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AIBU to want advice about dealing with entitled school mum?

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CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 18:58

There’s an infuriating school mum at my DD’s school.
She drives through the village to the school every morning above the speed limit. Lots of kids around and pedestrians and pushchairs etc.
She often parks on a grass verge with a No Parking sign. Her child passenger gets out onto flowerbeds.
One time she parked half on the pavement and opened her car door onto a passing school dad and his daughter. He told her she’d done it and she just said “no I haven’t”.
The school have put out repeated reminders not to park on the school’s neighbours verges and she still does it.
She complained her son didn’t get a big enough part in the nativity in Reception.
Her DS does seem to do disproportionately well out of school play parts and church readings and competitions. I suspect the school is trying to appease her.
She went into the school crying dramatically saying another boy was bullying her son. My DD is in both their class and told me it’s her son who’s nasty to others. Another couple of school mums told me that was their experience too.
She accosted the other boy’s mum in the playground telling her to “sort it out”. Very confrontational.
She complains on the group chat that there aren’t enough facilities at the school (play equipment for example) or school the events put on aren’t well organised. She complained about the food at the school disco.
I saw her park in the parent and child space at the supermarket when she was alone.
She comes across as rich and entitled, if anyone says anything to her she just denies any wrongdoing and has a go at them. Her husband enables her, at one school event he went up to the headteacher and was clearly expressing his displeasure about something, kept on at the poor head for about fifteen minutes. No one else could speak to the head as he monopolised their time.
Due to kids ages I have this family in my life for years to come.
Does every school have one?
I have her name and number and address and car registration if you’ve got any suggestions for teaching her a lesson!

OP posts:
Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:01

Are you the only one with an issue with her?

SooPanda · 25/03/2026 19:01

Pretty sure every school has one.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 25/03/2026 19:01

There’s nothing to be done about people like that.

Avoid & ignore.

Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:02

The issue from what you outline is that your children’s school is as effective as a bit of lettuce in addressing issues

CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 19:03

Oh and she leaves the car engine running during drop off. School said teachers can’t very well come out and approach people

OP posts:
MJagain · 25/03/2026 19:05

CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 19:03

Oh and she leaves the car engine running during drop off. School said teachers can’t very well come out and approach people

Call your community police offer / traffic wardens to do the rounds?
Photo on neighbourhood “shite parking” groups?

Thunderdcc · 25/03/2026 19:05

You could ask the local PCSO (not sure I have the initials in the right order!) or parking warden to hang around and give her a ticket. That's what our school does periodically. Doesn't help with all of her behaviour but might give you some entertainment one morning!

Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:05

CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 19:03

Oh and she leaves the car engine running during drop off. School said teachers can’t very well come out and approach people

But all the other things you list going on under the school roof. School sounds pathetic

Cherrysoup · 25/03/2026 19:06

WhatAMarvelousTune · 25/03/2026 19:01

There’s nothing to be done about people like that.

Avoid & ignore.

This. She'll get her comeuppance eventually, probably when her dc hits secondary school and there's 180 kids in his year group.

Thunderdcc · 25/03/2026 19:06

CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 19:03

Oh and she leaves the car engine running during drop off. School said teachers can’t very well come out and approach people

Does she get out? If so, steal her car 😂

Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:07

Her husband enables her, at one school event he went up to the headteacher and was clearly expressing his displeasure about something, kept on at the poor head for about fifteen minutes. No one else could speak to the head as he monopolised their time.

this isn’t an example of him enabling her

this is an example of an inconsiderate twat and a pathetic head teacher

WhatAMarvelousTune · 25/03/2026 19:11

CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 19:03

Oh and she leaves the car engine running during drop off. School said teachers can’t very well come out and approach people

Our school does. Scary receptionist comes and tells people off if they block driveways, because the school had complaints.

Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:12

She complains on the group chat that there aren’t enough facilities at the school (play equipment for example) or school the events put on aren’t well organised. She complained about the food at the school disco.

what is the response on the group chat?

mugglewump · 25/03/2026 19:22

It sounds like it is quite a small school, but surely there is someone in SLT who could spend a few early mornings supervising what happens ourside the school in the mornings because it is important for the school and local community to not have speeding, idling engines (both really bad for the children) or parking on the grass verges. As for approaching other mothers, the teacher or a member of SLT needs to speak to her about this and tell her it is not appropriate. Perhaps a few of you could approach the head and ask for a meeting about health and safety at pick ups and drop offs?

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 25/03/2026 19:23

PCSO for parking, school sounds useless, I would speak to the head, if no joy approach the governors. Get others involved who have issues or have complained about her.
She needs a verbal bitch slap.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 25/03/2026 19:25

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 25/03/2026 19:23

PCSO for parking, school sounds useless, I would speak to the head, if no joy approach the governors. Get others involved who have issues or have complained about her.
She needs a verbal bitch slap.

The governors? About what though? Her shit parking outside the school grounds - it would be good if the school sent out notes or someone came out to have a word but if they don’t is it something for governors?
Her complaints to the school? Her whining about the school? Those are things OP can complain about either.

I agree she sounds a pain, but it doesn’t really feel like a governor issue.

Myneighbourisanosyoldgit · 25/03/2026 19:28

I'm referring to the fact if the head doesn't do anything as they sound weak.
The reminder can come down from the governers about the health and safety on site for a start. I would be asking for their advice as it seems to be a small school.
I don't put up with idiots and go the extra mile to get things done rather than rolling over and shrugging my shoulders.
Don't speak up nothing changes.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 25/03/2026 19:29

CatPineappleTennis · 25/03/2026 19:03

Oh and she leaves the car engine running during drop off. School said teachers can’t very well come out and approach people

School needs to report to the police /local authority. This is what a local school did and the offending parent was fined. She was very similar to the one you've described

truffleruffle · 25/03/2026 19:29

Poor children what an example as a parent to give your children. She sounds horrible.

Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:30

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Auroraloves · 25/03/2026 19:34

Why isn’t everyone in this group chat calling her out? Is she parking on resident’s flower beds?

gamerchick · 25/03/2026 19:36

Have a word with the school and ask them to contact the council to get the traffic wardens in.

Then stick around to watch. The most entertaining school runs are the ones where the traffic wardens are dishing out tickets to these people.

User8457363 · 25/03/2026 19:40

Start an affair with her husband.
(Just kidding...or not?) 😆

TheoriginalMrsDarcy · 25/03/2026 19:41

The parking and speeding issue, I'd get the local police involved and speak to the school to ask they put it out in their newsletter.

The bullying of other kids, well, I'd do nothing until it affected my child. Sorry to sound so harsh but the school are not going to let you get involved until it becomes your issue, unless this child is disruptive in class, then I would have to get involved and say something.

Monopolising the headmasters time, well that depends on the complaint. The parent might have a valid complaint.

Lack of resources and equipment, I'd tell the mum to join the PTA and come up with ideas for fund raising. Schools have limited resources so many items need fund raising to purchase. My child's school spent loads of money on new playground equipment but this was through sheer hard work and dedication from the PTA.

Unfortunately, there will always be one or two parents who spoil it for the rest.

Okrose · 25/03/2026 19:41

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