AIBU to think you should get dressed for a medical appointment

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Following on from the PJs on a plane post earlier today, curious to hear the consensus on this.

I had the misfortune of winding up in A&E on New Year's Day and was amazed by the number of people in grubby nightwear, dressing gowns, and slippers in the waiting room. There was an enormous amount of groaning, coughing, sniffing and sneezing going on by most of the wearers, so I guess there was a lot of the winter lurgy going on.

And last week, whilst at my GP practice (small village surgery where nobody would live more than a few minutes away), there was a woman in the waiting room wearing a dressing gown and Ugg boots, accessorised with a washing-up bowl on her knee. She did have some make-up on though, so a point was added for effort.

It's just yeuch, isn't it? If you're well enough to drag yourself to a doctor or hospital, you're well enough to at least throw some clothes on.

And I know it's none of my business and it doesn't matter one jot to me really, but I don't have to like it!

My DH once went to A&E in a dressing gown. He was so ill he could barely make it to the car so getting dressed was too much. He was in A&E because it was an emergency, and he went as he was.

Judgmental shrew

You are aware that if you get taken by ambulance if there’s no space they wheel you into the waiting room? I’ve seen lots of people brought in by ambulance crew, and it may well have been last nights makeup before she had chance to remove it and started throwing up, I’d never go out in pjs but I don’t judge others who do as I don’t know how ill they are or if it’s the only comfy clothes they can stand to wear if say they’re suffering inflammation.

Gosh! You diagnosed everyone faster than the NHS does! Ever considered becoming a doctor and working for the NHS? You'd make such a compassionate care giver. Bless your heart.

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I've worn PJ's to the GP, and A&E. I did have a cold, but I also had something much worse going on which was so cripplingly painful, I wanted to curl up in a ball and die. I didn't want to be sat in the waiting room. I wanted to be somewhere comfy- Especially when I had septicemia spreading up and between my legs and over my bottom. Anything which touched me skin wanted to make me scream, but I was in a public area, so I sat in what I could tolerably wear and cried silently.

Next time, I'll suffer a bit more so not to damage your delicate eyes.

Also, if you were that well enough to dress and cast judgement...pot, kettle, black.

I don’t think they would appreciate you turning up nude 🫣

I was ready to tell you my "A&E Pyjamas" tale of woe until I saw this and gave my head a wobble.

You haven't said anything awful, so please don't worry about it. I hope you are feeling well today.

You know people like hyacinth bouquet and Margot Leadbetter are comedic tropes for a reason?
nobody likes them in real life

I wear nothing in bed,um what should I attend medical appoints wearing?

Whatever you’re able to dress in at the time, you won’t need to undress and redress clearly!

Maybe a dressing gown?

Some quite nasty vibes and viciousness on this post. Horrible

I was in Sainsbury’s the other day. There was a girl wearing short pyjamas with a short dressing gown over. Crocs on and hair in curlers.. just get dressed!! For one thing she must have been bloody freezing 😆

Who sleeps in curlers in the 21st century? Makes me wonder whether this was a deliberate ‘look’.

Most of us, when kids are ill, just pop them in the car pjs, dressing gown and slippers. if you are so ill you need a sick bowl aka washing up bowl, then i would not give a toss about getting me best dress and slap on.
same as if you had a broken leg or arm would you
a rather get to casualty asap
b bend the afore mentioned limb in to clean clothes

I worked in a large, and you'll gather by it's name, Central Outpatients Department it served a huge huge area, the older generations came immaculately dressed (what used to be referred to as their Sunday best) but some of the younger ones would turn up looking like they'd just rolled out of bed and they were the one's who demanded I respect them!!!!. I do think we should dress for the occasion/event we attend and, for me, it's a matter of self respect

Personally, I would make the effort to look more presentable than if I had just fallen out of bed. I guess it depends on precisely how ill you are and your own standards.

That's insane 😂

I was. I was left on a gurney in A&E for 12 hours during a heart attack. My BP was over 200 (which they knew) so don't make assumptions.

A&E in some hospitals is a fucking war zone. It wasn't even a weekend.

Sometimes the reason you’re there IS because you’ve fallen out of bed.

No I don't think your being unreasonable at all. If she took the time to apply make-up then she had her priorities wrong. It's simple common sense that you don't go out undressed!

Just supposing the vomiting started after she applied her make up…….. I mean imagine that!

Or she was getting ready for bed, just about to take her make up off when she had her medical incident and had to leave for hospital.

you really think someone thought oh, I am seriously unwell, must take half an hour put my make up on so I look presentable, but 10 minutes to throw some clothes on might affect my recovery.

I miscarried at home and was in agony, my then teenage child phoned the Healthcentre and said "My mum is lying on the bed screaming" ( it was agony) and they were told to tell me to get dressed and walk to the surgery, god knows how I managed to but I did it with my poor child propping me up. GP called an ambulance and when I got to hospital they could nor believe that i had been told to walk to the surgery. I won't go into the potentially triggering details of what happened at the hospital other than to say was quite unwell and was kept in for a couple of days, but hey, I got myself up and dressed to get to the GP!

Tesco in PJs? Pure laziness. Very slovenly behaviour.

I do always try and get dressed.

Even when it's an emergency appointment and my surgery is literally across the road.

Also due to the fact that in the past I have 100% been wrongly judged based on my apparence...

...as an expample of that there was one emergency appointment I had after speaking to the crisis team the night before who insisted I book a same day appointment i order I have sleeping Ed's I had previously been prescribed in cross reissued.

Except I was extremely mentally unwell and basically threw joggers and a jumper I've rmy pjs with no make up an went to the appointment. Where the GP proceeded to, in the presence of a trainee tell me there was no communication from CMHT, and that they would prescribe it this ONE time and NEVER again. They basically assumed I was drug seeking (...except for the fact the appointment and referral from chnt are clearly on my medical records). Subsequently I went to other appointments and made the effort with getting dressed and make up-and low and behold a completely different attitude 🤔🤦🏻‍♀️😬

So although I don't think on the whole it SHOULD make a difference it very much does.

No need to apologise, I think your point was well made and understood