How to decline an invite

[WineBeforeWhine]

How do I decline invite without upsetting my friend. She lives in a one bed flat and has asked me to come and stay over. She only has a single bed, which I hope she lets me have. Otherwise it’s cushions on the floor and I’d never get up off the floor. I’m also a wriggler and honestly think I’ll probably fall out of the single bed. In addition her gay friend (male) is also staying over and she says he sleeps on the floor next to the bed!!! I’m no spring chicken and sharing a room with a guy I only met once before isn’t appealing.

how do I excuse myself politely and without offending her?

Just say you are too old to be sharing rooms and ask where nearest travel lodge is.

”Honestly Diane, I don’t share a room with anyone these days, never mind a bed! I’d love to see you but definitely won’t stay over thanks”.

YABU

Ideal.

Assuming you are an adult this is an outrageous invitation. There's no way I would even consider it as a serious thing.

Oh I’d love to pop over but I won’t stay thank you. I’m too old to share a room and I’d rather sleep in my own bed

Why?

@WineBeforeWhine just use one of the great answers others posters have suggested.

YANBU by the way. You aren't a student any more.

"No, thank you"?

I live quite a bit from my closest friends and if we go to a gig or dinner or something, they always offer to have me stay over and I don't like to, so I say "no thanks, I'd rather go home".

April Fools by any chance? Surely this cant be something she thinks is acceptable sleeping arrangements

@RampantIvy , it's not an AIBU?

Why would you need to share a room? A one bed flat has two rooms. Does she not have a sofa you could sleep on?

I wouldn't attempt to sleep on someone's sofa if they paid me. Not sure it's an appealing offer.

@WineBeforeWhine just say you’re one hell of a snorer and there’s no way you’d subject anyone to it, you couldn’t live with the embarrassment! You’ll stay in a local b&b or head-home, can’t wait to see her though!

I feel the same. I would be inclined to say "Are you joking?" but I suppose that might cause offence. I just can't imagine offering to have guest(s) stay over in a one bed flat!

YABU in the fact that you know someone well enough that they invite you to stay over, but you aren't then able to say no, without asking the internet.

I mean, I'm relatively old, and, if it made sense for me to stay with someone (too far to get home, or so we can all have a drink, or whatever) I'd just take a roll mat and crack on, but if that isn't for you, I don't understand why you'd need help to say "Thanks for the offer mate, but my days of sleeping over on a friend's floor are long gone" or whatever.

Yabu, for even feeling like you need help with this. You do know this isn’t a normal situation op? You do know people don’t share room with people they don’t know? You do know that you’re an adult that can actually say no to something this outrageous.

Just go ahead and book a room for the night, you can tell her saying you need your creature comforts.

Unless someone has a guest room, it’s really odd to even suggest staying over. With my little brother I do let him stay in the living room but I always apologise and say he can stay if he wishes but the rest of my family stay at the local hotel

What is the context? Why does she want you to stay over? If it's because you're visiting or doing something else, just say you'll book in somewhere nearby but it's weird she wants you to stay over.

It's fine Sarah, I couldn't possibly take your bed. We can all have drinks and then I'll go to my hotel.

If you can afford a hotel and can't handle telling her the truth then lie through your teeth and say your DH/Mum treated you to a hotel room (and paid upfront) so you didn't have to drive home, without knowing you'd been invited to stay.

I have done this as a uni student. I hated it then but it was sometimes the only affordable option to see a friend or go on a night out. No way would I do it now. I wouldn't even entertain it and wouldn't even feel bad. I'd say I don't sleep well unless I have a proper bed (don't assume she is giving up hers!) and don't share with anyone other than DH or the kids. I'd happily book a cheap hotel, head home if near enough or jist not go.

Yes, come on OP- this is outrageous of your friend. I dont know anyone in their right mind who would expect you to share a room with a complete stranger.

Why are you worrying about upsetting someone who is suggesting something ridiculous. Tell her. "I dont want to share a room with a stranger- it makes me very uncomfortable so I wont be staying over". Thats it. Thats all you need to say

Unless you're a child sleeping on a friend's floor isn't really a option.

Is this a joke?

Is this a wind up? You've got an easy out. Also why is the friend sleeping on the floor not in the living room.