AIBU to feel annoyed by a payment reminder after 36 hours?

[SixtySomething]

We have a weekly service at our house. The company sends us a bill a few hours after finishing the work and we pay by bank transfer. The cost can vary so we don't pay by direct debit.
Recently, we received the regular bill but didn't pay immediately. The bill was followed up with a reminder 36 hours later. We are longstanding customers.This left me feeling really narked. AIBU?
YABU: They did the work, so you should pay them straight away.
YANBU: They should give you a week to pay. This is pushy behaviour.

It was a WhatsApp just to us.

This isn't what you said in your opening post.
If you are saying the arrangement was 3 - 4 days now then that changes all the goal posts.

Personally I have no idea why you would feel narked or that they were greedy or pushy but I would want to know why they were going against what had been previously agreed (if that was the case) and I would want to find out if they wanted to change the terms and then discuss that with them.

You're backtracking now @SixtySomething
The impression you gave in your first post was that they tell you the amount and you do a bank transfer more or less immediately. That's why you were annoyed when you got a reminder after 36 hours and you admitted you forgot to pay.

I thought that too, I checked and nothing about 3 - 4 days arrangement, this is the original post:

"We have a weekly service at our house. The company sends us a bill a few hours after finishing the work and we pay by bank transfer. The cost can vary so we don't pay by direct debit.
Recently, we received the regular bill but didn't pay immediately. The bill was followed up with a reminder 36 hours later. We are longstanding customers.This left me feeling really narked. AIBU?
YABU: They did the work, so you should pay them straight away.
YANBU: They should give you a week to pay. This is pushy behaviour"

You say in one of your posts that there are no specific terms of payment. So, you’ve been paying according to what you think is a reasonable timescale, and these people have accepted that. But. If there’re no specific terms of payment, then they’re entirely within their rights to remind you to pay whenever they like. Also, a reminder to pay isn’t the same thing as a demand for immediate payment.

I don’t know, I think you’ve turned this into a much bigger deal than it needs to be.

I'm not backtracking. Im just trying to describe what happens! If I did give the impression of paying almost immediately, then that's because I do consider 3-4 days as almost immediately.
The confusing bit is saying I forgot to pay. I intended to pay on the day and forgot. But we might not pay that quickly all the time. It would be equally normal to pay on the day, the next day, or after a couple of days, up to four days.

I don’t know, I think you’ve turned this into a much bigger deal than it needs to be.
I never realisedd it was a big deal! It was all a bit casual in my mind. Then all the accusations and attacks started, and talk of people on the breadline etcetera.

Thanks for quoting the original post. I can't particularly see that I'm backtracking. I think the issue is that I took it all quite casually and perhaps the phrasing is vague. I wasn't expecting the assassinations that rolled in. It would be better if people sensibly clarified what was going on before going on the attack. I think sometimes they've been drinking.
It's so great to finally have a sensible conversation. 🙂

I'm not...I haven't...I didn't say that...I didn't mean that..you don't understand...you're all wrong...you're all arguing etc etc etc

It's like a masterclass in oppositional defiant disorder.

Add ‘you’re all drinking’ to that list now @bigboykitty

Do you really think paying for a weekly service after 3 to 4 days is “almost immediately”?

So for a monthly service would 2 weeks later be “almost immediately”?
or for a yearly service after six months?

You insisted multiple times they had no terms and conditions but then later tell us they have always allowed you to pay after 3 to 4 days. There were implied terms and conditions before hand and your issue is that these have changed. How is that not back tracking?

Sorry, but you're quite confused. What you say doesn't make sense, so I can't reply. Try to concentrate on understanding what I AM saying, rather than trying to catch me out.

Oh dear ... you're trying to ridicule me, but you have nothing to say.

Sad!

What @marcopront says makes sense to the rest of us.

Let’s try again.

Do you think that paying for a weekly service after 3 to 4 days is “almost immediately”?

Embarrassing. What a knob 🙄

I'm not talking about my situation, I'm talking about standard accounting procedures from the point of view of a qualified accountant who configures accounting software packages, and has long experience of advising businesses (both large and small) on sending & receiving payments in a timely fashion.

From their point of view, it was unusual to not receive a payment from you, so they sent you a reminder just in case you'd forgotten. Which you had.

I don't like seeing people beaten to a pulp on MN.

Will you take a bit of advice @SixtySomething ? Back away from the thread. You are only igniting further attacks by arguing, picking and trying to justify.

I responded earlier on this, My cleaner reminds me if I've forgotten to pay her, sometimes after a few hours of leaving. I don't have a problem with it and prefer that she does. I believe that it's perfectly reasonable for your contractors to remind you to pay within 36hrs.

I think that many others have said the same, so I guess that that's your answer, especially as the vote is 96% YABU.

They did the service, sent you a bill, you forgot to pay, they sent you a reminder.

I'm not seeing the issue.

Because she didn’t tell us initially that they have changed the time period before they send a reminder but is also cross we don’t know that.

I reckon @SixtySomething and her husband hired this “service” off an escort site. Hence her sheepishness around said service.

These people earned their dollar as the impression I get from the Op is that she would have got her moneys worth 🤢

Yes and she also says that people are silly, disrespectful and drunk and she can't understand what they've written and also that they are not understanding what her 'real question' is when we're all just trying to answer her actual posts, which keep changing, (probably just because we don't agree with her that its greedy to send reminders).

It's pointless trying to answer her, and I'm still unsure what the 'real question' is, given that all of her actual posts have been answered and explained in every which way people possibly can.

Don’t forget that we are all children but that comment was deleted.

The thing is if her open comment had said they used to send reminders after 4 days and now they sent one after 36 hours without any prior notice I would have agreed they were being unreasonable.