Ordering the same takeout each time

[Grumpynan]

We very rarely have a takeaway and when we do it’s normally Chinese or occasionally pizza. Adult DD is a vegetarian and I have ibs so restricted what I can eat. But even so, I think when treating ourselves to a takeout each person should be able to have what they want.

we ordered Chinese tonight as DD has reached a goal in her mental health targets and felt she needed it acknowledging just a low key thing.

So she instantly said she wanted her normal - chow mien no bean sprouts, stir fried vegetables no sauce egg fried rice and spring rolls. I add my chicken balls in sweet and sour sauce, and we’re both happy we share this and she always has some left over noodles for supper !

now here’s the problem DH says that’s boring we always get the same, tonight he got special fried rice house special curry and lamb with spring onions and ginger. Fine that’s what he wants I really don’t see the problem.

but then when we’re eating I suggest he has some chicken (I would never eat them all) and he has some spring rolls, fine there’s plenty we’re all still happy. But the he starts, I should try what he ordered, I being boring, I point out I can’t eat his rice that’s why we get the egg fried, I can’t eat pork or prawns both of which are in his curry and I can’t eat onions so the lambs out. Would I like his meal - yes, can I eat it no/

he went on and on saying a ltltle wouldn’t hurt, but trust me - it will. And anyway, we’re happy with what we have, it’s what we like.

am I being unreasonable saying that whereas it’s nice to share a takeout, ultimately each person has their own wants and it’s really not an issure.

honestly it’s the same with pizza, a large mixed vegetables no onion extra pineapple DD and I are happy, he always ridicules it as boring whilst he tucks unto his large mixed meat spicy whatever it is he has then complains all night with indigestion.

it takes the joy out of the treat.

DD and I have learned to just let him get on with it, and we enjoy ourselves, but sometimes like tonight, I could just poke the chop stick somewhere!

sorry rant over

and just to say the chicken balls covered in sauce were amazing tonight.

I assume a lot if not most people know what they like and regularly order the same thing. No food sharing in our house re with a take away. Order what you want.

The time for experimenting is an all-you-can-eat buffet or someone letting you try some of there's, I'm not risking spending money on stuff I might not love.

YANBU
We have our own choices due to my IBS and limited foods I can eat
I get pizza without sauce just dairy free cheese and mushrooms.
I used to love eating all differant foods but alas things change.

I would just factually call it out every time. 'You know I have IBS and can't eat that, why do you keep asking me?'

Are you eyeing up my bhunas?

I don't have any intolerances and order the exact same thing every time, he's being annoying and ignore him

Chicken Bhuna
Lamb Bhuna
Prawn Bhuna
Mushroom rice
Bag of chips
Keema Naan
& 9 Popadoms

Works for Smithy
order what you know and love!

Alright smithy 🤣

Slightly off topic, but I’ve never come across a Chinese that serves lamb

I order what I want and no I don’t share 🤣

She's got food intolerances which changes the whole dynamic.

With food intolerances comes a need for human tolerance so her DH needs to put a sock in it.

YANBU at all! I just don’t understand your DH. When we get takeaway, I order what I want & DH orders what he wants & that’s it! No judgement, no sharing. DH often orders the same thing from the Chinese as he’s not a massive fan & that’s absolutely fine. Lately, I’ve been having the same thing each time from the Indian ( duck curry) as it’s delicious & I prefer it to anything else. All seems quite odd & maybe a little controlling?

P.S Agreed it’s bloody expensive so you need to be happy!

He’s boorish. Is he like this all the time with everything? Is his view abc opinion the only correct one? Does he regularly try to make you abc your DD feel small?

@IHate
I might have thought that at one time, but then i had severe postviral digestive issues and pain that lasted a year in my 40s. Its horrid to be hungry and frightened of what eating a food might do to you..... I never dreamed i would😆"get" anything like that.

Now, i am a whole lot more understanding about"picky".

Tell him it's great he can eat what he wants and you hope he never has IBS or any issues which means even a small amount of something makes him feel sick as a dog but until he does he doesn't get to try and dictate what you should be trying.

I order the same thing each time so I know I’m going to enjoy it!

I'm set in my ways with takeaways and eating out (both daughters are the same) so tend to order the same thing each time. My Dad is the only person I know who would tease me or pass comment, whilst everyone else accepts it and won't judge me for it. I would rather eat what I know I like and am comfortable with than risk something I don't like or that won't agree with me.

I’d understand to a degree if he wasn’t ever given the opportunity to get what he would like but he obviously does and is just trying to force it on you as well? That’s very strange.

We’re a get a little bit of allsorts and divvy it up household and works fine for us with no complaints 🤷‍♀️

I thought it was mandatory to order the same food from a takeaway each time! 😂

I hate bitty meals with lots of tiny separate flavours - hate buffets and tapas. Always gives me indigestion to have a mix of cold/hot etc

I'm on a particular diet pre-gallbladder surgery, and I have to admit I'm really enjoying the complete lack of pain and indigestion as a side effect. He probably suffers on a low level every day without knowing it.

If its really upsetting you then have a word with him at a separate time. Especially if dd has mental health challenges. He probably thinks it's just banter/joking. If he knows you find it hurtful/ot takes the joy out of your takeaway then he's a dick and it is a bit of a red flag that he would knowingly piss on your chips....
Of course everyone should eat whatever they want and not eat whatever they don't want. That's pretty obvious. Personally, I normally have a favourite plus something new, and we try/share one another's. If I didn't want something my husband would never force it or be mean, it's a real non issue.

Does he not believe that you have IBS? What a numpty.

Keep on ordering the things you like, and ignore his nonsense.

Me too.
Worra palaver.

YANBU. Whilst I do think sharing a takeout is great if you have either pre agreed to do so or if the offer of trying a bit is made and accepted (or declined), I definitely think it's fine to say no thanks if it won't agree with you. It is a good way of trying different things but you should be obligated to order different from normal so DH can try more new things. I can't otherwise understand why he cares so much about your orders.