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Is receiving £30k pa on benefits “living in poverty”?!

361 replies

ChumpWizard · 21/03/2026 19:40

Amol Rajan BBC R4 Today was in Colchester this week. Great interviews but one thing had me wondering.

Is receiving c£30,000 pa on benefits “living in poverty”? That’s the equivalent of a FT job earning c£40-£42k Pa.

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Abd80 · 23/03/2026 11:00

DoctorDja · 23/03/2026 08:20

They do it for every single meal. Even McDonald's breakfast. Get it on Uber eats and deliveroo as well. Spending more of OUR money.

I’m sorry , are you actually Nigel Farage ?!

Coffeeandbooks88 · 23/03/2026 11:13

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 10:31

I do t think they’ll starve. Do you seriously think a child will starve themselves to death because you didn’t buy them the cereal they wanted? They’d just die if there was a war and rationing was introduced would they?

Listen to yourself. You’re being ridiculous!

Yes it has happened. It is called arfid and is part of the autism spectrum. Luckily my autistic son will eat most things.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 23/03/2026 11:30

As soon as the money is taxed from you it isn't your money. It is the government's to do as they want. Makes me laugh when people post that on here.

leftyberefty · 23/03/2026 11:51

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 07:17

If you want to eat out get a job. There are millions of people working who cannot afford to eat out. Why should their taxes go towards the social life of someone not working? Benefits need to be seen as a temporary hardship, not a lifestyle.

Disability is neither a lifestyle choice nor sadly a "temporary hardship" in most cases and many disabled people do not receive anywhere near minimum wage in benefits despite often having contributed to the system for many decades in earlier life. They should be able to spend the small amount they receive however they want and according to their own needs, just like people whose income comes from work or other sources. It would be a sad indictment of the UK if disabled people had to retreat from life completely because they'd become unable to work and disability benefits were in fact designed to prevent this from happening, even if these days they don't always do so.

That said, I know plenty of people in minimum wage jobs who manage to eat out occasionally just fine (they aren't paying anyone's benefits incidentally, they themselves are also subsidised by higher earners). Those who can't, have usually made lifestyle choices that prevent this - choices like having children, which are also usually subsidised by higher earners and that aren't open to many disabled by poor health - another reason why we should have the means to maintain other relationships in our lives.

myglowupera · 23/03/2026 11:53

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 10:29

Second actually. I earn enough and don’t need to claim. People currently see it as a means to get cash to cover general living expenses and that’s not what it’s meant for. It’s meant to be for paying for extras that are incurred due to disability. There was a panorama recently where someone with ‘adhd too bad to work’ was signed off on permanent disability benefit. She seemed fine. Was renouned for her insta videos apparently. But yes totally incapable for working forever. These people need a kick up the backside as we as a nation simply cannot afford to fund them. Why more truly disabled people aren’t enraged by these people I don’t know!

You earn enough so don’t need to claim. So you’re an I’m alright Jack then. I get it now.

youalright · 23/03/2026 12:08

The media are ridiculous 99.9 % of people on benefits get no where near 30k a year but let's focus on the 0.1% to piss everyone off

leftyberefty · 23/03/2026 12:25

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 10:29

Second actually. I earn enough and don’t need to claim. People currently see it as a means to get cash to cover general living expenses and that’s not what it’s meant for. It’s meant to be for paying for extras that are incurred due to disability. There was a panorama recently where someone with ‘adhd too bad to work’ was signed off on permanent disability benefit. She seemed fine. Was renouned for her insta videos apparently. But yes totally incapable for working forever. These people need a kick up the backside as we as a nation simply cannot afford to fund them. Why more truly disabled people aren’t enraged by these people I don’t know!

PIP is meant for extras due to disability but benefits like ESA are supposed to be an income for general living expenses. If you can earn enough to cover your costs you are not living with the same level of disability that most people who get these benefits are living with, as determined by what you are and aren't actually able to do.

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 12:30

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 10:29

Second actually. I earn enough and don’t need to claim. People currently see it as a means to get cash to cover general living expenses and that’s not what it’s meant for. It’s meant to be for paying for extras that are incurred due to disability. There was a panorama recently where someone with ‘adhd too bad to work’ was signed off on permanent disability benefit. She seemed fine. Was renouned for her insta videos apparently. But yes totally incapable for working forever. These people need a kick up the backside as we as a nation simply cannot afford to fund them. Why more truly disabled people aren’t enraged by these people I don’t know!

Why pit disabled people against each other?
The lady on Panorama... you got a tiny snapshot. She will have had to provide evidence and have assessments to get the benefits she does.
There are comments on here about how if someone can go to the pub or meet a friend for coffee, that they are claiming benefits fraudulently. Disabled people have to read and put up with shit all the time.
Why encourage it more?

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 23/03/2026 12:38

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 12:30

Why pit disabled people against each other?
The lady on Panorama... you got a tiny snapshot. She will have had to provide evidence and have assessments to get the benefits she does.
There are comments on here about how if someone can go to the pub or meet a friend for coffee, that they are claiming benefits fraudulently. Disabled people have to read and put up with shit all the time.
Why encourage it more?

I know a couple of people on PIP for ADHD who use their PIP to fund their ADHD medications as the NHS won’t.

No PIP - no ADHD medication - person unable to work and pay taxes, therefore costing the taxpayer more.

No doubt the poster who was against people with ADHD getting PIP will have some reason why they should just get on with it…

Lougle · 23/03/2026 13:33

Pickledonion1999 · 21/03/2026 21:14

How will they have less money? If the young person is disabled and unable to work they will get UC + LCWRA ( although LCWRA for new claimants is reducing from April ) + PIP themselves which will likely work out to way more than the parent got for them on UC. It's just a matter of working out what that young person pays their parents towards their keep and care. As a household they are not going to be worse off. The parents would only be significantly worse off if the young person moved into residential care for example.

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For DD1 we lost £26 for the difference between her child element and her single person element, £72.60 for the difference between LCWRA and the severely disabled child element, and £113 per month child benefit. So £220 per month. That's before you take into account the fact that the money she does get is in her name, so I have to justify using some of it for household expenses. It's also before the fact that she has to contribute £88 per week to her social care.

JessieLongleg · 23/03/2026 14:32

AnnaQuayRules · 23/03/2026 10:08

@JessieLongleg I think there's a huge difference between supporting people who are disabled, and handing out pots of money to people who have chosen to have six children despite both parents being unable to work.

I here you, benefits is not enough to support 6 kids in adulthood. It doesn't matter how many kids you have after they are 3 get a job.

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 15:22

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 12:30

Why pit disabled people against each other?
The lady on Panorama... you got a tiny snapshot. She will have had to provide evidence and have assessments to get the benefits she does.
There are comments on here about how if someone can go to the pub or meet a friend for coffee, that they are claiming benefits fraudulently. Disabled people have to read and put up with shit all the time.
Why encourage it more?

She has far more energy than I have and I work full time. The level of entitlement is shocking. It’s going to end soon though because it’s totally unaffordable. If I was her I’d be dusting down my cv.

Lougle · 23/03/2026 15:26

Livelovebehappy · 21/03/2026 21:20

Whatever happened, my suggestion of getting a job (now) would stand. Whether a stay at home mum or benefit claimant, if benefits were stopped, then clearly she can no longer afford not to work. There’s many posting on here stating ‘amongst all my friends and family claiming benefits’. Why is it so common for so many people to know lots of people claiming benefits?

If I get a job, my adult daughter who needs care at all times will need to go into care, costing thousands per week. Be careful what you wish for.

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 15:30

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 15:22

She has far more energy than I have and I work full time. The level of entitlement is shocking. It’s going to end soon though because it’s totally unaffordable. If I was her I’d be dusting down my cv.

She would still be on PIP if she worked. It is not an out of work benefit.

You can't really derive anything useful about her capabilities from a few minutes of her being in a TV program.
The DWP will have far more information than you, and they have assessed her as eligible for PIP, and also not fit to work.

Avantiagain · 23/03/2026 15:34

"If I get a job, my adult daughter who needs care at all times will need to go into care, costing thousands per week. Be careful what you wish for."

Yes it's not unusual for severely disabled adults to have care packages of several hundred thousand or more a year. And that is just the care and doesn't include things like housing benefit etc.

leftyberefty · 23/03/2026 16:15

Lordofthebantams · 23/03/2026 08:08

You aren't being denied it though. There is so much learned helplessness.

There could be some actual cash built into a voucher system. I don't care how much it would cost to administer it would be worth every penny if it meant that children of parents on benefits got fed proper nutritious foods, clothed in a proper school uniform and good quality coat.

No Xboxs, chocolate cereal, cans of pop, vapes or Netflix. But loads of fruit and veg, the right items for school

Also I'm sorry to say it, if it was less comfortable then fewer people would see it as a lifestyle choice.

I'm disabled by a dozen physical and neurological conditions. I do not suffer from "learned helplessness" and neither do any of my friends who have been disabled by strokes, cancer, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and half a dozen or so other co-occurring conditions that I know about (there are likely more that I don't). I am very glad that we are not currently denied autonomy over our own choices. The fact that you'd be happy to lumber tax payers with higher costs just to run a system that provided worse outcomes for disabled people in order to punish them for being disabled says a lot about you!

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 16:29

JessieLongleg · 23/03/2026 14:32

I here you, benefits is not enough to support 6 kids in adulthood. It doesn't matter how many kids you have after they are 3 get a job.

I know a lady who has a little boy with SEN. She can only work a part time in her very flexible WFH job as she has to be available to pick him up from school at a moments notice. She is battling to get him an ECHP. In the meantime, he is struggling at school, having meltdowns, vomiting from anxiety.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 23/03/2026 17:27

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 16:29

I know a lady who has a little boy with SEN. She can only work a part time in her very flexible WFH job as she has to be available to pick him up from school at a moments notice. She is battling to get him an ECHP. In the meantime, he is struggling at school, having meltdowns, vomiting from anxiety.

Fully expecting some of this in September. There is no way I could work full time if I might be called to pick my child up.

Plumblossomsbloom · 23/03/2026 17:37

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 08:12

Reducing benefits so people have to get a job instead. If you’re affording takeaways on benefits then they’re clearly too high.

Or you haven't got a kitchen because you've been living for years in temporary accommodation. Or you are ill long term and don't have the energy to cook. So prioritising takeaways over other things you could be spending the money on is making the best of a bad situation.

You're so very judgemental and lacking in understanding of how some people's lives can be so very different to yours.

Needaglowup · 23/03/2026 17:40

With a disabled husband and 6 children with SN their on a LOT more then 30k… I had a family like this when I worked in SS disabilities children’s team ( the mum had a learning disability herself , ) they had so many services going in their were even a placement for student nurses) .. The councils use to take in in turns to take responsibility for them as it cost so much money.

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 17:48

Plumblossomsbloom · 23/03/2026 17:37

Or you haven't got a kitchen because you've been living for years in temporary accommodation. Or you are ill long term and don't have the energy to cook. So prioritising takeaways over other things you could be spending the money on is making the best of a bad situation.

You're so very judgemental and lacking in understanding of how some people's lives can be so very different to yours.

Yep, or it is not safe for them to be handling knives and having the hob on. So many reasons why someone might live off takeaways.

Someone commented on here that if you can afford a steak, then your benefits are too high (it led to one MNetter creating a new name as "GovermentFundedSteak", as the thread got really silly). I mean, they are less than £4 in Home Bargains (and they are pretty good too but my palate is not fussy). If someone on benefits is not allowed to "splash out" £3.something on food, then are they not allowed to spend more than that... on anything? 🤔
Some people have seriously suggested that there should be a way to return unspent benefits if you have any left after all the essentials are sorted.

Plumblossomsbloom · 23/03/2026 17:49

Deskdog · 23/03/2026 15:22

She has far more energy than I have and I work full time. The level of entitlement is shocking. It’s going to end soon though because it’s totally unaffordable. If I was her I’d be dusting down my cv.

You have no idea how much energy a person has when all you see of them is a snippet of their life. Many can appear "normal" for a limited amount of time when it's realistically unavoidable and be totally wiped out and unable to function at a basic level the rest of the day. Meaning they can't put on "the normalcy act" every day, because their health, homes and lives would swiftly go downhill.

When it comes to people providing care for others, they'll often be doing it whilst utterly exhausted. Yet because they are doing it, to the likes of you they'll look "fine", when in reality they're just putting themselves last and someone else's needs first because they have to.

Plumblossomsbloom · 23/03/2026 17:56

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 17:48

Yep, or it is not safe for them to be handling knives and having the hob on. So many reasons why someone might live off takeaways.

Someone commented on here that if you can afford a steak, then your benefits are too high (it led to one MNetter creating a new name as "GovermentFundedSteak", as the thread got really silly). I mean, they are less than £4 in Home Bargains (and they are pretty good too but my palate is not fussy). If someone on benefits is not allowed to "splash out" £3.something on food, then are they not allowed to spend more than that... on anything? 🤔
Some people have seriously suggested that there should be a way to return unspent benefits if you have any left after all the essentials are sorted.

I'm sure they'd be happy for just a little extra to be spent... on a bit of rope, so the people with no real lives, no autonomy under their proposed measures and no pleasure at all can effectively top themselves.

XenoBitch · 23/03/2026 17:58

Plumblossomsbloom · 23/03/2026 17:56

I'm sure they'd be happy for just a little extra to be spent... on a bit of rope, so the people with no real lives, no autonomy under their proposed measures and no pleasure at all can effectively top themselves.

Well, only if it is in the form of a voucher. For B&Q perhaps.

Allergictoironing · 23/03/2026 18:47

Plumblossomsbloom · 23/03/2026 17:49

You have no idea how much energy a person has when all you see of them is a snippet of their life. Many can appear "normal" for a limited amount of time when it's realistically unavoidable and be totally wiped out and unable to function at a basic level the rest of the day. Meaning they can't put on "the normalcy act" every day, because their health, homes and lives would swiftly go downhill.

When it comes to people providing care for others, they'll often be doing it whilst utterly exhausted. Yet because they are doing it, to the likes of you they'll look "fine", when in reality they're just putting themselves last and someone else's needs first because they have to.

This.

It's called "masking", many people with ADHD do it because if they don't then they end up losing their job. And the energy it takes to mask can make someone exhausted the rest of the time. Much more common in women than in men by the way.

I can just see some of the ADHD "sceptics" sacking someone because their behaviours at work don't fit in with the "norm" - things like a lack of filter, not realising if they are talking too much, interrupting people, finding it hard to concentrate with their minds bouncing around all over the place, risk taking.

All these behaviours, which can be standard for people with ADHD, means they can't hold down a job, which makes them unemployable. Yes they may look fine for periods of time but the sheer effort to show that "normal" front is immense.

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