AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

[Werze]

DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this.

AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

This sounds like the PDA my ex would indulge in with his new partner in front of his family (told to me by his sister who found it cringeworthy)

At least it wasn’t in front of my kids at the school gate.

Completely with your daughter on this, the school run is not the place for you to get your fix from your new partner. Not to mention only knowing him for 6 months. There’s no way I’d have introduced a new partner to my child that quickly.

Seriously? Are you two both 12? Or do you think you’re the stars of your own Disney movie? The school run is not the place for that, especially when it’s a fairly new partner not your dds dad.

I think you sound incredibly selfish.

Don't prioritise your boyfriend or you wanting to behave like a child over your actual child. She doesn't like you doing something in front of her that you don't have to do in front of her, so why the fuck do you insist on doing it?

Not sure I'd be so quick to introduce a partner to your child either, never mind be all over each other in front of her.

No there’s a time and place. Completely inappropriate. Your poor dd.

It never ceases to amaze me how many parents seem to think the school run is about them and their own social (or your case, love) life. I’ve lost count of how many parents I’ve seen ignore their kids over the years while they play playground politics, engage in gossip etc.

My opinion is that the focus of the school run should be your kids - getting them in whatever way is most calming, familiar and helpful for them. Your needs are secondary.

It's pretty cringe let's face it

New dp picked you up? He's pushing it lol

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OP I’m not surprised she is embarrassed,, you have to stop that. She’ll be aware of the gossiping about you and your DP. That’s inappropriate.

Don’t be SO performative -

it is CRINGE 😬

poor kid

you are on the school run, not a shampoo advert !!!

This is making me gag before you even get to the child.

Per-form-a-tive

You're not being very emotionally intelligent here. Sorry. YABU.

This. You have a parental responsibility which you are neglecting. It’s her school run, it’s about her not you, make it about her.

I can’t believe either of you thought this was appropriate in front of a school.

He’s on the school run how can they avoid them meeting each other?

Now I’m picturing the famous scene from Dirty Dancing lol but that’s probably less cringe!

Lol I didn’t mean like that, we were hugging and he sort of got me to jump up and held me for a bit to kiss. Definitely wasn’t a dirty dancing scene, no wonder so many people picked up on my comment if that was the confusion 😂

Good God no. At the school? What made you think that wouldn't be hugely embarrassing? I'm embarrassed just thinking about it. She would probably care much less if it wasn't in plain sight of other parents and school friends.

I did not picture dirty dancing and it’s still too much for the school drop off.

The hugging and kissing was too much for the drop off let alone the jump up and held for a bit.

You’re adults not teens.

I have second hand embarrassment for your daughter. On what planet do you think this is appropriate at the school gate? Surely, SURELY, you can find a more appropriate place to jump up and be held?! Jesus wept.

You’re definitely being unreasonable. He’s been on the scene for 5 minutes but you’re prioritising your own need for intimacy, over her needs. Why embarrass her in front of her peers with your PDA? You can shag him when she’s completely out of sight & in the classroom surely, but until then it’s fairly chavvy to be all over your new boyfriend during the school run. It’s just attention seeking.

Good parents would just tunnel
focus on their kids during the school run, instead you’re here making things all about you, and just expecting her to be uncomfortable and put up and shut up.

Most married couples in established relationships aren’t lifting each other in the air & kissing on the school run, let alone people in new relationships who barely know each other/the child involved.

@Werze I wouldn't want to see my biological parents kiss, let alone a step parent.

As my kids would say: "cringe, cringe".

This. Jesus Christ, your poor kids.

This has to be a reverse surely?
In my experience the couple that did this and grossed out their kids, the kids still really dont get on with the step parents as adults. Its grossing her out and devaluing her feelings. Really unkind and will damage her relationship and trust in you. Gross.

I was all ready to be on your side OP, as I used to cringe myself inside out at my parents kissing. Even with no witnesses!

But after six months, he's lifting you up and kissing you?! Ew. No. She may well be unreasonable and hormonal about a lot of things but this is beyond cringey.

My children would not want to see my husband and I doing this and we are both their parents. So I think you are being massively unreasonable to use the school run for a dating opportunity. Just walk back together and do whatever you like after the kids go in.