Class party for few discussed on class watsapp

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DC1 is in yr1. On the class watsapp group a mum is asking can thoose that got individual invites from 5 year old child in paper form please reply as she isn't sure the ones her child picked has received them.
Cue a lot of confusion and some replies.
Then mum comes on to say it is only for x, y, z etc. Please confirm food.
Am I the only sane person that thinks this should have been a private message, not for the class watsapp. Honestly I think its the height of crassness. Maybe just me.
Poor mums have messaged back thinking their child is invited and now appears they are not. Its awkward as hell.

Am I the only one who would much prefer this scenario to endless separate groups??

Tim is having a party, unfortunately can't invite all. He gave out invites at school but missing a few RSVPs. Parents of Topsy & Tiny please could you let me know if they can make it?

I just wouldn't respond if it wasn't about my child. There's nothing for me to be offended by surely?

It is poor form OP. Even if the mum needed to find out who the invited parents were, after this point she could have moved the conversations away from the group chat. In our class, the only thing you hear is "could xyz mum please message me" and you can guess it's for a party or playdate but there's no big carry on. Wonder what this mum thought would happen sending a 5yr old into class to hand out invites...... I've never sent any in with my DC, always managed them myself with parents. Maybe it was a first time for this mum saying that.

Also super annoying for all the other parents to have their phone going off/loads of notifications for something that isn't a class discussion. Our class are generally very sensible about this sort of thing.

Quite. Also not sure how the school can police parents chatting in the playground and then passing pieces of paper out between them either. Teachers are usually busy at the start/end of the day either welcoming children in or dismissing them to the correct adult, they aren't suddenly going to stop that to tell Sophie's mum she isn't allowed to pass on a piece of paper to another parent in case it's a party invite.
Schools might ask parents not to do things but from experience whether parents follow this advice is an entirely different matter.

I think sometimes children are given paper invitations and told to hand out. Inevitably with little ones the teachers/TAs end up helping with this, either cos the kids can’t read the names or cos they need to go in book bags. Fair enough to say they’re not doing this if it will cause upset when some children don’t get one and teachers are left dealing with the upset as parents aren’t there.

Obviously they can’t prevent parents giving out invitations at pick up, though they can request what they like.

This sounds the height of bad manners and it's hard to believe that so many are normalising it. It is yet another sign of our increasingly narcissistic society.

No I wouldn’t it’s still digital clutter. If someone is holding a party the people not invited just don’t have to see it, great.

Sure you can do what you have been requested not to do but you might get to be known as one of those parents. This may not bother you. Handing them out outside the school gates would be better.
Our local school polices a lot of things outside the school. The School newsletter regularly tells parents off for bad parking outside the school.

Using the Whatsapp group for whole class parties is fine, but it is not normal if you are only inviting select childen !

1. it is easy to cause confusion and;
2. nobody wants their phone constantly pinging with messages on a group chat that is not relevant to them.

The most she should have said is "can such and such a child's parent private message me please" it's not great etiquette to post on the full group about something that only a few are involved with, IF it's outside of school.