantly moving and the government would like you to work until you drop dead and don't claim it?

Because we should be encouraging people to make provision for their future. I thought I said that already?

If people want to discuss having a means tested state pension in the future fine - but people need adequate time to prefer for such a shift. But the more and more all aspects of the welfare state is just reserved for the poorest / feckless the less and less support there will be for it.

Ihatetomatoes · 01/04/2026 20:39

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 20:32

That’s because public sector pensions are so generous surely.

and police pension kicks in early.

Still retired early. Which was what was asked. Common in some occupations.

JHound · 01/04/2026 20:39

Dfdd · 01/04/2026 20:32

Honestly I'm glad Japan isn't opening their doors to mass immigration at least as a cheap fix.

If you don’t like in Japan why would you care?

mycatwearsahat · 01/04/2026 20:42

ZippyPeer · 01/04/2026 15:53

You've got statistically more years of life and health than your mum and grandmother, so you know, swings and roundabouts @Boogery

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I’m not sure if that’s the case anymore, for women especially.

XenoBitch · 01/04/2026 20:42

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:28

It only works in Japan because the population is trained to do the right thing, clean, tidy. Have you looked at the UK standard of behaviour?

Lonely and broke pensioners in Japan have been turning to crime to get sent to prison so they have company and shelter.
If you google it, it has been a thing going on for years.

Ihatetomatoes · 01/04/2026 20:44

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 20:32

That’s because public sector pensions are so generous surely.

and police pension kicks in early.

My neighbours, a former headteacher and his wife a deputy at a different school retired late 50's.

Other neighbours a community nurse manager retired before 60 and her husband public servant, sone type of statistical work retired at 60.

It's more common in public sector but lots of people work in public sector.

Partner' ex retired at 58 from clinical psychologist role. Partner due to retire is not 60 yet.

Cousin and husband partner's in law firm early 50's but could easily retire if they wished to.

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 20:45

5MinuteArgument · 01/04/2026 20:12

That's fine, if you're retiring early and living on private pensions, there's no problem.

Everyone who retires early lives on private pension. That’s what early means - before you’re eligible for state pension.

Meadowfinch · 01/04/2026 20:46

Boogery · 01/04/2026 15:48

Many many moons ago when I started working my expectation was that I would retire at 60.
Like my grandma.
Like my Mum.

Then they moved the goalposts and at 58 I'm looking at 9 more years.
And I feel downright ROBBED!

I don't mind working the extra years because at 63 I'm still running 10k. Contraception means I didn't have 7 children like my mum. I've had better healthcare, better nutrition etc. I have better housing, a car etc so my life is not comparable to my mums. And work is administrative rather than manual.
I've paid 45 years NI so far.

I think the requirement to get a full state pension will rise from 35 to 40 years NI and maybe more.

HeyThereDelila · 01/04/2026 20:48

Nobody gets state support for care if they have assets above £20k - you have to pay for it.

mycatwearsahat · 01/04/2026 20:53

Meadowfinch · 01/04/2026 20:46

I don't mind working the extra years because at 63 I'm still running 10k. Contraception means I didn't have 7 children like my mum. I've had better healthcare, better nutrition etc. I have better housing, a car etc so my life is not comparable to my mums. And work is administrative rather than manual.
I've paid 45 years NI so far.

I think the requirement to get a full state pension will rise from 35 to 40 years NI and maybe more.

It would make barely any difference to raise it from 35 to 40 years. Most people will have 40+ years on their record by the time they get to their 60s as you get years for having children, being on benefits, full time education under 18 etc. Some people will have 40 years and never worked.

Some of the people who wouldn’t have enough years would be those who worked part time jobs and didn’t earn enough. For example I worked for years at a supermarket while studying, some months I earned enough to pay NI, sometimes I didn’t, but because it was inconsistent I didn’t get full years ‘stamp’ for those years despite still paying something.

But then if you don’t have ‘full stamp’ and have low savings and income you can get pension credit which is worth more than the state pension anyway (due to the other things it makes you eligible for).

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 20:56

HeyThereDelila · 01/04/2026 20:48

Nobody gets state support for care if they have assets above £20k - you have to pay for it.

Does housing count? No sure what you will do with all these homeless pensioners who had to sell their homes to fund their pensions 🤷🏼‍♀️

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catspyjamas1 · 01/04/2026 20:57

JHound · 01/04/2026 20:39

Because we should be encouraging people to make provision for their future. I thought I said that already?

If people want to discuss having a means tested state pension in the future fine - but people need adequate time to prefer for such a shift. But the more and more all aspects of the welfare state is just reserved for the poorest / feckless the less and less support there will be for it.

So we agree, then. What period of time do you think the country needs to plan for such a shift and a means tested pension?

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 20:59

catspyjamas1 · 01/04/2026 20:57

So we agree, then. What period of time do you think the country needs to plan for such a shift and a means tested pension?

How long would it take a person on average wage to add 12k a year to their private pension? That long.

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Dfdd · 01/04/2026 21:00

Aren't people who own their houses have to pay from their estate/assets for care?

Whilst those on benefits in a rented council house get free care?

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