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Who is going to pay for your state pension/ care in old age?

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itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 15:38

Apparently birth rates are falling, and this is putting future pensions (and I would imagine general tax income) in jeopardy as the population will proportionally age.

What's the solution? Should we just write off our paid for "right" to a state pension and state support for care in older age?

Does this change your view on public investment in supporting people to have children if you otherwise thought this was a personal choice and you should support/ pay for your own children?

AIBU to think that NI contributions for "pension" is essentially government mandated mis-selling and state pension will go out the window in the next few decades?

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Schoolchoicesucks · 01/04/2026 19:46

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/04/2026 17:17

I only hope to be working at 75 because there will be no pension options so I have to support myself somehow. Maybe I won’t be able to. Once I’m too old to work, then I guess the only decent thing to do is to top myself.

Do you save into a pension now? Why do you feel that you need to work until you literally drop? If you are over 55 now then a) you are very likely to get a state pension at 67 and if you are under 55 now you have time to save towards retirement.

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 19:46

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 19:41

Everyone I know.

You must have a particularly healthy social circle. I would assume that certain demographics impact the average. either way your anecdotal experience does not trump the statistics.

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Foxytights · 01/04/2026 19:49

HostaCentral · 01/04/2026 16:04

Also not true though. Prett much everyone we know, late 50's, already retired or part time. Planned that way!

Edited

Ditto

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 19:51

Badbadbunny · 01/04/2026 19:23

"Most" people aren't at all. I know very few people who are in full good health in their 70s. Both my father and DH's father didn't even make it to 70, my father never even retired when he died in his 60s. My DH got incurable cancer in his 50s (not lifestyle related). My mother in law suffered dementia from her late 60s. My brother has all kinds of health complications and he's only early 60s. There's only my mother who lived in to her 80s relatively healthily out of my immediate family.

Among my client base (fairly small number, around 50 or so), several have died from breast cancer in their 50s, a handful of others are battling cancer, a couple of had serious blood clots, a couple have had heart attacks, one had an aneurysm - again, all in their 50s and 60s.

The most common topic of conversation amongst my clients, friends, family, etc., amongst us 60+ year olds is GP and hospital appointments, mostly for pretty serious illnesses/diseases!

interesting. I’m nearly 60 and all my same age friends are still working, travelling, in very good health. Older friends in their 70s are enjoying a healthy, active retirement. Parents in 80s however are going down a bit. Yes I have some school friends that died of breast cancer but they never got to retirement age so they aren’t the ones we are talking about. Maybe it’s regional. I’m in London and middle class. Everyone I know eats well, exercises, isn’t overweight. I don’t consider 70 that old.

itsadlibitum · 01/04/2026 19:52

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 19:51

interesting. I’m nearly 60 and all my same age friends are still working, travelling, in very good health. Older friends in their 70s are enjoying a healthy, active retirement. Parents in 80s however are going down a bit. Yes I have some school friends that died of breast cancer but they never got to retirement age so they aren’t the ones we are talking about. Maybe it’s regional. I’m in London and middle class. Everyone I know eats well, exercises, isn’t overweight. I don’t consider 70 that old.

Generally speaking more affluent people are generally able to maintain better health.

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Schoolchoicesucks · 01/04/2026 19:52

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/04/2026 19:09

I haven’t ever paid into a workplace pension, to be fair. I was advised that, by the time it was compulsory enrollment, it wasn’t worth it

Who advised you that?tit's been around for 8-14 years now and with both your and employer's contributions would have added up to something. Why do you think you won't qualify for a state pension? If you don't get a full state pension and have no other incone you would get pension credit (under current system).

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 19:53

I was self-employed from age 35. I made certain that my pension fund was nailed on from then. No one was going to contribute a half penny to my pension except me, and the tenant of the industrial shed I bought, who paid me rent. Thirty years later, the rent is £40k, the mortgage is paid off. It's not riches, but i STILL have the asset producing an income.

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 19:55

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 19:53

I was self-employed from age 35. I made certain that my pension fund was nailed on from then. No one was going to contribute a half penny to my pension except me, and the tenant of the industrial shed I bought, who paid me rent. Thirty years later, the rent is £40k, the mortgage is paid off. It's not riches, but i STILL have the asset producing an income.

Great to hear. A lot of self employed don’t have that foresight at a young age and realise too late.

Foxytights · 01/04/2026 19:57

ArcticBells · 01/04/2026 16:40

What really gets me is that I’ve paid uninterrupted tax & NI for 45 years and reach pension age at 67. My cousin has been a SAHM (which I don’t begrudge one bit) all her life and just made contributions to NI to keep her “stamps” up to date and got her pension at 65

If you don’t begrudge it, what point are trying to make?

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 19:58

Schoolchoicesucks · 01/04/2026 19:52

Who advised you that?tit's been around for 8-14 years now and with both your and employer's contributions would have added up to something. Why do you think you won't qualify for a state pension? If you don't get a full state pension and have no other incone you would get pension credit (under current system).

Honestly, you have had very poor advice. Everyone should take any contribution to a pension being offered. The time is the main factor, very seriously; pension money builds slowly in the first years, and then it starts to accelerate after about 15 years.

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 19:59

dinbin · 01/04/2026 19:32

We don't need immigration. We need to get our own young people working. We have nearly a million NEETS and thousands of over 50s unemployed, not through choice. We also have rising unemployment

There are 3.5m economically inactive over 50s but many due to ill health.

And a lot because they can afford to and want to. I’m a soon to be early retirer. No way the governments guilting me to carry on working. I’m making way for the kids.

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:00

But a pension is always something you have to consider over a 25 -30 year period. Nothing else is comparable.

facethemusical · 01/04/2026 20:00

I'm completely against encouraging people to have more children. We don't need more children, there aren't enough jobs for the children that are already here.

More children are just even more of a drain on the system as they will be claiming UC. They would make things worse not better.

According to Google we have 700,000 graduates out of work and claiming benefits. We do not need more children.

KitTea3 · 01/04/2026 20:08

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/04/2026 16:54

My parents have worked since they were 16, and there were only about two people a year who went to uni at our school so they were working from about that age as well

It was a different time

There's a 10 year age gap between my mum and dad but I think what they experienced was the norm for the time my dad passed his 11+, did a levels and then did a degree (fully funded). My mum did not pass her 11+ and like everyone else who didn't, went into employment straight after school (on the YTS scheme?

Compared to myself who was of the "tony Blair,-everyone should go to university" era of 2005.

5MinuteArgument · 01/04/2026 20:09

dinbin · 01/04/2026 19:32

We don't need immigration. We need to get our own young people working. We have nearly a million NEETS and thousands of over 50s unemployed, not through choice. We also have rising unemployment

There are 3.5m economically inactive over 50s but many due to ill health.

Yes, there are millions of economically inactive people. But many unemployed people want to work but emoyers won't invest in them.

These are the ones we should be bringing into the labour market rather than pulling the lever for ever more immigration, which is an argument often trotted out when we talk about an aging population.

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:10

In about 20 years, we might @facethemusical . I have one, who's not keen on relationships, let alone kids, having been burned at 22 yo. I'm not enthusiastic to be grandma either. But for the health of the national finance, people like us, who have started and run successful small businesses, need to pass on the flame. It is seriously great fun. and a high wire act, to create something new. I am not sure that the government takes the role of new SMEs seriously. If they did, there might be a few more taking the skid.

KitTea3 · 01/04/2026 20:11

AllTheChaos · 01/04/2026 17:34

Don’t forget (only read page 1 so forgive if already mentioned): state pension was never designed to give decades of funded retirement. It was meant to give about 2 years, so people didn’t die in harness. It’s also not a savings scheme. I don’t pay in now on the expectation of getting something later, I pay now for pensioners now. I’m almost 50 and not anticipating getting a state pension.

I agree, and tbh I'm wholly tbh not expecting to even be alive by the time I even reach state pension age 😬

When the state pension was created life expectancy was significantly lowers than it is now and as you say was only ever really expected to support someone for a minimum of a few years. Now realistically some people will live long beyond that (my grandma retired at 50ish and lived to 96! 😱)

5MinuteArgument · 01/04/2026 20:12

Hellohelga · 01/04/2026 19:59

And a lot because they can afford to and want to. I’m a soon to be early retirer. No way the governments guilting me to carry on working. I’m making way for the kids.

That's fine, if you're retiring early and living on private pensions, there's no problem.

Bunny44 · 01/04/2026 20:15

I'm 38 and have a decent-ish private pension but I know so many people my age who have hardly any pension at all as they're lower earners and/or have had to prioritise expensive childcare (before free hours) and house deposits and now high cost of living. I really worry about how we're going to cover all those people who just won't have enough...

Not to mention a lot of care home fees are covered by housing equity and the number of people who don't own their own home or will never own it outright...

catspyjamas1 · 01/04/2026 20:17

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/04/2026 19:28

I don’t pay into a private pension and I’m unlikely to get an state pension - that’s why I will work for as long as I can and then check out - so those of you who think we should encourage a higher birth rate should be happy with that

I didn't say anything about a higher birth rate...

Why won't you get a state pension?
Why haven't you paid into a private pension?

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:18

I don't entirely disagree, but I am 70. I was entirely self employed from the age of 35, and back then, I earned a lot. So I sledged money into my pension. And now, surprise surprise, after 30 years accruing interest, I get back enough to make my state pension a useful foundation for a comfortable lifestyle.

5MinuteArgument · 01/04/2026 20:18

Bunny44 · 01/04/2026 20:15

I'm 38 and have a decent-ish private pension but I know so many people my age who have hardly any pension at all as they're lower earners and/or have had to prioritise expensive childcare (before free hours) and house deposits and now high cost of living. I really worry about how we're going to cover all those people who just won't have enough...

Not to mention a lot of care home fees are covered by housing equity and the number of people who don't own their own home or will never own it outright...

It is a worry. But an aging population need not be a disaster. Japan provides a good model for managing this while maintaining good health and a fairly equal and stable society.

Picklesandfrickles · 01/04/2026 20:21

@Hellohelga i think being London based and middle class certainly will skew your opinion. I’m sure your social circle overall is probably in good health, and in the least offensive way possible your unlikely to be in a front line physically demanding role (apologies if i’m wrong).

I work in healthcare and also live in a reasonably deprived area of the country and our average life expectancy is 78 male and 81 female.

I attended a conference in Birmingham where we looked at a specific surgery performed across the country the consultants in London were talking about operating on 80 yo’s and were staggered that our average age for this surgery is 57, youngest recently being 43. Elsewhere in the country it was about 64.

Generally speaking across the country health is poor and the vast majority will be struggling with their health post 60, especially in frontline roles or physically demanding such as teachers, nurses, health care workers, trades people, retail workers, cleaners. Being retired at 65/70 and being active and travelling is completely different to holding down a full time job where you can’t just rest if your feeling tired that day.

tachetastic · 01/04/2026 20:22

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/04/2026 19:28

I don’t pay into a private pension and I’m unlikely to get an state pension - that’s why I will work for as long as I can and then check out - so those of you who think we should encourage a higher birth rate should be happy with that

That seems quite a radical retirement plan.

Do you at least own your home that you can sell to give you a few years to enjoy while you explore options for checking out?

Papyrophile · 01/04/2026 20:23

Honestly, I think most of MN is determined to be poor when ageing. I have rarely read such stupidity.

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