Am I over sensitive

[Ceci693]

So I was away for 2 nights with boyfriend of about 6 months. I paid for hotel as it was his birthday and it was my present. The first night was good - we stayed up til about 11 with drinks . The 2nd night I had planned to go for dinner and had booked somewhere but he didn’t seem keen on my choice and we headed back to the room around 5 and had some snacks and drinks we had with us. We chatted for a while and then he fell asleep around 7.15 . He slept until his alarm went off at 6am the next morning. I was disappointed . I didn’t disturb him as I knew he had a hard week and was tired/. But I did feel lonely and it felt like a bit of a waste of an evening together. We live 3.5 hours apart so meet once or twice a month. I had a bath and did my nails and talked to my daughter and watched a movie. I couldn’t sleep and finally slept around 4am. At 6 when his alarm went off he wanted sex and to wake up for the day - we were heading home but didn’t have to check out til 12. I managed to snooze for a while until he called me a “lazy woman” which really upset me. So I got up and dressed and tried to act normal but got away as soon as I could as I didn’t want him to see me upset. I didnt say anything as that was his birthday and I didn’t want an argument but I was really upset. It just stung. I’m home now and thinking about things and wondering am I being over sensitive. I told him later I was disappointed about him sleeping so long but he just said he had a hard week and tiredness took over. What do you think: am I just being over sensitive or old you be upset: I feel really hurt tho I can’t exactly say why. I feel I was sensitive to him being tired but he was very insensitive to me wanting me to get up and out early . Maybe we just have totally different body clocks

Nope, he’s a dickhead who called you lazy because you didn’t want to fuck him at 6am.

I can’t beleive some of these answers blaming the op. Would I fuck be ok with faking my husband away for the night and him going to sleep at 7;15 and refusing dinner and having a snack and a drink in the room then waking up, demanding sex and calling me lazy

and some posters are saying neither is more right than the other. Seriously. Raise your bar ladies.

op, he could have suggested somewhere else for dinner, did he think he may have to pay? Over all I’d bin him off, I’d not want to see him again, what a shit way to behave.

Yeah so he didn’t want to pay for dinner, couldn’t afford it so ruined the night, bin him off,

So what on earth is it that is in it for you, a long-distance rel where you rarely see one another and you can’t talk frankly to him when you do?

Hum! Sounds like damage limitation to me. He realised he behaved like a total arse and is trying to save his face/retrieve the situation. Also: you think he was short of cash to pay for dinner? He's a real Prince Charming, isn't he? So, he was expecting you to foot it for the whole weekend, was he?

He's a bin-job, in my view. You deserve better.

I think it’s outrageous, ungrateful behaviour and I’d be giving him his marching orders. He sounds like a petulant child who wasn’t getting his own way, and made sure to spoil it for everyone. Run for the hills; this will be one of many versions of the same story.

If you're not great at explaining yourself in a face to face conversation, put it in a text. I find this explains everything clearly and he can read it and accept how you felt or try to diminish your feelings - if he does that, he clearly does not respect you.

People can’t help if they’ve had a hard week or are just plain tired.

Im guilty of having early nights when on holiday or away at a hotel.

You already had one late night out celebrating so spending the other having a quieter one seems perfectly reasonable.

With regards to the lazy woman comment, was it a cheeky “Get up you lazy woman.” In a loving jokey manner or actually serious?

It sounds like you’re being overly sensitive.

Dump the bastard.
He is not the man for you.

As Alice DJ used to sing, 'you are better off alone'.
Xx

He called you lazy because he couldn't put his cock inside you? And you really need advice?
Wobble that head, put some trainers on and run for the hills

You've read it a few dozen times but I will add my words to the mix.

You deserve better. If youare nervous to talk to him because he gets defensive it will only get worse, not better.

You deserve better. You deserve to go away for a weekend with a new boyfriend and come home with butterflies in your stomach and excitement to see him again and he should feel the same. You do not have that. At all.

You deserve better, you really, truly do.

P.S. I am also an insomniac. It's really hell at times but DH and I work around it and the word "lazy" has never left his lips, even after 48 years.

You deserve better. Please repeat that to yourself until you believe it fully and completely.