To interfere with the floral flow?

[WombAndBiled]

Would I be a ungracious wretch if I politely requested no more flowers?

I've currently got 17 bouquets at home, was my birthday last Sunday and I was thoroughly cherished and indulged.

Today 2 more deliveries have arrived, from a couple of Dc's friends.

I'm seeing my 4 DC plus they're partners tomorrow for a big family lunch and I would imagine they'll all turn up with more.

I absolutely cannot give them all the enjoyment they deserve wth them all in bulk than if they'd arrived separately.

I'm fully aware how blessed I am and would be worried about coming across ungrateful if I messaged (my DC only; not other folk who have traditionally treated me to flowers in Mother's Day) of I messaged to ask not to bring flowers if they hadn't already organised them.

Your presence is more appreciated than your floral presents sort of malarkey?

So I guess my AIBU is

YANBU - ask them gently to pause the petals?

YABU - stop being a flipping miserable wretch, enjoy the abundance.

💐

Floral Flow??

Wtf, why are so many people sending you flowers? Why are your DC's friends sending you flowers? Who other than your DC traditionally sends you flowers for Mother's Day?

I see, just sounded like you made up a new phrase 😀

It’s a bit too late notice for tomorrow, I’d think. Not many people will be risking buying one on the morning of Mother’s Day!

Can you regift some? Neighbours might be able to appreciate them?

Be gentle, my first year without my own mom.

You’ve left it to late to mention flowers, they may of already bought you some to bring tomorrow

Can you regift them to local nursing homes, hospitals (if allowed) ect....probably a bit late and awkward to say no more.

Sorry for your loss x

Yes yes that's why I said in the OP I'd ask them not to get some if they hadn't already organised.

My dad and my aunt generally buy me some.

And there's normally four or five of the DC's friends who treat me to some one my birthday and Mother's Day.

Thank you.

She was quite unwell for a while and I've made my peace with her passing.

But it's definitely one of those hard hard moments.

Personally I would not do this. If they want to give flowers fine, and if there are to many how about taking some small bunches to the local churchyard and laying in graves of women (ok no idea if they were mothers) or perhaps your own mothers grave if she has one?

That sounds like a lot and by now they may look better in smaller jars or pots? Can you take them out of their original wrappings, throw away any that are already over, and cut about 4cm or more of the bottom of each stalk. Put clean water in lots of vases, mugs, flower pots …. Whatever you have handy. They can be cut as short as necessary - just mix up the flowers with a piece of greenery in each one if you can. Distribute them all over your house on window ledges, bathroom, porch etc. Keep on removing any that go past their best and change the water every few days. If you put some of them in jam jars or containers that are not too precious, you could give some away too. X

Of course it is, be gentle with yourself tomorrow. Try not to worry about the flowers, you sound like a very considerate person

They're all in vases, all still looking good, I change the water daily.

They're upstairs downstairs and in the lsdy's chamber, still got 8 on the kitchen prep table.

I'm very blessed and appreciative.

But if they had already organised some you may make them feel awkward

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. Could you bundle some of them up together and lay them at her grave?

Was the same for me at valentine's. Postman nearly had a hernia. I also resorted to putting some in my lady's chamber. It's not a recommended long term strategy for floral flow but needs must.

You have seventeen plus vases and a lady's chamber? Are you Lady Grantham?

Actually I'll have you know I am lady Grantham and so is my wife.

It's too late to say anything now, so you're going to have to go with the floral flow for the time being.

What a peculiar thread 🤔

You could donate some to local nursing/care homes for those without family.

Why do you think that?

That's quite a nice idea.

PPs have mentioned taking some to mom, but I took some flowers yesterday. And I'll go again with my DC tomorrow.