AIBU to think you should get dressed for a medical appointment

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Following on from the PJs on a plane post earlier today, curious to hear the consensus on this.

I had the misfortune of winding up in A&E on New Year's Day and was amazed by the number of people in grubby nightwear, dressing gowns, and slippers in the waiting room. There was an enormous amount of groaning, coughing, sniffing and sneezing going on by most of the wearers, so I guess there was a lot of the winter lurgy going on.

And last week, whilst at my GP practice (small village surgery where nobody would live more than a few minutes away), there was a woman in the waiting room wearing a dressing gown and Ugg boots, accessorised with a washing-up bowl on her knee. She did have some make-up on though, so a point was added for effort.

It's just yeuch, isn't it? If you're well enough to drag yourself to a doctor or hospital, you're well enough to at least throw some clothes on.

And I know it's none of my business and it doesn't matter one jot to me really, but I don't have to like it!

I am very much a “don’t step foot out the house in nightwear” type person 99% of the time.

however I still get there are times when you simply aren’t well enough to be able to.

Ah mate, don't pretend like going to a GP dressed in see-through festival gear (in front of kids) is normal. It isn't. Just wear normal clothes for frigg sake. Its really not hard.

Absolutely. What is wrong with you op? You can't have been that ill if you spent your time in a&e mentally dress coding the other patients.

I can still remember being taken to A&E by taxi in the middle of the night, and my mum changing me out of my PJs into day clothes in the taxi.

WHY? FGS why? She was taking me to hospital because I was puking and had a temperature and severe back pain. She was worried about meningitis and about looking bad for the doctor. I was not. I was too sick to care and I just wanted her to let me be so that I could get the breeze from the window.

I’m more likely to judge someone for going to the supermarket in PJs, dressing gown and slippers than I am for them going to get medical care dressed like that.

Please let’s not go down this route. My Mum was still putting her make up on the day she died from bowel cancer.

When did the Victorian strangulation by dress code superciliousness get resurrected?

Has the 'Emergency' got part of A&E passed you by? I've been in A&E covered in vomit after being blue lighted there.

What sort of sociopath cares what people in the emergency room.are wearing? They aren't there for fun.

Maybe she had put it on earlier and then went unwell?
it’s not like the makeup just falls off your face when you need a&e

What do you suggest she does?

Let me guess, boomer?! The generation where how you look to others (both physically & otherwise) is of THE highest priority - above EVERYTHING else

A&E is literally accident & emergency- in either of those scenario’s I can’t imagine your clothing is even the slightest concern.

I’d probably argue that actually anyone well enough to be thinking properly about their clothes and getting changed doesn’t need to be in A&E!

Well, if you capable of getting dressed and getting makeup on your not really needing a&e are you?

I went to a& e in my pyjamas and a dry robe because I was so desperately ill with diverticulitis that i couldn't bear for anything to touch me, but next time I'll get dressed and put my make up on for you.

I refuse to believe someone who is throwing up in a bowl and in a dressing gown had makeup on. What makeup do you claim she had on out of interest?

Not always, I went to the maternity a&e by my own accord 2 years ago, not by ambulance. I was in an awful state because I was almost full term with twins and had no movement but bad cramps. could barely pull my clothes on due how big I was and overwhelmed. I honestly looked a mess going in.

Anyway I'm sure people may have thought the same of me in the triage room. I sat there waiting, tears flowing, had such a bad feeling.

Unfortunately the scan showed my first twin had died, stillborn that night and his brother was in the nicu for 3 days but he died as well in our arms. Not being brought in my ambulance doesnt mean you arent panicking or that your head is straight unfortunately. God only knows what I was wearing. Dh literally had to pull whatever fit and was comfortable on me. We were so panicked

I'm so sorry. Yes I remember an elderly neighbour who had visited another elderly neighbour in a care home. "She wasn't herself. She hadn't put her rouge on"

I‘ve been to a&e four times in an ambulance with my son at 2/3/4 am. He couldn’t breathe but after oxygen and adrenaline was back to normal, but we had to see the doctor 4 hours later for a second check because of the adrenaline. So yes, we probably looked like we wouldn’t have had to be there in pyjamas.

Let’s drag people unwell enough they need to attend A&E. Not everyone is in A&E because they hurt themselves in rugby or tripped. Some people are really unwell but have to go through A&E to get admitted. Had to sit with a family member in this exact situation and guess what they were in their PJs too unwell to get dressed up to your standard OP and I wasn’t looking around A&E judging people in pyjamas.

give your head a wobble OP

Of course I don't mean if you've arrived by ambulance or gone straight into Resus, for goodness sake. I mean the sniffling, sneezing ones who have taken themselves to the OOH doctors/A&E.

Both my parents were taken in on blue lights in the middle of the night during their lifetimes, and, of course, they had nightwear on. This isn't what I meant at all.

I absolutely agree OP, I wouldn't go to a&e in anything less than taffeta. Standards are so low these days.

Why? I have makeup on now as I’m home from work and a dressing gown
if I suddenly started throwing up blood then I could be in the same position, my makeup is still on

This, and as my post above I was dressed, so ashamed of how awful I looked due to constant vomiting that I put make up on before I vomited all over myself. It’s 2 years ago now but thinking how badly people would have been thinking about me, especially with the “it’s just morning sickness” attitude from so many, it’s really quite upsetting .
@Pepperedpickles your mum was doing what made her her, fuck this judgy shite! 💐

you’re so right OP.
Here’s a picture of me on the way to A&E while I was in excruciating pain. I mean imagine if the doctor thought I was a slob - that would have been the worst thing about that trip. Being barely able to stand, breath and stay conscious is no excuse to not look your best

agist, Rude and untrue.

This.

My darling husband had his stroke at 7.30 am on a Saturday morning when we were having a lie in.