Paying to find young person a first job

[mothersdaywoe]

Has anyone tried this, its not expensive £500 for coaching, CV analysis, career advice BUT no guarantee of employment at the end.
Its been a year now, DC is depressed and failing further and further behind

Kindly op, if she’s not able to brush her teeth ( for which I have great sympathy) the best coach in the world maybe could get her into an interview… but she is unlikely to perform in a way that closes the deal- or is able to handle the job. Developing resilience is key.

So she gets a job whilst looking for a way to break in to her career.

I feel a lot of sympathy for the OP. It's tough when your DD is suffering.

It sounds like DD has always been a top student. Is this her first setback? If so, I can see it would hit her hard, particularly if she is a perfectionist. It is such a tough time getting work at the moment, and your DD is not alone - no consolation I know.

My feeling is that I would go with the coach, but not put too much emphasis on getting a job, more on helping her to get a job. Keep expectations low. If she uses the coach, then doesn't get a job, she could feel much worse. Maybe the aim could be to eg go back to Tesco. Then she could achieve that easier target, on the way to her career job.

Wasting of time and wasting of money. My husband used to work with employments, interviews, etc. And 99% he could tell that person didn't even prepare CV by themselves.
Lower your expectations, pick up "basic" jobs.

I would pay for good quality career coaching for my child.

I can’t speak to the fast stream but I’m currently on the TSP and it is not for the faint hearted.

Attrition rate is very high and pace is pretty brutal at times. I’m not sure I’d recommend it for someone with precarious mental health.

That said, the application process, while highly competitive, is for some people less confronting than a traditional route as the first few rounds are online tests for which she could practice and then you can take them from home.

I hear you OP but many, many careers start off with a casual job, literally any job. This way, she's out and about in the world, networking, making contacts, hearing about opportunities via co-workers whatever. It's massively character-building, and will make her stand out in the future as a real can-do type of person.

This might not be for your daughter but when mine had literally a similar issue 5 years ago she went into nursing, back to uni for 3 years and has really found her feet.

Me 😁 Obnoxious doesn’t cover it.

I didn't understand if you DD already has a job or not, but I would say she needs some kind of employment. Good for her MH and good for a distraction until she finds a route into her choosen career. It's not easy but she is one of thousands of young people who are struggling right now with recruitment.

If she doesn't feel ready to go back to Tesco, I highly echo voluntary work of some kind. It is plentiful and fills in the gaps on the C.V. I have recently started volunteering for a local animal charity and bloody love it.

If she isn't already, she needs to be actively plugging away everyday finding work in her chosen career- networking events, LinkedIn, graduate schemes etc. Chatgpt is a great tool too. Don't dismiss it - it is highly effective when using the right prompts.

Lastly, does she go to the gym? I would highly recommend it for helping with one's MH.

Absolutely not, she would’ve done medicine if she wanted to go down that route she got an offer

Yeah she is a real gym bunny but again that comes with its own problems because it means that if a day is missed that leads to a meltdown.
There’s a lot going on at the moment

OP you can’t possibly believe anyone offers genuine contacts to secure a graduate job for £500?!

Do you have anyone in your family or circle of friends who runs a company and would be prepared to give her say a weeks work experience? Or just to write her a reference to say that they have? Ive done this for two younger members of my family. I said they did fulfillment/packing/back office work. Since I live in a different city and have several web stores no one is going to know I am a relative. You just have to use what means that are available to you. Many people use family contacts.

Has she got a diagnosis Op?
Sector I work in is guaranteed interviews if you meet essential criteria and have a disability.
Apologies if not just a few of your comments made me wonder if she is ND.

I know this post is all about your DD, but it sounds like you have a lot of stress at the moment. It's tough being the mother in these circumstances. It's not always possible to solve our DC's problems, however much we try. That doesn't mean we stop trying, but it always makes me feel better!

I think she may benefit from some talking therapy if she is having meltdowns if missing gym etc.

If the coaching will help her confidence then it may be worth it.
But any job is worth it, and it's easier to get a job when have a job, employers like some work experience even if not in the chosen field yet. Any job too has the ability to lift someone, routine, meeting new people, learning new skills and building confidence and she will have money in her pocket. She needs to be flexible and realistic. Not everyone drops into a dream job straight away, never have done even in my day.

And I volunteer at a community centre, they are always on the look out for volunteers to help run the place. There will be volunteer work around if again, not too fussy and it's great for the CV.

There are thousands of young people with your daughters grades and intellect, who can get up and brush their teeth, and who don’t have their mummies doing all the work for them to find a job. That’s who she is competing with. You are concentrating on the wrong thing in my opinion, you need to get her to a healthier place mentally to compete.

That’s my professional opinion for free- may I suggest you instead spend the £500 on charm school (for yourself)

If she's lacking in confidence and motivation right now (which is entirely understandable, life is hard for young adults starting out) then I think this can only be a good thing.

Someone listening to you, giving you attention, boosting your confidence a bit, is bound to help. Even if it's not industry-specific. It's another thing to add to a CV, the fact that you've been proactive in doing this.

If you can spare the cash then I'd do it. Don't think too deeply about it. Anything that moves her even a tiny bit forward is a good thing.

Good luck to her.

Don't try to do too many things at once. Sort her mental health out first.

Isn’t much of this available at the local job centre and via a university careers centre if relevant as I believe they are obliged to support graduates after they have left?

Universities aren’t obliged to but many do.

Would it be useful to further her science education into a field that works with people? A career in the NHS for example? She's obviously very smart.

@Tonissister i think mother and daughter want to say ‘here’s my results, you can give me a job’ without actually having the relevant experience and /or skills to show they are the person for that job
you gotta do the hard stuff to get the good stuff