To not understand why people go on about the impact of Covid lockdown on children

[PrunellaModularis]

It comes up all the time on MN and I don't get it.

They had several months off school, couldn"t see their friends or grandparents or do clubs. Then lockdown ended, back to school, friends, grandparents and clubs.

How come people say "because Covid" to explain young people's behaviour.

Disclaimer: I'm not talking abouy kids in abusive families.

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Why did you let a 3 year old get unsettled by lockdown?

Because parents aren't robots.

You’re being deliberately obtuse.

You don't have to do anything wrong for a 3 year old to be unsettled by lockdown. Being only able to interact with the people you lived with, not allowed to sit in benches, shutting playgrounds and removing equipment, no play groups, no nursery replaced with masks, one way systems and 2m rules with announcements in shops on a loop about it all. It was completely unnatural and a lot of it made no difference at all. I think you need to work on your empathy @PrunellaModularis .

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My dc's school was shut between end March 2020 to the summer holidays. Then they went back in August. They had to eat lunch outside, there were no clubs or extra curriculars. Classroom windows were frequently open even in winter for air circulation. At this point track and trace was in force so at random times they had enforced absence from school. Socialising was only in small groups- remember the rule of 6 in place? Then school shut again Jan to April 2021. When they went back, still no extra curriculars or socialising. It took a long time for school clubs to reopen or for school events (such as music nights, plays, ceilidhs) to begin again. It's not hard to see why education disruption has had a lasting impact.

Don’t you think the change in their routine I.e. suddenly stopping nursery, not seeing friends and family and seeing people and seeing people wearing mass would not unsettle them? How can you not understand that?

You got to be really fuckin thick to not understand this!

Are you, are you thick @PrunellaModularis

No she isn't.
I was just coming on to say the same thing.

A 3 year old confused by covid.

Because you as a parent allowed it.

A three year old has no concept of world affairs.

No concept of friends or play dates

This is exactly what I am on about people using covid as an excuse for bloody everything

Please tell me how exactly your three year old struggled with not seeing anyone??

What lasting behaviour or issues do the have

I didn’t have a 3 year old in lockdown so I’m not sure why you’re asking me that

Apologies

I'm on my phone and i mis read

You aren't the parent but my point still stands re whatva 3 year old is aware of etc

Because you know you're talking rubbish

Are you blaming behavioural issue on covid?

But to answer your question, a 3 year old would have been unsettled in lockdown for the reasons I’ve already said in the post you have quoted.

not necessarily covid, a 3 year old didn’t need to understand all of that

Absolute bullshit. A 3 yo definitely has a concept of routine , friends, relatives, bonds, love and relationships. It’s even part of their developmental assessment/the curriculum. You either have no kids, had them a really long time ago , are a neglectful parent OR you’re just being as deliberately obtuse as OP. Take your pick.

It really doesn’t sound like she is, where did you get behavioural issues from?

No the OP hasn't said that.

I'm genuinely curious as to what impact something that happened 6 years ago had on a now 9 year old?

She didn’t mention anything about how it is affecting her child now, just that they were massively (understandably) unsettled at the time.

I had a 3 year old in covid. He has not been affected. We stopped nursery, but still went on walks to the park. Needed to settle him back into nursery after they opened again which took a couple of weeks, but I would say it had no impact on him. I can't understand how a 3 yo is that affected at this stage 5 years later

But the post is not about being affected then. It is about the effects of covid still being felt now

No, my child is very well behaved. However the first 5 years of a child's brain development are the most important and to go through a lockdown at 3 is a big deal. I wish people wouldn't dismiss it as covid wasn't actually dangerous for children at all (generally speaking) and I feel they had to sacrifice normal developmental years to protect older people, to dismiss that is ungrateful.

It might be that my child had a bit of a personality change or a bit of development delay during that time, it doesn't mean he's badly behaved but it still could have affected who he is as a person. Everyone is a mix of nature, nurture and enviromental factors.

Those children which Saint Boris threw under the bus are the adults of the future. “It wasn’t that long” was a quarter of a five-year-old’s life.

Lockdowns caused children lasting harm. This is a hill I will die on, while the governments (plural) try to pretend lockdown never happened.

I was having a conversation regarding how the poster was being critical that her 3 yo was unsettled.

Threads sometimes evolve.

So you're really saying your child might have had a personality change? Or a development delay? Because of what happened when they were 3, when they stopped going to nursery?

I am sorry, any changes in their personality or delays in development would have happened anyway. And not as a result of covid.

it still could have affected who he is as a person.

So has it affected him or not??

Or are you just using covid as an excuse for any delays?

Not all 3 yos are the same. Some had different circumstances . Grief in the family, can massively affect the parents’ ability to cope. Some parents lost their income/homes. Some parents struggled with their MH due to covid themselves. Some children had SENDs that didn’t become apparent due to lack of socialisation, and when they were , there were incredibly long waiting lists and backlogs. Some were stuck in tiny, hot flats, with onewalk a day .Some simply struggled due to the massive changes to their routine and their “normal”. Some were in abusive/toxic, chaotic environments with no escape. Some were left on devices for way too long because the parents had to work. Some didn’t see their parent for months because (rightly or wrongly) it was felt it was not safe. Some simply missed out on appropriate developmental stages and never quite fully caught up or took longer to catch up. It’s not exactly rocket science.