My nearly 4 year old doesn’t want to do nursery activities like dancing

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they had a Christmas play and he just stood there, picking his nose and putting his hands down his trousers at the back.

we had a Mother’s Day thing and he just sat there, refusing to sing or participate.

I have now been sent a video of them doing head, shoulders knees and toes and he’s just sitting there - then lies down at some point.

Is this normal ??

he’s bright and chatty and seems to have friends etc. nursery don’t have major concerns about him really, but I just think it’s a bit sad or are some kids just like this ?

Totally agree. We had a Mother's day performance once when a little boy sat at the front with his hands down his trousers playing with himself. All the Mums were tittering, he was just not interested at that time. In the Nativity play some children wanted to be at the front in an Angel costume some wanted to be at the back hidden by an animal mask. It takes all sorts.

As long as he takes part in normal school activities why does it bother you? As a teacher I would never try to make a child do something they were uncomfortable with in a performance.

I think it is totally normal at any age under 6. My youngest sang his heart out in nursery but every R/Y1 performance he stood there with a grumpy face. Was joining in again by Y2 but didn’t love it.