We know a couple, let us call them A and B. I first met A when our DDs were young as we went to the same swimming group. We were friendly and did have a few play dates but I soon realised I did not want to maintain a friendship as I found her quite demanding. It then came about that my DH works with B and they have become friends in the last 2 years. He is a nice guy but a bit intense. Since then they have clearly wanted us to make us their "couple friends" to do things with. I don't mind sometimes but it's too much. For example it is now the Easter holidays and they have suggested we meet up three times within 2 weeks! This because I agreed to one thing and then they latch onto it and suggest other things. One meet up in the holidays is enough, surely!
I am conscious I may be being unkind. They are nice people, I just don't enjoy A's company. She can be almost a bit rude but I believe this is because she is ND rather than actually rude. I say this as I am ND and I recognise things in her. I could he wrong and she could just be ignorant but I don't think so. Only relevant as I wonder if it's the fact we might both be ND in a similar way which makes us clash (at least from my point of view).
I need downtime to recharge and I am not interested in making plans with people who are not my close friends. I play netball three evenings a week. DH has hobbies she we like to keep weekends for family time. I don't mind occasionally doing something with the girls as they are in the same class but they take us accepting any invitation as a chance to rekindle this couple friendship and then keep suggesting things. We can say no of course and often do but they don't stop. Even my close friends I would only see once a month at most as we're all busy.
Is it best to not say yes at all?
I'm fully prepared to be told I'm unreasonable as I'm not sure I'm handling this the right way. It's been going on for two years!