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Paying to find young person a first job

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mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 08:49

Has anyone tried this, its not expensive £500 for coaching, CV analysis, career advice BUT no guarantee of employment at the end.
Its been a year now, DC is depressed and failing further and further behind

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TeenToTwenties · 18/03/2026 08:51

Sorry not tried that.

Has she tried doing voluntary work experience in parallel?
It would build a CV and be good for her MH?

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 08:52

Even finding the voluntary work is problematic, they wont take just anyone, minimum commitment etc

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RoseField1 · 18/03/2026 08:52

Pointless. She could get all the same stuff on ChatGPT for free.

OriginalSkang · 18/03/2026 08:54

That sounds like daylight robbery

Did they go to university?

What kind of work are they looking for?

redskyAtNigh · 18/03/2026 08:57

RoseField1 · 18/03/2026 08:52

Pointless. She could get all the same stuff on ChatGPT for free.

She could also get a lot of bad advice on ChatGPT (CV analysis advice is suspect, for example).

I assume you mean that there is already a huge amount of information publicly available, but I assume she's already tapped into that. What would be useful is personal, guided information. Particularly if relevant to her desired career.

OP - has your DD been to university? If so, has she made use of her uni careers service?

TheSecretAgent1 · 18/03/2026 08:58

No. Unfortunately the job market for young people is just trash, no amount of money spend on coaching will change that.

Createausername1970 · 18/03/2026 09:00

Not sure if there are underlying issues, but my DS found a job via a scheme to assist ND etc into the workplace. As long as he met with a coach once a week to do the things you mention in your OP, he didn't have to report to JobCentre or had any commitments to meet. It was free.

He got his job about 4 weeks later.

RoseField1 · 18/03/2026 09:12

redskyAtNigh · 18/03/2026 08:57

She could also get a lot of bad advice on ChatGPT (CV analysis advice is suspect, for example).

I assume you mean that there is already a huge amount of information publicly available, but I assume she's already tapped into that. What would be useful is personal, guided information. Particularly if relevant to her desired career.

OP - has your DD been to university? If so, has she made use of her uni careers service?

ChatGPT is more than equipped to help a teenager with job hunting. More so than a £600 coach.

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:16

RoseField1 · 18/03/2026 08:52

Pointless. She could get all the same stuff on ChatGPT for free.

She can’t get the contacts on ChatGPT, Or the confidence building.
Or the accountability it’s just frustrating because all of this stuff should be done by the university careers people or the job Centre but they seem overwhelmed

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KnickerlessParsons · 18/03/2026 09:18

What kind of job is she looking for, and where are you?
There's lots of call centre work round here, also care homes are always crying out for people.

Mcdhotchoc · 18/03/2026 09:20

If you can easily afford it, I would

blackcatlove · 18/03/2026 09:20

I’m confused by your volunteer comment about commitment….that’s exactly why it’s good to do, it shows she’s capable of committing to something, plus she’s not just sat on her arse twiddling thumbs.

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:22

blackcatlove · 18/03/2026 09:20

I’m confused by your volunteer comment about commitment….that’s exactly why it’s good to do, it shows she’s capable of committing to something, plus she’s not just sat on her arse twiddling thumbs.

She’s tried to volunteer in her sector but they have compliance issues but not only that they need to have time to spend with her and invest in her even to volunteer and their attitude so far has been the minute she gets a job. She’ll leave so therefore they’ve got no interest in training.
It feels as though all of the pathways that we followed in the 90s are just one obstacle in front of another

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ChillyB · 18/03/2026 09:23

What does she want to do and is suited to do?
Is there a way she could forge her own opportunities?
I work full time (compressed) but I also volunteer running a toddler group for example but I set it all up myself with a friend so it’s done on my terms.
There’s loads of guidance online about how to do this and you can apply to the council for funding grants (would need a non related co-signatory for bank account). My council also offered advice on this too.
The opportunity doesn’t have to be this exact example but it shows ability to plan, communicate, organise, manage finances, use of social media to advertise, safeguarding and health and safety skills and on and on.
All transferable skills that employers want as well as demonstrating reliability, commitment, problem solving etc etc

RudolphTheReindeer · 18/03/2026 09:23

Createausername1970 · 18/03/2026 09:00

Not sure if there are underlying issues, but my DS found a job via a scheme to assist ND etc into the workplace. As long as he met with a coach once a week to do the things you mention in your OP, he didn't have to report to JobCentre or had any commitments to meet. It was free.

He got his job about 4 weeks later.

Could you give me more information on this please?

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:23

KnickerlessParsons · 18/03/2026 09:18

What kind of job is she looking for, and where are you?
There's lots of call centre work round here, also care homes are always crying out for people.

This is why she’s so disheartened she gets turned down for call Centre work and crappy shitty cleaning jobs. There’ll be nothing left over soon mentally.
This is a child with nine a star GCSE3 A’s are A-level Russell Brick university, What most people would consider a proper degree narrowly missed a first.

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mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:25

ChillyB · 18/03/2026 09:23

What does she want to do and is suited to do?
Is there a way she could forge her own opportunities?
I work full time (compressed) but I also volunteer running a toddler group for example but I set it all up myself with a friend so it’s done on my terms.
There’s loads of guidance online about how to do this and you can apply to the council for funding grants (would need a non related co-signatory for bank account). My council also offered advice on this too.
The opportunity doesn’t have to be this exact example but it shows ability to plan, communicate, organise, manage finances, use of social media to advertise, safeguarding and health and safety skills and on and on.
All transferable skills that employers want as well as demonstrating reliability, commitment, problem solving etc etc

Do you have any links she could look at? I mean she’s no intention of setting up a toddler group. I couldn’t think of anything worse for her in terms of suitability but there might be something else.

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redskyAtNigh · 18/03/2026 09:27

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:23

This is why she’s so disheartened she gets turned down for call Centre work and crappy shitty cleaning jobs. There’ll be nothing left over soon mentally.
This is a child with nine a star GCSE3 A’s are A-level Russell Brick university, What most people would consider a proper degree narrowly missed a first.

Is she engaging with her university careers service? They can probably provide the functions that you are thinking of paying for.

What sector is she interested in? Is she on linkedin; is she involved with local networking/collaboration groups in her field of interest?

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:29

redskyAtNigh · 18/03/2026 09:27

Is she engaging with her university careers service? They can probably provide the functions that you are thinking of paying for.

What sector is she interested in? Is she on linkedin; is she involved with local networking/collaboration groups in her field of interest?

They quite simply can’t and that’s why I’m considering this option, Booked out for months in advance, they have drop in Services that she’ll sit down and wait for 3 to 4 hours to speak to somebody and then they simply run out of time
Called the job Centre was told unless she was eligible for universal credits. They had no interest in speaking to her and then they were just going to push her towards bar work which is just not helpful. I mean yes she can get a job. It’s not a problem getting a job.
She wants a career

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Tippexy · 18/03/2026 09:33

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:29

They quite simply can’t and that’s why I’m considering this option, Booked out for months in advance, they have drop in Services that she’ll sit down and wait for 3 to 4 hours to speak to somebody and then they simply run out of time
Called the job Centre was told unless she was eligible for universal credits. They had no interest in speaking to her and then they were just going to push her towards bar work which is just not helpful. I mean yes she can get a job. It’s not a problem getting a job.
She wants a career

Ah, there’s the issue.

In order to get a career, she first needs to get ‘a job.’

If she had done part time bar/shop work with part time volunteering work (what’s wrong with a minimum commitment if her days are empty?) for the past year then she’d have a strong set of transferable skills now along with proven experience.

She needs to find a job.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 18/03/2026 09:33

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:29

They quite simply can’t and that’s why I’m considering this option, Booked out for months in advance, they have drop in Services that she’ll sit down and wait for 3 to 4 hours to speak to somebody and then they simply run out of time
Called the job Centre was told unless she was eligible for universal credits. They had no interest in speaking to her and then they were just going to push her towards bar work which is just not helpful. I mean yes she can get a job. It’s not a problem getting a job.
She wants a career

Can't she at least just get any job first so that she has some experience under her belt? Most careers are built over time and not just handed to people on a plate? Maybe the problem is that her expectations are unrealistic?

thesandwich · 18/03/2026 09:36

What makes you believe this paid for service can get her contacts? Please tell her she is not” falling behind” . There is no one ladder to climb once you leave university. Most career paths are v wiggly. She is young.
i really recommend the book “ what color is your parachute” which sets out a process to identify and approach organisations you want to work for.
has she considered tutoring to earn some money and build her confidence?

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:37

Tippexy · 18/03/2026 09:33

Ah, there’s the issue.

In order to get a career, she first needs to get ‘a job.’

If she had done part time bar/shop work with part time volunteering work (what’s wrong with a minimum commitment if her days are empty?) for the past year then she’d have a strong set of transferable skills now along with proven experience.

She needs to find a job.

I disagree she’s worked at Tesco’s for six years. It’s not as though her CV doesn’t have demonstratable proof of her ability to perform a low level role.
With respect, I didn’t come here to discuss “jobs”

And again you will be surprised how little potential employers care about transferable skills. They’re not interested. They want a 21-year-old with 15 years experience at the moment

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mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 09:38

thesandwich · 18/03/2026 09:36

What makes you believe this paid for service can get her contacts? Please tell her she is not” falling behind” . There is no one ladder to climb once you leave university. Most career paths are v wiggly. She is young.
i really recommend the book “ what color is your parachute” which sets out a process to identify and approach organisations you want to work for.
has she considered tutoring to earn some money and build her confidence?

Have you read it recently? Very outdated.
but that is literally what the package is offering is access to contacts introductions so to speak
Obviously, they’ve still got to do the work to secure the interviews, etc

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FlavourtownBaby · 18/03/2026 09:38

mothersdaywoe · 18/03/2026 08:52

Even finding the voluntary work is problematic, they wont take just anyone, minimum commitment etc

I find this difficult to believe. I was out of work last year and started volunteering. The volunteers range from university students to pensioners and the minimum commitment is one three-hour shift per month. I’m now back in full-time work and still manage to volunteer once a month so surely the minimum commitments can’t be that onerous.