Class party for few discussed on class watsapp

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DC1 is in yr1. On the class watsapp group a mum is asking can thoose that got individual invites from 5 year old child in paper form please reply as she isn't sure the ones her child picked has received them.
Cue a lot of confusion and some replies.
Then mum comes on to say it is only for x, y, z etc. Please confirm food.
Am I the only sane person that thinks this should have been a private message, not for the class watsapp. Honestly I think its the height of crassness. Maybe just me.
Poor mums have messaged back thinking their child is invited and now appears they are not. Its awkward as hell.

Not everyone pays attention to who's who in group chats. We frequently get the is 'Fred's parent is this group?'. It's always obvious it's going to be for a birthday invite.

I’d find it hurtful. I’ve had it done a few times though as DS has never been invited to any party before. I’m suspecting he’s autistic but it’s quite upsetting for the class chat on a Sunday afternoon to be suddenly pinging with “Hope Fred enjoyed the party. Sarah had a great time. Thanks for inviting her” and then you realise that the whole class went somewhere and you knew nothing about it.

I agree it’s odd and I wouldn’t ever do it. Maybe she thinks that because it’s parents, not children, on the group that it’s less of an issue?

I tried a few times. They were always busy or wouldn’t confirm attendance

You're not wrong OP it's cruel, tacky and trashy. When I was at school my mum handed the invitation to my friends' mums at the school gate. Why can't people just do something straightforward and normal as that? All this whatsapp bullshit just complicates something that doesn't even need whatsapp or whatever it is, for.

Either that or “Fred” has been horrible to their child!

Yes OP that's weird and a bit rude. I would think the same as you and wouldn't dream of posting on the class WhatsApp if not everyone is invited.

Lucky escape though, "nuggets"🤢

This is just not worth getting hissy about.

Yes it is poor behaviour and lazy. She could have easily made seperate group

Of course it’s poor behaviour and shows a lack of social skills, intelligence or sensitivity. There are foolish people in every social situation.

And it will ‘sting’ the mums of the children you don’t invite. Just life.

We can all invite whoever we like but it's clearly bad manners to send something like that on a group in which not everyone was invited. It's so weird that people don't realise this and do it a different way.

I think this is bad and very lazy of the parent. Our local school only allows whole class invites to be given out at school. Surely the same should apply to the class WhatsApp.

How can a school dictate how you hold a party?

It can control what is given out on school property/ in school time.

Same for ours. No paper invites to be handed out unless the whole class is invited.

I think she has made a social faux pas here.

Social faux pas but not one I'd care about. Surely no adult is going to get their knickers in a twist over not being invited to a 5yo birthday party? And let's remember, it's only adults in the whatsapp.

It’s easy to set up a separate group, she should have done that.

Personally i’d have had sent a private what’s app.

Yes except I’m not declaring it in a group chat. I couldn’t care less if my DC is invited, but it’s terrible manners to announce the party in a forum where you know not all the kids are being invited.

Can't they be handed out at outside the school gates/not right on the property?

Yes, it is poor form. Recognizing bad manners doesn’t require you to toughen up, it’s not like you were complaining about not getting an invite,

It wouldn't cross my mind to have an issue, I really don't get the party drama. If a child of mine is not invited the party details are not relevant to me so I just dont care

There is more to life than children's parties