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AIBU I got bait and switched?

77 replies

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:33

I just stated my new role, and everything was absolutely fine. During the interview they asked me if I had experience doing “x” and I said yeah no problem, as sometimes I’d have to help with that.

So today, day 1 - it turns out it’s a proper hybrid role and nobody has a clear explanation. I don’t meet my manager until tomorrow quite late in the afternoon and the meantime HR has just sign posted me to my manager.

I was on a call with someone earlier today and the first thing she told me was that she knew it was a “hybrid role” which I did tell her that I was news to me as I know it was more a “helping hand” but I had a core role.

She then cut the call short, but offered to ask HR, and said I’d do that myself.

So AIBU that it’s bait and switch?

for reference I would given the situation still take the role even though it would technically be a downgrade for me.

OP posts:
chipsticksmammy · 30/03/2026 16:34

What did you sign a did you see a job description?

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:35

chipsticksmammy · 30/03/2026 16:34

What did you sign a did you see a job description?

Yes, and there was no mention of the other responsibilities. And my contract really says one specific type of role

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BillieWiper · 30/03/2026 16:35

What does hybrid role mean in this context? You're doing more of task X than you were expecting to? Or something else?

Batties · 30/03/2026 16:36

Why is hybrid a step down?

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:38

BillieWiper · 30/03/2026 16:35

What does hybrid role mean in this context? You're doing more of task X than you were expecting to? Or something else?

Yea correct. And they’re completely different roles too

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Boustany · 30/03/2026 16:38

You've only been there a day and not even met your manager yet. I would keep your powder dry and talk to your manager about what the role is when you meet her. Don't panic yet.

If it is genuinely different, that's when you can talk to her and/or to HR about your job description and how the role was presented to you. You're going to stay in any event but there may still be a way to shape the role a bit and build up the parts you want.

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:40

Batties · 30/03/2026 16:36

Why is hybrid a step down?

In my sector my role (where my experience is) is seen as a step up (and normal progression) . The salaries are also always half of that of my actual line of work.

OP posts:
BillieWiper · 30/03/2026 16:41

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:38

Yea correct. And they’re completely different roles too

Ah ok. That does sound dodgy. The whole place sounds quite chaotic.

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:43

Boustany · 30/03/2026 16:38

You've only been there a day and not even met your manager yet. I would keep your powder dry and talk to your manager about what the role is when you meet her. Don't panic yet.

If it is genuinely different, that's when you can talk to her and/or to HR about your job description and how the role was presented to you. You're going to stay in any event but there may still be a way to shape the role a bit and build up the parts you want.

That’s what I told HR, that’s it’s not a problem per se, but wanted some clarity to structure my way of doing things

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OCDmama · 30/03/2026 17:12

'hybrid' in the working context means a mix of in-office and home working.

You're going to confuse a lot of posters. Can you clarify what you mean?

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 17:13

OCDmama · 30/03/2026 17:12

'hybrid' in the working context means a mix of in-office and home working.

You're going to confuse a lot of posters. Can you clarify what you mean?

It means a mix of two roles….

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ObliviousCoalmine · 30/03/2026 17:18

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 17:13

It means a mix of two roles….

Not in my workplace it doesn’t. An entire county’s LA refers to ‘hybrid’ as working part in the office and part at home. I’d wager a lot of people will say the same…

Batties · 30/03/2026 17:25

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 17:13

It means a mix of two roles….

That explains my misunderstanding. I’ve only ever know hybrid working to mean a mix of home and office working.

ColdAsAWitches · 30/03/2026 17:27

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:40

In my sector my role (where my experience is) is seen as a step up (and normal progression) . The salaries are also always half of that of my actual line of work.

Sorry, this is really confusing. What's seen as a step up, and why is it half the salary if it's what you do? Between this and your use of hybrid in a different way to the rest of the world, you're going to confuse a lot of people!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 30/03/2026 17:27

Hybrid to me I don’t take to mean a mix of 2 roles!

tilypu · 30/03/2026 17:28

A hybrid can be a mix of two anything, and I think it's quite obvious from the context what OP means.

If you are being paid the full worth of the job you applied for, and your job title is correct, then I would wait and see what they say: it might be that they need some help temporarily due to short staffing/sickness/maternity cover, and it makes more sense to use the people available than to hire someone short term.

See what your manager says.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 30/03/2026 17:31

Actually OP you are correct hybrid is a role where responsibilities are typically performed by several people or departments belong to one person.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 30/03/2026 17:34

tilypu · 30/03/2026 17:28

A hybrid can be a mix of two anything, and I think it's quite obvious from the context what OP means.

If you are being paid the full worth of the job you applied for, and your job title is correct, then I would wait and see what they say: it might be that they need some help temporarily due to short staffing/sickness/maternity cover, and it makes more sense to use the people available than to hire someone short term.

See what your manager says.

Apparently it’s more common to hire people in hybrid roles. Depends if this is what you want OP.

EnterSandfan · 30/03/2026 17:35

This has happened to me twice. The first, I'd applied for a specialist role and on my first day, they admitted they'd filled that role three weeks prior, but they 'needed someone on reception' so they plonked me on there..nothing wrong with reception jobs but it wasn't what I'd applied for! Didn't last long there.

Second time, completely different role and sector..I was told I might have to possibly occasionally help out and cover for a minute sometimes if the receptionist was on a break etc. I said ok sure that's fine. Turned out I was expected to cover constantly as the receptionist was part time, so I was the default backup receptionist and before that I actually spent the first few weeks full time on reception as they hadn't even hired a receptionist yet, so I didn't have time to learn anything from the person I was replacing. Then when she started, I had to spend ages training her instead of getting on with my role. They should have been honest that it was a shared role.

It's very annoying when this happens OP, YANBU

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 17:58

ColdAsAWitches · 30/03/2026 17:27

Sorry, this is really confusing. What's seen as a step up, and why is it half the salary if it's what you do? Between this and your use of hybrid in a different way to the rest of the world, you're going to confuse a lot of people!

Ok so

Role B (the one I was hired fors and I’m a senior)

it’s a step up from A (the one they want me to be a Hybrid of)

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KilkennyCats · 30/03/2026 18:07

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 16:40

In my sector my role (where my experience is) is seen as a step up (and normal progression) . The salaries are also always half of that of my actual line of work.

Surely you know what your salary is going to be?

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 18:07

KilkennyCats · 30/03/2026 18:07

Surely you know what your salary is going to be?

Yes, I know my salary, I’m just mentioning as the calibre of the different roles

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KilkennyCats · 30/03/2026 18:09

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 18:07

Yes, I know my salary, I’m just mentioning as the calibre of the different roles

But you’re being paid the higher figure?
What’s the relevance of the other role usually attracting half the salary?

Donotfitin · 30/03/2026 18:15

KilkennyCats · 30/03/2026 18:09

But you’re being paid the higher figure?
What’s the relevance of the other role usually attracting half the salary?

Which from an experience POV it’s a downgrade! I way over experienced and qualified for doing that other job. I’ve done it briefly here and there and no, it’s not for me. Plus, I’m on a leadership journey, and this seems like 2 steps backwards

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KilkennyCats · 30/03/2026 18:39

Leadership journey? Confused