AIBU to feel no attraction to men after dating at 50?

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I'm single no kids, ltr split up amicably 4 years ago. I've been on and off online dating but I really don't fancy anyone at all. Nothing bad about the guys I've met, they've been generally nice but I literally feel like I cannot be bothered. I don't want to be alone forever or think that's it for love (I'm 50) and I'm hoping that bit of me hasn't died , but I can rustle up no excitement or attraction for any bloke at all. Help! Is this normal at this age?

If “frisson” is the missing element, it could just be menopause? And libido may, or may not, be back in it’s own sweet time. If you really miss it, you could consider HRT which often helps?

Must be hormones taking off our blinkers.

Seriously, if something every happens to DH, I never want a man near me again.

I'd love a commune type thing with my female friends until I die.

Many older women go younger these days.

I can imagine. That's DH and my age, it's different if you've known them for years I think as you sort of still see them as the person you met? But if it's the full force of this middle-aged bloke plus tanking peri libido, the total loss of interest makes perfect sense.

It’s not a PC opinion to have but I’m 45 and if I became single tomorrow I would rather be single forever than date men my own age or older. No thanks.

You’ve given a lot of people hope!

Agreed

ALL of the 64 year old men my age or thereabouts want to move in with me because they dont own their own homes. They are generally no hopers.
I dont want any of them.

He's lovely 😍 he cooked a delicious lamb dish this evening and is just making me a whiskey sour 😋

The only time I see attractive older men is when I go to well-off areas such as London, Surrey and parts of Cheshire, otherwise, they're generally bald and broke, with a beer belly. Attractive older women are everywhere though.

I was single at 45, while going through the menopause. I had no sex drive and tbh it was great, very freeing. Then I met my DP during lock down. We could take things slowly because of the lock downs. He's a year older than me. We are well suited. Sex isn't our main connection, although it is good. I feel that it's a new stage of life. The men who drink in our circle aren't looking for younger women. Most are very solvent, the rest have their own home and ok pension. It's been nearly ten years post menopause and my sex drive is back, but I don't think that I could have the casual sex that I used to. It wasn't called the change without good reason. It is a time of change and not all negative.