AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

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DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this.

AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

Oh come on.

I dont believe this

In all my years of doing school runs I don’t think I’ve ever seen any parents kissing on the school yard. Maybe holding hands on the walk up. I find that strange regardless of your daughter’s opinion.
Add in the fact it’s clearly distressing for her, YABVU.

YABU

Its embarrassing enough that you got with one of the dads but you are fully aware she’s not comfortable with it and still do it anyway.

You are literally dropping her off and there is no reason you can’t wait until afterwards.

Sounds like you’re both doing the performance for other people and don’t care that your child is feeling so uncomfortable.

It's not your DP it's your new boyfriend and kissing and lifting in the air on the school run is entirely unnecessary

No you aren't expected to stay single and obviously she will have to get used to you having a new partner and that you will reasonably show affection to that partner. However the school run is niether the time nor the place for that so yabu either find a different way to meet during the week or wait til the weekend.

I agree with others. Wait till she has gone in before you start hugging and kissing.

She is probably very embarrassed and no doubt getting her leg pulled about it. I would have been mortified if my parents were kissing at my school gates.

But, so sweet and romantic. 🩷

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Fucking hell. There isn’t an 11 year old on planet Earth that wouldn’t be mortified by this behaviour.

Your boyfriend lifted you up? At school???

If my DH did this to me in the school playground, I would think he had lost his mind.

The phrase ‘Get a room’ has never been more apt.

This thread must be a joke. “11 Year Old Embarrassed by Mother’s Excessive PDA with Brand New Partner on BBC News at 10.” and if this is how you actually think about things - “She got embarrassed when my new partner WHO IS ALSO A SCHOOL PARENT picked me up and swung me around like a movie. Dos she expect me to stay single forever?!?” Then wooooo boy does your daughter have some rough years ahead. So what’s it like - you and he see each and you just go for it, like he just came back from the war?

And no. It’s not normal to act that way when you see people unless you have a very dramatic life. That’s why it’s such an iconic photo after WW2, of the sailor dipping the nurse in a kiss on D-Day… because it’s not something that just happens on the fucking school run 😂

You've had years of taking your daughter to school so you will have observed how many people kiss in the school playground. Have you observed that lots of people do it or do they realise it's not appropriate?

Also I don't know why it's obvious that you mostly see a person you are dating when on the school run. Just a thought but perhaps you could meet him at other times?

Normal couples DO NOT kiss and embrace each other at their children’s school.

Fgs! You're not teenagers!

Most 11 yr olds would be embarrassed by their happily married parents kissing at the school gate, let alone mum and boyfriend, who presumably is the parent of another pupil. Just don't do it. Keep your private life private

Are we still waiting in the playground to pick 11 year olds? Surely they either walk home or walk to the car themselves

Agree. My DC would have been embarrassed if I kissed their dad/my DH at the school gate. There’s a time and a place and that isn’t it…

YABVVU

Stop with the PDA whilst your 11 is present and embarrassed outside her school. Is it that difficult to wait 15 minutes and snog the boyfriend when DC has gone into school. No its not.

Im just taking bets with myself as to how long it will be before the thread is deleted because its utter bunkum.

This cannot be real

I’m a single mum and can’t imagine kissing a new bf in front of my kids

Yabu.

my DC would be mortified if I kissed DH / their dad on the school run, never mind a new boyfriend! Everything I say, do or think embarrasses DD10!

Not to mention, sleep in separate bedrooms? 🤔

Or if it’s true bets on how long till the ops having a baby and moving this chap in.

50/50 odds.

Don't do this in front of her school friends. Just don't.

Just a thought but perhaps you could meet him at other times?

But @redskyAtNigh then all the other parents, and their former spouses who no doubt hear about it from their embarrassed 11 year olds, won’t know how IN LUUUUUURVE they are. You can’t just have a relationship IN PRIVATE! What’s the point of that??? I mean, it would be like wishing your DH happy anniversary in person instead of on Facebook!

Six months is hardly forever. Kissing, never mind anything else, at the school gate is quite naff really.

Give your daughter a bit of peace.