International women’s day. Sick day or go in?

[Sickorno]

I want to start by saying that I don’t have strong feelings towards trans people.

I believe if you were born a woman then you will always be a woman and vice versa.
I believe in women’s only spaces.

But apart from that I’m not really bothered.
If you want to wear a dress and grow your hair long then crack on.

However I have been struggling the past few days with my workplace.

Firstly, it started with asking for donations of women’s clothing and make up for the trans residents.
This wound me up but I just said I had nothing to donate.

But we were told on Friday that on Monday there will be a celebration of international women’s day where the trans women residents will receive a party and gift packages.
The male residents and female staff won’t get the same and therefore won’t be celebrated.

I have been wound up all weekend and I genuinely don’t want to go in tomorrow.

Am I going mad or does this seem so unfair?

My AIBU - should I go sick tomorrow?

YABU - no don’t call in sick, go and do your job.
YANBU - yes call in sick so you don’t have to deal with it.

Er, doesn't the recent Supreme Court ruling give you some protection if you object to this?

I don't have any particular problem with trans allyship and am fairly chilled about the trans issue in general but celebrating IWD in a prison full of men (some of whom have presumably committed crimes against women) but without recognising women does seem egregious.

I hate taking sick days even when I’m genuinely poorly.

And yes it often does affect my other colleagues when someone is off poorly and so I don’t want to cause any additional work or stress if I can help it.

I too am very chilled about the trans issues which is why I felt so conflicted.

If this was a celebration of black history or something then would I be as offended.
I don’t know if it was just more irritating that I’m a woman perhaps.
I guess it’s no different to celebrating black history and then a white person identifying as black, just to get the attention.

I can say with certainty that most, if not all of the trans women in there do not genuinely struggle with gender issues.
They do it to separate themselves from their crime so they don’t take any accountability for it and because it makes them feel special and they get extra attention and special treatment.

We are meant to treat everyone equally in prison, regardless of their crimes and I genuinely think I do this but this is creating a divide and rewarding these men for pretending they’re women.
Its absolute madness.

I would have no idea about the Supreme Court ruling, I’ve never dealt with anything like this.

My colleague was pulled in for basically not giving a trans prisoner special treatment and it resulted in her having to use most of her break time to do this prisoners request.
Baring in mind this prisoner had only decided they were trans literally days beforehand.

There have been multiple reports made because staff haven’t used the correct pronouns (they said he instead of they/them or she/her) and sometimes the paperwork has come from the courts/other prisons and so the pronouns are their old ones and they still complain.

I mentioned that surely all prisons should just stick to he/him for everyone and then there can be no complaints made and I was told to be careful voicing those views.

Why? She's not sick.

Your 95% comment doesn’t surprise me. Ministry of Justice statistics show that trans-identifying male prisoners are more likely than other male prisoners to have been convicted of sex offences, usually against women and children.

What stuns me is why anyone wants to celebrate these vile predators, who have ruined the lives of so many women and children. It’s spitting in the face of their victims. And of course it’s pissing on the idea of celebrating real human women. Or targets, as they are in these men’s eyes.

I am glad there are statistics to back it up.

I am not anti-trans but there is a twisted element of why these particular men do it and I don’t understand why it’s being acknowledged, let alone actually celebrated.

And not only is it part of a twisted mindset but it also makes them untouchable and given special treatment.
If they don’t like something then they play the victim.

I am not saying any crime is good but you have men who have been coerced or threatened into becoming drug runners or money laundering who are decent men underneath and they just need a bit of help. These are having to share cramped cells, shared showers, living on the dangerous wings and treated like criminals.

Whereas the men who commit the most heinous crimes and pretend to be women get given their own cell, not made to share showers, given extra spends, allowed to wear their own clothes on visits and wear clothes/accessories that are usually forbidden and allowed to have extra packages.

They are laughing because they’re being treated like something special, whilst reporting any female staff member who they think aren’t treating them special enough.