Partner keeps going on and on about Middle East conflict

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Every morning and evening, he phones me to go on and on about the Iran conflict.

Petrol will triple in price
there won’t be any food
it will be like Covid but worse

I’m so sick of hearing about it. There’s nothing we can do and I would prefer to focus on my autistic kids who need my support. I have quite fragile mental health too.

its like he’s obsessed with it.
Anyone else with partner / family this way?

Oh God. Have you told him directly you've made your point. I hear you're worried, but I don't want to hear any more about it.

Yeah TG for small mercies.

Oh yes. I’ve told him.

Honestly I understand

I am terrified too but in an appropriate way, which is not terrorising those around me (I mean, its just me and autistic dd, but you know what I mean)

I had a step dad like that. It made us all anxious adults.

Yanbu - tell him that when he starts, he will be ignored. But also girl, it can't hurt to have some extra petrol and essential items in x

When he starts end the call.

'Yes, it's looking grim. Now, tell me some good news from your day.'
rinse and repeat ...
If he can't switch gears. Say, 'Sorry, I can't talk about that now.'

I can understand his obsession - it's certainly on my mind - but I also understand that you have more present tense fish to fry.

I can’t see it affecting food at all

Honestly, he is like this about all these things that happen. During Covid he spent the first weeks so paranoid that his hands bled from hand gel. Then suddenly he decided Covid didn’t exist.

I would stop taking these stupid calls.

He is an anxious person.
The current situation is shite, there is plenty to be anxiois about.
Inttoduce him to mumsnet and he can chat all about it with other anxious sttangers. Hopefully it will make him feel better, to get it out of his system without bothering you.

Drama king

Really? If there's a fuel shortage how do ypu think your food is going to get to the supermarket, on a donkey's back?
Every single thing is interconnected.

Well I can kind of see why he's worried. I got home from work and made DH turn off the fire whilst shouting "didn't he know there's an energy crisis." But if he's getting on your nerves just agree with him and then change the subject.

I think he's right to anticipate serious problems, but constantly going on at you about them doesn't help. He might stop if you assure him that you agree with his analysis of the situation, but being reminded of it all the time is too stressful.

Well all food requires transportation, even if it's just from local farms, to wholesale, and then retail, and since transportation is dependent upon fuel, and oil prices are already rocketing...

Did you think the same when Russia invaded Ukraine?

He sounds like a fucking nightmare, dump him. If this is something he's done with other situations, he's clearly not going to get a grip. Save your own sanity.

If it’s something he’s obsessing over and won’t talk about anything else and you don’t want to talk about it, it’s time to rethink your compatability!

OP does not want to talk about the war or the effects on us!
She wants advice on how to escape from it!
(There are plenty of threads with people talking about it and the wider effects)

OP is just putting her children to bed.

Sounds as though he might be suffering from OCD/intrusive thoughts. Not easy for either of you to deal with.

20% - 30% of global traded fertilizer comes from the Arabian Gulf. More like 40% of some nitrogen based materials. Without that supply global agriculture is a bit stuffed.