What’s wrong with me, hospital clueless

[elm26]

Yesterday at 1pm, I put my 6 month old on the rug with his toys and went for a wee.

As I was walking back I had a sudden severe pain in my right side radiating into my lower back and up to my shoulder, I was in agony.

I called DH who was luckily only on a job 15 mins away, he came straight home and took one look at me and called ambulance, I was shouting out in pain they gave me gas and air and morphine.

I had an emergency CT when dye last night and also have a catheter as lost the ability to wee. Nothing showed on CT, they got me settled on morphine and today I’ve had a transvaginal scan which shows ovaries and womb look normal.

Gynae can’t find a reason so they’ve stopped painkillers and just giving me paracetamol but somethings wrong I feel like somebody’s twisting my insides. The gynae consultant was horrible and said the surgical team will come see me if they think it’s worth it?? So I’m waiting for that if they come.

I’m in so much pain and genuinely scared they’ll send me home not knowing what is wrong with me.

Has anyone has anything similar?

Ignore the negative posters who seem to lack reading comprehension skills.

I hope you get the answers you need @elm26, you have had an awful few days and your family must be so worried about you. Hopefully this is the start of your recovery ❤️‍🩹
Sending you gentle hugs 🫂 and positive thoughts that you’ll soon be home with your babies and DH.

just read your last few posts that sounds genuinely scary. The hospital needs to have answers over why they treated you so poorly.

don’t stop posting, your experience is what so many of us have faced (as per the experiences people have post) medical misogyny needs more awareness.

would love you to tell us what is wrong once you know, you never know it might help someone else in the future

Have them check your appendix if you still have it. Requires blood work. I had something similar - couldn’t eat, couldn’t wee and my poo went chalky yellow. I lost my appetite. I slowly started to deteriorate until I could barely get to my feet. My appendix had burst and I had sepsis. Got turned away twice by gp. Nearly died.

Me too, just the other day!
I sent some WhatsApp messages after my surgery to the family chat (my son had asked for “proof of life”😂) but I didn’t remember doing it so I sent them some more/different photos when I was more with it, they all thought I was still 😵‍💫🤣

@elm26

Please don't stop posting on your thread,

it's not you that has had comments / replies removed !

Wishing you all the best OP. What a rotten few days xx

Wishing you well. Hugs

Feel better soon Op and hope u get some clarity! I’ve always found hospitals awful with actual information. I’m sure they talk to each other but forget u and your family may need to know? Although if I was your hubby I would be at the ward demanding answers.

Lots of us do believe you and are hoping that you make a speedy recovery. There does appear to be an issue with people, particularly women, being dismissed by medical professionals and it’s terrible that you were made to feel a nuisance. We would be interested to know the outcome of all this and wish you well.

@elm26 Sending very un-Mumsnetty hugs & healing thoughts 💐 I’m sorry you’ve gone through such an horrendous experience, but if I can give you a small positive - I had to involve PALS in an appointments issue. I sent them a very angry, but very factual (point by point) email. I sent it on a Saturday afternoon & by Tuesday everything was sorted, & all in my favour. I also received an apology from all involved. So fingers crossed that you have the same outcome 💐

How many times do you want to get deleted?

I was off my face post operation but didn't know I was off my face at the time

RTFT

And those people doubting the story obviously don't have an insight to anaesthetic drugs and how people react to them.... hence why a person has to have a responsible adult with them 24 hrs post op, can't drive/operate machinery or sign legal documents...

Some people on this thread should be ashamed of themselves and their comments.

I hope you can now start to get properly better. I know you may not want to come back to this thread, but if you could face it, please tell us what the problem actually was - it might just help someone else advocate for themselves.

Wishing you all the very best with your recovery.

I do wish MN was faster to ban troll hunters. They can ruin threads and make genuine posts feel awful

Just to counter the negative comments, although I am more of a reader than a poster I wanted to speak out and say I am thinking of you and hope you are ok soon. Well done for persisting even though you understandably just want to be at home with your babies. You need to be well for them, and that means advocating for yourself, and being away for a short time if necessary. I do hope you get a positive resolution soon.

Your O2 is at 88 with oxygen? Or the O2 number says 88? What surgery did you consent to? This is all very concerning for you.

I hope you get well soon OP. You've been treated appallingly. Sending you strength and best wishes to get home soon to your babies.

Your blood pressure sounds very low. Is there definitely no infection showing?

I hope they get to the bottom of it soon, I have had a similar experience and it turned out to be appendicitis, was in and out with pain several times over the course of a year before it was identified as an infected appendix and taken out. It’s very worrying when you’re in so much pain and they can’t tell you what it is/fob you off like you’re making it up.

RTFT

Thank you I wasn’t going to come back but you’re right that the good people on here outweigh the bad to clear up any confusion. I’m a little more with it now I’m down to paracetamol and dehydracodeine not morphine.

I signed a consent form for laparoscopy as they had exhausted scans and bloods. I was taken in to theatre last night after copious amounts of morphine again, I don’t even remember signing the consent form but DH was with me and confirmed that I did. I’ve got 3 incisions, belly button and one either side of my hip area. I remember the anaesthetist stroking my hand as I was crying that I was cold and he said he was going to give me a very strong painkiller called fentanyl then I was to take 5 deep breaths with a mask over my face then that’s it, I don’t remember being in recovery, taken back to the ward etc I just remember waking up to DH beside me this morning. Consultant has been around, they’ve taken a biopsy of some fluid they found behind my stomach? My SATs are now sat at 90 with a small amount of oxygen through a band that sits around my face and goes up my
nose (not a mouth mask) but they are going to review at handover. I’ve had a chest xray, waiting on results and some more blood. There is talk that I may have Crohns or similar and I’ve also been tested for coeliac disease.

I haven’t got the energy to scroll back to what I’ve said before and I’ve been off my head on strong painkillers since I collapsed again yesterday afternoon so apologies if I’ve repeated myself.

The nurses have been lovely and helped me have a wash earlier and put clean pjs on. They also brushed my hair and clipped it up. I’d just got out of the bath at home and had washed my hair and it’s wild when it’s not dried and straightened so I look wonderful at the minute not that I really care but I cannot fault the nurses, HCA’s, the men and women cleaning, the men and women topping up my water and bringing me food. They are all wonderful.

and I truly wish I was making it up. I do have history of anxiety and depression. But I am not imagining collapsing in agony twice, being unresponsive, being taken for emergency surgery. I’d do anything to be at home right now doing dinner and bath/story time with my little girl, and then putting her to bed and having cuddles with my 6 month old whilst DH and I lay about on the sofa watching crappy weekend TV. I do not want to be in hospital. I hate it here and to make it worse, I’m in the very same number bay and ward (not bed space) as the one my Nan died suddenly in (who bought me up) which is making me really panicky.