My daughter is in year 4 and I think her school is quite high pressure. They have always done constant test papers and have now started converting the scores to standardised SATs marks and telling the kids where they are and if they are working towards, expected or greater depth.
This is clearly quite openly talked about in the classroom and my daughter is very aware of where she and everyone else is.
This has caused her to come home in tears the last few weeks over her scores. She’s dyslexic and hasn’t always found academics easy.
She got a solid expected in maths and just missed out in spag (got it for grammar but was dragged down by her spelling, which is her major issue with the dyslexia). They annoyingly didn’t tell the kids their English comp scores but hers was greater
depth.
I think she’s doing really well, particularly when I know it hasn’t been easy for her, but she is in floods of tears as she has some of the lowest scores in the class. I do believe she is one of the bottom as most of the children will go on to get greater depth in their SATs and most are already being tutored quite heavily for 11+. She is also in a number of intervention groups.
AIBU to think she’s done well and her school is just bonkers? Or are most kids across the country doing much better than this? For context her scores are, 107 maths, 98 spag (105 on grammar) and 132 English comp.
The parents WhatsApp’s is going crazy over the scores and breakout groups for 11+ “support” depending on what schools you will be targeting and this definitely spills into the classroom. She sat next to a girl who was saying she must have one of the worst scores as she had dropped 4 marks on a paper!
We don’t actually live in an 11+ area but boarder 2 with 2 of the top grammars in our doorstep that don’t have catchments. So people need almost full marks to get in to these schools and I think they’ve lost all sense of perspective.
I just find this all absolutely ridiculous and hate that I feel trapped in it. My daughter isn’t going to take the 11+ and SATs really are not that important. I’m debating taking my daughter out of the school because the pressure is just so stupid and clearly going to get worse. But she is very happy with her friends there and generally at school so moving her feels risky in a way. Plus I assume all schools in this area will be the same…
So if we leave her in the school how can I support her and help her feel confident / proud of what she has achieved? And stop this constant comparison?